tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post111704333119920034..comments2023-10-17T08:48:04.114-04:00Comments on Not Shady, Just Fierce: Afternoon Edition - 5/25/05Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117057995899856112005-05-25T17:53:00.000-04:002005-05-25T17:53:00.000-04:00Never that... I'm not offended by today's topic or...Never that... I'm not offended by today's topic or the turn it took. I think it's great for folks to speak openly about anything - Period. I did not initially mention anything regarding religion and infidelity, outside of saying that "what goes around comes around" It's the circle of life concept. LLL, never feel you can't ask or speak on anything free. Don't worry about the Cocoa Rican.. he's a BIG boy who can take good care of himself. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117056670085498882005-05-25T17:31:00.000-04:002005-05-25T17:31:00.000-04:00Okay folks, here's the scoop... today's topic is, ...Okay folks, here's the scoop... today's topic is, being the other woman/man - hence, infidelity. How we morphed and eased on over to religion, homosexuality and hell-fire is beyond me. If these are also issues folks would like to discuss, please be sure to include your question and ask that it be addressed On Blast. Thank you all for participating today.. hope you got something out of it... much love... Keep passin' the open windows...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117055421210364862005-05-25T17:10:00.000-04:002005-05-25T17:10:00.000-04:00Caspar... the "religion" issue arose later in the ...Caspar... the "religion" issue arose later in the segment. In today's topic "religion" had NOTHING to do with anything. As for Karma.. it was another way for me to express that what goes around comes around. It does... like Wendy Williams says, "It is what it is."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117054984094437562005-05-25T17:03:00.000-04:002005-05-25T17:03:00.000-04:00TO Lady Long Legs:That was very offensive and some...TO Lady Long Legs:<BR/><BR/>That was very offensive and somewhat of a "personal attack" to Cocoa Rican! I dislike when people have negative views on homosexuality!! It's NOT THEIR FAULT!! JESUSSS CHRIST!!!!!! Anyway Lady Long legs!! It seems to me that you have been the "OTHER WOMAN" for a very long time! It's a shameful act and U SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF URSELF!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117054563395106422005-05-25T16:56:00.000-04:002005-05-25T16:56:00.000-04:00Dear LLL, I won't rip you a new asshole, since it ...Dear LLL, <BR/>I won't rip you a new asshole, since it appears you are having no problems spewing shit from the existing holes. That said, let me say this LOUD and CLEAR.<BR/>I was raised Christian and believe in the Lord Jesus Christ. I believe and accept the word as it is written and do not change any portion of it, in any way, to acommodate my lifestyle or orientation. Personally I believe homosexual acts (having sex with someone of the same gender) is a sin. That said, I have chosen to be true to my heart (especially since being gay is not something I've chosen, but something I am)and accept the reality that my choice to have sex with men will lead me to burn in hell. This is true, mainly because I do not repent for this sin and have left it to God to change things at his will. Also, I risk the obvious consequences of a gay lifestyle - ridicule, lack of offspring and inclusion in the highest risk group for HIV ever! For the record, I'm not offended and am happy to take on any other comments/questions regarding issues you may be completely in the dark about. SIDEBAR: My belief as a gay man is not shared by MOST of my gay friends and I also accept that. Enough said...<BR/>:::: can you believe this little bitch :) ::::::Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117053547926125962005-05-25T16:39:00.000-04:002005-05-25T16:39:00.000-04:00Cheating IS very traumatic to the innocent party! ...Cheating IS very traumatic to the innocent party! I'd like to share my experience: <BR/><BR/>A few years ago I fell head over heels in LOVE with a divorced man. He was divorced for 3 years and had 2 children. For me it was a love at first sight. After dating for a few years, we both decide to take the relationship to the next level {living together}. He buys a house {I picked it}, we pack our belongings and "live happily every after". Within 2 months of living together, I noticed a change in his behavior. He became distant and cold. To make a long story short, he starts having an affair with his "ex wife". After months of "wondering WHO, WHY, what did I DO", he finally confessed that he wants to get back together with his family! I was devastated! Not only did I lose the love of my life, but I had to relocate. Anyway, after that news - i left the house, moved back to with my parents, found an apt and I've been alone since!! It has been over 3 years since this incident happened to me and I still remember it as if it happened yesterday. So betraying/cheating can devastate an innocent soul. Be very careful with your actions and always think of the other person! Well try to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117052453375295192005-05-25T16:20:00.000-04:002005-05-25T16:20:00.000-04:00Let me be abundantly clear... God will always forg...Let me be abundantly clear... God will always forgive you for your sins when you repent, but life's Karma has a way of having you take your consequences here on earth. That said, you will NOT burn in hell if you've asked the Lord for forgiveness and I believe raising a child conceived and born out of wedlock is difficult and trying in-and-of-itself. All said, value yourself first. If we're speaking as Christians, the Lord didn't give you a spirit of weakness and mediocrity. Don't cheat and expect the same from your partner. True, you should try to communicate and work out problems, but if you're with a dirty-low-down-HIV-carrying-candidate, ditch him and save yourself, your dignity and your family. Better you leave him and be there for you kids later, then to die by his side of a infectious disease begging the Lord to change him. Well... that's just me. Sometimes, we can't see the forest for the trees!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117051983268702892005-05-25T16:13:00.000-04:002005-05-25T16:13:00.000-04:00Once you have been cheated on, can you ever really...Once you have been cheated on, can you ever really trust that person again?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117051532218261242005-05-25T16:05:00.000-04:002005-05-25T16:05:00.000-04:00Anonymous...how did you find out he was cheating?Anonymous...how did you find out he was cheating?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117050792704432752005-05-25T15:53:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:53:00.000-04:00Anonymous...have you asked him why he cheated? Ha...Anonymous...have you asked him why he cheated? Have you mentioned the possibility of you leaving him, to him? <BR/><BR/>I would agree with you going to counceling alone. Once you are in tune with your own feelings, you may be able to help him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117050445574147322005-05-25T15:47:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:47:00.000-04:00We must ALL repent for ours sins, no matter what t...We must ALL repent for ours sins, no matter what they are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117050412290689162005-05-25T15:46:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:46:00.000-04:00My husband has stopped cheating. I'm the one doin...My husband has stopped cheating. I'm the one doing it now. I have asked him numerous times to go to Christian counseling with me, or counseling period, just recently. He told me that he will not sit and tell his problems to anyone. Also said that no "man" or "woman" can tell him what to do or make suggestions as to what to do for that matter. He thinks that as long as he's not cheating, and taking of home (financially), then everything should be fine.<BR/><BR/>I think I'll go to counseling alone for my own self worth. I must get back my self respect and dignity. As for leaving him, that's a very strong possibility. I know he'll go into shock or perhaps have a coronary. Don't want him to die, but wake him up. Took me a while to learn, but my happiness is more important than anything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117049564989538032005-05-25T15:32:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:32:00.000-04:00LLL...burning in hell has nothing to do with the s...LLL...burning in hell has nothing to do with the sins you commit. It has to do with not repenting and accepting Christ as your savior. God forgives ALL sins. If you have asked Jesus to come into your heart and forgive you for your sins there is no way you are going to hell. God knows that we are not perfect. That is why we have been given the option of repenting. <BR/><BR/>God forgives us everytime we ask for His forgiveness if we truly mean it. I have also had a child out of wedlock. I have asked for God's forgiveness and I know he has forgiven me. Every morning He gives us new mercies and new grace. He is a forgiving God and don't you let nobody tell you that He won't forgive if you just ask. I would also recommend a good Sunday School class. The teacher will be able to answer your questions. Don't you ever stop asking questions about God and your future...ever!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117049260564486362005-05-25T15:27:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:27:00.000-04:00Anonymous with the cheating husband. If you want ...Anonymous with the cheating husband. If you want to make this marriage work, go to Christian counceling. Don't you give up on your husband or your marriage. Have you thought about seperation. Sometimes time and space are the solution. (What God put together let no man OR woman put assunder.) You give your husband to God. <BR/><BR/>I have been cheated on and I know how it hurts but God understands and He will fix it. Keep your marriage, your self and your husband in prayer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117049073249361302005-05-25T15:24:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:24:00.000-04:00Anonymous with the cheating husband. Why didn't y...Anonymous with the cheating husband. Why didn't you just leave Sweetie? Revenge doesn't help the situation. You feel better in the beginning but then the guilt settles in. I have been in that situation and I did the same thing you did. Also, any type of communication with the other man that your husband isn't aware of is cheating. Cheating is anything you wouldn't do in the presence of your mate that you do. I will keep you in my prayers. I have been there and I know your pain!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117048645341348152005-05-25T15:17:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:17:00.000-04:00Hector, I want to thank you for this. One of the ...Hector, I want to thank you for this. One of the subjects really hit home. Even though I didn't post, I have gotten some very valuable information. Keep up the good work!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117048502207335942005-05-25T15:15:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:15:00.000-04:00My husband cheated on me, and I was the last to kn...My husband cheated on me, and I was the last to know. I had never thought of cheating, just wasn't in me do so. Then one day..... Well, we're both married and I feel as guilty as the sin it is. We're very discrete, don't see each other for weeks at a time. However, we hold daily conversations. This works for us. I will stop seeing/conversing him one day. As for now, I feel justified. As for his wife, I hope she never find out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117048300078883192005-05-25T15:11:00.001-04:002005-05-25T15:11:00.001-04:00As for the Anonymous that MUST stick to her man......As for the Anonymous that MUST stick to her man... I'm so sorry for you... really. No sarcasm involved. There's notihng worse than feeling you CAN'T leave that man. Of course, the first step will be for you to realize that it has nothing to do with the money or the kids. It has everything to do with you. That's the saddest part. When you love someone, it almost feels like you'll do anything to keep them. It will take you time, but hopefully you'll recognize that you're giving up the best of your years in the "hope" that something will change and that he won't physically leave you. If you believe you can't leave, he definetely must know this... the biggest horror of all is that you don't see he left you a long time ago. Hmmm... my heart goes out to you. :\Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117047891124345532005-05-25T15:04:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:04:00.000-04:00Oh... LLLL, in answer to your "Why repent if you s...Oh... LLLL, in answer to your "Why repent if you suffer the same consequences" question... here goes... you repent to avoid the flames of hell making BBQ of that cheatin' ASS... plain and simple. You'll make mistakes in life but here's what tends to ease the blow to you and others....Admit your mistake, apologize and explain (1 time), make a concerted effort to never repeat the mistake, understand that the consequences are coming, accept your karma-ass-whopin' and grow... GROW....GROW...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117047600622752402005-05-25T15:00:00.000-04:002005-05-25T15:00:00.000-04:00Okay... let me see if I can rap this up for y'all....Okay... let me see if I can rap this up for y'all...<BR/><BR/>First, LLL...<BR/>Whether you're in a committed relationship or just dating, if you're in an open-style relationship (where ALL parties are completely aware) then the parameter of the relationship have changed and NO it is not infidelity. Bringing us to the ALL important issue of communicating with your partner on what's acceptable to you as a couple. On the issue of repentance... the Lord forgives you when you have have truly repented for your sins (including infidelity). Unfortunately, the laws of life and Karma dictate that the consequence for sin is death - translation: You still MUST pay! For example, the smoker who repents for abusing their body, is forgiven and saved, but ultimately dies of cancer.<BR/>Now... Anonymous... HONEY... come on! You may think you were getting what you wanted and were doing the married man a huge favor, but here's how it works - just as he will pay for not simply coming away from an unsatisfying marriage - you will also suffer terrible consequences for knowingly engaging as a player in a deceitful affair. (No moral high-horses, just the facts...so if you're twat catches fire or rots, you know why). Let me be clear.. I have been both the betrayed and the cheater and have LEARNED that to wipe the slate clean and prevent negative Karma you MUST live, date and love honestly. PERIOD! You won't always be the most beloved and popular person, but I'll be darned if you won't be the most respected and trusted person around. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117047129951879072005-05-25T14:52:00.000-04:002005-05-25T14:52:00.000-04:00Wow!!! I must admit LLL, you picked a good topic....Wow!!! I must admit LLL, you picked a good topic. There have been some interesting posts. <BR/><BR/>LaLaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117046853618552242005-05-25T14:47:00.000-04:002005-05-25T14:47:00.000-04:00Well I am on the other side of the wall. I know m...Well I am on the other side of the wall. I know my husband is cheating but I can't leave him. He is all I have. I need him and so do the kids. Even if it means me sharing him, I have to hold onto my husband.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117046097239809732005-05-25T14:34:00.000-04:002005-05-25T14:34:00.000-04:00YOU SAID A MOUTHFUL COCOA...SOUNDS LIKE YOU'VE BEE...YOU SAID A MOUTHFUL COCOA...SOUNDS LIKE YOU'VE BEEN THERE ON BOTH ENDS....LOL..ANYWAY I WHOLEHEARTEDLY AGREE WITH YOU WHEN YOU SAID " EVERYONE WILL PAY FOR THEIR ACTS OF BETRAYAL AND DISLOYALTY IN THIS LIFETIME" VERY PROPHETIC.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117045937716123522005-05-25T14:32:00.000-04:002005-05-25T14:32:00.000-04:00According to him, she was not meeting his needs bu...According to him, she was not meeting his needs but we all know men are greedy and will lie to get what they want. <BR/><BR/>I wasn't going to mention this part but his other reason for cheating was that he wanted to bring another woman into the picture. He asked his wife and she refused. (Once again, she wasn't meeting his needs.) I didn't mind the other woman joining in. By the way, she was a woman he had an affair with previously and he told me about her. We met and decided to hook up. Neither of us wanted him as our man or husband so we gave him what he wanted and sent him back to his wife. <BR/><BR/>You are right. He would not have been able to handle his wife cheating. I have seen her several times but she had no idea who I was.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1117045396148961782005-05-25T14:23:00.000-04:002005-05-25T14:23:00.000-04:00Oh, so now we have a good samaritan on our hands!!...Oh, so now we have a good samaritan on our hands!!! "I had to save him and drop my drawers to do so." <BR/><BR/>No, he couldn't talk to his wife. He ran to you and got you with the no attention excuse and you believed him. <BR/><BR/>Who's to say that he was meeting all of her needs? He wouldn't be able to handle it if the shoe was on the other foot.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com