Thursday, January 05, 2006

Morning Edition - 1/5/06

DC Going Dry?
Washington, D.C., a town that still allows dancers to strip nude (that is, without a thong, jock-strap or other concealing undergarment) may be seeing the last of its gay male strip clubs shutdown. It appears the city is in the works to build a new stadium right in the southeast zone that houses these gay establishments. Wet, Velvet Nation, The Edge and Follies, among others, may soon be clubs of the past. Under current zoning regulations establishments that feature nude dancing are restricted to one area of the city and are not allowed to move to another area of the city. D.C. mayor Anthony Williams says he's working to change that law to allow these businesses to relocate. Owners of the building that house both Wet and The Edge nightclub say both businesses are slated to move when their lease ends in September 2006 anyway. The Wet nightclub has one of the hottest black male nude dance clubs with its Chocolate Tuesdays show.

I'm So Happy I Could Kill Myself
Each year over 30,000 folks in the U.S. commit suicide. Most do so as a direct result of depression. An estimated 17 million people suffer from depression each year and most of these never seek help. So you're asking yourself, "What the f*ck does this have to do with me?" Well, chances are you will face a moment in your life where you will suffer depression or you are in the company of someone who is depressed. Depression comes about when a person loses control of their life or emotions and simultaneously encounters a feeling of hopelessness. These feelings begin to narrow an individual's perception so that the negatives in their life are intensified, while the positive aspects of their life are diminished or discounted. Recognizing these feelings and combating them with positive thoughts, exercise, relaxation and establishing hope will help folks come out of a depressive state. All said, it's not a bad idea to seek help and honestly discuss your feelings with a professional. Ultimately, suicide is a permanent solution to a likely temporary problem.

Damp Down Under
Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) is a condition that primarily affects women in their child-bearing years. The main clue that you may have BV is a fishy odor sometimes accompanied by a clear, gray or yellowish discharge. Although some women report having no symptoms of the condition, left untreated BV can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease, ectopic pregnancy (where a fetus grows outside the uterus and in a fallopian tube) and even increase a woman's chances of catching HIV. Although BV can sometimes clear-up on its own, it should be treated with antibiotics such as Metronidazole or Clindamycin. Male partners of women who suffer BV are not usually treated unless the infected woman has a drug-resistant case of BV.

Read The Signs
Our Capricorns are celebrating their birthdays this month, so let's make sure they know what the stars say about them and hope this information proves useful… hey, you never know. First, rumor has it that your best star-sign match is a Scorpio. Although rumor also has it that you lack imagination, so you may find shacking-up with say, a Sagittarius (your worst match) your way to show your strong determined side. Know your weaknesses Capis… yours are status symbols. The wicked witch in Oz may have used Poppies to make Dorothy and her friends sleep, but insiders say the Poppy is your flower. Finally, you might not want to dangle these from your feet while swimming, but you should know that lead - yes lead! - is your designated metal.

On Blast
It is said that prejudice is learned…that said, what prejudice do you now hold that you wish to overcome? Example: You have a strong negative reaction to seeing interracial couples

Keep passin' the open windows....

12 comments:

Anonymous said...

Coco Rico aka Tundo’,
Thanks for making my 28th birthday a blast! You are the best son! And as always you are a HOOT! You just get it, thanx,

Peace! J’Moo

~Ms.Kahlua~ said...

I, too, struggle w/my distaste for the Middle Eastern/Muslim culture based on their treatment of women. Until that changes, I doubt my opinion will either...~~~Kahlua~~~

Anonymous said...

I struggle with black men being "No Good." I am a black female but am turned off by black men because of past experiences. I know I should not judge "All" because of a "Few" but that is a struggle I deal with everyday. I am the mother of black children (black baby daddy's) and do not like my children playing with or associating with black children in fear that a black male may corrupt their minds with rap music, baggy pants, ebonics/slang, white tee's or Air Force Ones.

Unknown said...

Okay...the Anonymous posting at the end with the "black men" comments made my day... especially the mention of the ebonics and air force ones.... thank you... I needed to smile, laugh and tear-up...

LOL

Unknown said...

For the record Anonymous... I struggle with black men being "No good" as well... but darn-it, I can't deal with anything BUT black men - go figure... they're my down-fall and my preference. LOL That said, assuming your comment is a serious one, let me say that your children are losing the ability to see themselves in their friends and will always be perceived as "black men" only now they'll have less resources and reference points to adequately deal with the conflicts black men face on a daily basis.

Anonymous said...

Cocoa Rican...regarding your comment, my children's fathers/families are very active in their lives so they do get to see how black men and women deal with society as well as conflicts as an African American. I just don't want them to be stereo-typed more than they already will be. Even though I don't want them to associate with other black children, I will be damned if they date any other race. I have a bigger struggle with mixed couples/marriages.

Unknown said...

First Anonymous, thank you for your candor. I think many times we're afraid to voice our opinion, but it doesn't mean hiding them in any way changes them. Ultimately, you'll raise your children how you see fit. Cosigning on Caspar's remarks, having a diverse group of friends and a wealth of experiences and interactions - especially with children of their own race - will only serve to help your children cope with the challenges that will face them. I don't know how much positive influence a crippled relationship and a mother who resents their black father and black men in general serves to make your children better equipped black men/women. As family to Caspar (who by the way, is white) and her children (my nephews and niece) who are half-black, I have to say that she has taken all that is good from both cultures and is doing a fine job at raising two men and a woman who will be seen as black by many. My hat goes off to you Cas for taking on a task you had no point of reference to for and doing such a fine job. We all have so much to learn, hopefully Anonymous, you can take some of the constructive criticism and think some of your decisions through going forward. Best of luck. ;)

Unknown said...

FR,
I call Dominicans our latino black brothas. I won't even try to touch the subject of the murder of your brother - that would be insensitive. ...but for the Dominican men that I've had experiences with in the last two years, my pants... I mean, my hat goes off to you. LOL

Anonymous said...

This was a wonderful question for the day. I have checked back three times to see other people's responses/comments.

Toni

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much Caspar for your comments and concerns. You are right, I was DEEPLY hurt by a black man but shouldn't stereo-type all. All of the comments posted today really have me thinking. I should raise my children to make their own decisions which they will utimately do in the end. Thanks so much for listening Fam. I really needed to get that off my chest!

Anonymous said...

Sorry Cocoa for taking over today's blog but I really needed to get that off my chest and felt this was a good time to do so. Thanks for having these discussions. They are very helpful!

Unknown said...

Comin' from the devil-raisin' single momma Tammy, that says a lot. If it wasn't that I wanted to coach her (now) young men, I'd say more... LOL
BTW, when are you coming to see me? Please tell Michael he's always welcome to come up to NYC for a spell. ...you know me, always tryin' to help out with my black brothas. :)