tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post116252828602924861..comments2023-10-17T08:48:04.114-04:00Comments on Not Shady, Just Fierce: Morning Edition - 11/3/06Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1162925392868457012006-11-07T13:49:00.000-05:002006-11-07T13:49:00.000-05:00Dear Casper, You don't have to be gay to be oppres...Dear Casper, You don't have to be gay to be oppressed. Think of those who are close to you, those who you love most and see how it has an impact on their lives. Oppression of any kind is the same as gay hatred, race hatred and plain old hatred. Not being able to change the color of your skin, hair, face or sexuality; it all hurts the same. Someone somewhere has hated you just for you being you and it is not expectable. Not in my world it isn't. Being gay and acting feminine behavior are not the same. Most feminine males I know are straight, i.e.; metro-sexual.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1162585084218715442006-11-03T15:18:00.000-05:002006-11-03T15:18:00.000-05:00...and while we're busy fighting among ourselves a......and while we're busy fighting among ourselves a complete stranger shows us the darker side of weakening the "circle" and allowing outsiders in.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1162584279620493392006-11-03T15:04:00.000-05:002006-11-03T15:04:00.000-05:00You are in no position for demands. Respect is ear...You are in no position for demands. Respect is earned my brother. What has the gay community done to embrace society or promote value to society? NONE. So why do you expect to someone to respect a vile lifestyle that will only bring disturbance and torment?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1162583521220948962006-11-03T14:52:00.000-05:002006-11-03T14:52:00.000-05:00Wow Caspar, you’ve never in the past asked me abou...Wow Caspar, you’ve never in the past asked me about ANYTHING gay, so I surmised you knew…but it’s apparently “vent private on public space week” so we’ll let’er rip! BTW – I e-mailed you and called you several times since last night’s debacle and you’ve chosen not to address me privately, so I guess this isn’t about clarification, it’s about the “let’s give outsiders a show!”<BR/>Here goes…<BR/><BR/>PLEASE DEFINE WHAT GAY MEANS. <BR/>Gay means someone is same gender loving. They are attracted to the same sex and basically feel the EXACT feelings you feel for the opposite sex, but for their same sex.<BR/><BR/>Do all gay males HAVE to behave in what most would call a "feminine" manner in order to be accepted by the gay community?<BR/>No, most gay males do not “have to” behave or act effeminately, but some do. Regardless of how they act or are perceived, gay men are as accepting of other gay men as straight women are of other straight women. For example, you have the girly girls (love make-up, etc.) and the more plain-Jane girls…both groups interact and frequently accept each other.<BR/><BR/>Suppose a man behaves in a masculine manner but is gay, loves his partner and everyone knows it - but because he isn't seen in gay bars and gay establishments and snaps his fingers and has a flamboyant way of speaking, does that make him an outkast to the gay population or is he accused of closeting his gayness because he is comfortable with who he is but doesn't feel it is necessary to air his private life?<BR/>No, I don’t believe our rule book mentions making any gay “member” an outcast because he chooses to not partake in our gay festivities and venues. He would, however, become an outcast if he chooses to belittle, degrade or disrespect other gay men because they do frequent these establishments. Funny…gay men don’t like being disrespected even by their own.<BR/><BR/>Why must someone "come out of the closet" to be embraced by the gay community? Maybe they just don't want to come out of their bedroom. <BR/>No one NEEDS to come out of the closet to be embraced by the gay community, but most WANT to, since living a closeted life means you must constantly live in the shadows and deny who you are. Also, being gay is not a life that revolves around our bedroom, just as you being a straight woman is not based on the sole action of you getting screwed by men.<BR/><BR/>What exactly defines gay behavior? How should a gay man behave? Do you all have a set of rules so that you know who is gay and who is not gay? <BR/>Contrary to popular belief, there is no secret gay handshake or nod. There is also no rulebook given at our yearly recruiting drive (I think some folks think we have those). Sometimes there is flirtation between each other (assuming we like each other – and not unlike straight folks) and that’s how we know.<BR/><BR/>In closing, it appears you must have the last word, so I’m sure we’ll see a 12-paragraph rebuttal, but here’s what is most important that you come away with. Friends talk. When you felt that our blog discussion became personal you should have picked up the phone and called me – I mean, as you mention, we’ve been friends for over 30 years – shyt, it’s what I did…. You just refuse to answer my calls. The overwhelming and recurring theme is always – THIS BLOG IS TO VOICE ALL OPINIONS, VIEWPOINTS, THOUGHTS. It isn’t about you – or me for that matter. You’ve never seen me mention the plethora of personal information I know about you to highlight any of my points. It’s not appropriate and it violates our bond as friends. Get over this chip on your shoulder that everyone is calling you a racist, bigot, etc. I have NEVER done it before and don’t think I ever would. It’s all in your mind. Finally, when you finish sulking because your view on this specific topic doesn’t appear to conform with the majority of this blog’s participants, realize that there’s always the BIGGER picture. In the war of words, I would gladly relinquish my position as VICTOR to insure that my position as FRIEND survived. It’s not your viewpoint that has rendered you an “ignoramous” it’s your inability to express it, stick to facts and let it go. You have to run it and possibly our relationship into the ground in the process. I mean damn…Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1162561672725231542006-11-03T08:47:00.000-05:002006-11-03T08:47:00.000-05:00Man . . . maybe if more of the world could respect...Man . . . maybe if more of the world could respect and accpet YOU and others like you then we could really be a truly progressive society.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10529137594128516258noreply@blogger.com