Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Morning Edition - 10/3/06

Love Is Stronger Than Pride
By Sade

I won't pretend that I intend to stop living
I won't pretend I'm good at forgiving
But I can't hate you
Although I have tried
Mmmmm

I still really really love you
Love is stronger than pride
I still really really love you
Mmmmm

I won't pretend that I intend to stop living
I won't pretend I'm good at forgiving
But I can't hate you
Although I have tried
Mmmmm

I still really really love you
Love is stronger than pride
I still really really love you
Mm mm mm mm mm

Sitting here wasting my time
Would be like
Waiting for the sun to rise

It's all too clear things come and go
Sitting here waiting for you
Would be like waiting for winter

It's gonna be cold
There may even
Be snow

I still really really love you
Love is stronger than pride
I still really really love you
Love is stronger
I still really really love you
Love is stronger than pride

Living Your Truth
I was watching Oprah last night – yes, I watch Oprah sometimes – and the show involved individuals (and couples) who had accepted that they were gay and decided to be true to themselves and “live their truth.” It would appear that this show would have nothing to do with me since I’ve known I was gay virtually all my life and have been comfortable with me – always. So what line from the program captured my attention and had tears streaming down my face? It was a simple line… it always is. The line was, “Live your truth because life is too short.” The amazing thing is that I struggle to know (at 37!) what my truth is. Physically, I’m comfortable in my skin since I took control of maintaining a fit physique, but my inners are a flabby mess. I’m not connecting emotionally with my peers and I’m feeling an awkward sense of disconnect with my romantic partners. Today, I have to agree to face my fears, stop being a control freak and live my truth.

On Blast
We’ve all been there before….you come to a crossroad in your life when you have to decide. Is love really stronger than pride? Can you overcome some of those relationship woes, pitfalls and indiscretions to have love survive or does your pride prevent you from accepting what is? Is love really stronger than pride?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Love is stronger than pride! I recently realized that, I have to submit. I have always had a problem with submission and because of this; I have waited until my “later years” to finally marry. I love my husband with all my heart but as a black woman who grew up in the struggle, I have the attitude and the sharp tongue.

I give up. Rather than pride myself on being a “strong black woman,” I’m going to submit myself, my attitude and my strong personality. My pride will be touched but I love him so much. I want to prove my love is real without any strongholds or attitudes. I have decided to lay down my pride and let my love overtake all else.

Anonymous said...

LOL, Talk about pull me out if I'm the anonomus you're talking to. I see you, and I say for me, love seems to be a day to day for me, almost moment to moment for some. I loved in action for 9 years, and once my boundry was crossed, I had no problem giving my pride the spotlight. But I have to say, it couldn't have been love, cause I didn't even think twice. It was like I was waiting for him to f up. DOn't get me wrong I cried my (#*&$ off cause I couldn't believe I had to start over. I thought my settelment was the way it was going to be. But choosing between pride and love, I have to say I've never been there and 4 years later of watching this show, I'm afraid that's a decision I may never be faced with to make. Sound familiar anyone? AVP

Unknown said...

First off, today’s On Blast came from my wake-up call this morning. My stereo kicked-on to Sade belting away to Love is Stronger than Pride. I lay there another 10 minutes just thinking about that…. Reviewing…has my love been stronger than my pride? I’d have to say that in instances when I’ve been completely immersed in love, my love has been stronger… although my pride fought it tooth-and-nail. Unfortunately, there have been only two times in my entire life when I’ve been in love and one of those times I was too young to have any sense. That said, I’m more likely to have my pride win out. A good example is my best friend of over 20 years is on a time-out until he finds his mind and apologizes for being a complete azz! If that doesn’t happen, I suspect the relationship will not mend… my pride is firmly planted, I feel no regret. …and before you go there, don’t get yourself cut-off too.

…and back to that warm fuzzy place…

Dayne Avery said...

Wow love the lyrics though ive never been a sade fan. But its true, love is stronger than pride and my pride is hella strong.

Anonymous said...

That is my favorite Sade song and I sing it at karaoke because I do believe Love is Stronger than Pride. When I grew up and realized that I started singing it. If you truly love someone, and are real with yourself - if you can be - Love proven to be Stronger than Pride.

Thank you Hector...I just love that song.

Redhotmamagirl

Anonymous said...

No matter how old you get,you never got it pack down when it came to relationships, I am definetly not an expert.

I am a beautiful, intelligent and an independent woman and always on top of my game. At least until I met this Egyptian handsome papi than made me fall head over heals for him and rock my world in every sence of the word.
Emotianlly I am still trying to cope
Mentally he runs through my mind so much I'm exhausted
Phisically I can't get enough of him.

It gets better...
My egyptian Papi is Muslim, I'm not! do I plan to convirt to one? I've entertained the thought. Obviously we've been on and off for some time. The times we are together is because my love for him is a trillion times stronger than my pride.
I always went and go to him something I never do, it's against my rules. I am the one that always lookes for him and those few times when I have been upset and he came looking for me, I haven't been able to say "no"
PAIN AND PLEASURE, WHAT A B&*^%!!
I melt with just one touch, I get butterflies in my stomach when I feel his eyes layed upon me. 27yrs old feeling like a 17yr old high school girl in love for the 1st time.

I miss him undescribably and I keep looking for him even thought deep in my heart I wish I could just walk away,I can't!!!
No matter what he does, my love for him is stronger than anything I've ever felt before. Stronger than an evil womans pride.

Is love stronger than pride?
I think...

Unknown said...

Wow Anonymous 8:32... I am really there with you. I've only felt the type of love you describe once in my lifetime... it's intense, and all-consuming. You want to run, leave, fight...but ultimately, you're disarmed by your feelings for the person. Here's the kicker, I'm beginning to think that it doesn't necessarily go away.. the feeling sometimes mutates into something more manageable... or as I like to think, something you can control enough to keep your self respect. I'm no longer with the person and make every effort to keep our present relationship in the right context. Which only served to give me my answer for today... for me, pride is stronger than love. Fortunately, Sade realized her version was much more heartfelt.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 8:32am
The Love of your life is a TERRORIST. He is playing mind games with you so you can blow up buildings together.
Get out while you can girl!
Run.