tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post116529292715434136..comments2023-10-17T08:48:04.114-04:00Comments on Not Shady, Just Fierce: Morning Edition - 12/5/06Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1165339529178141452006-12-05T12:25:00.000-05:002006-12-05T12:25:00.000-05:00A few folks really taught me some important lesson...A few folks really taught me some important lessons – even changed my view on things.<BR/><BR/>First: Hot head, good writing skills, work the program (WRONG!)<BR/>Leona taught me that my putting things in writing can stand to hurt me in the future when the intended target has my enraged psychobabble to show around. Regardless of how carefully crafted your letter, memo or cathartic novel is – it never is interpreted the way you intended when it is read years later. Besides, no one will actually know or comprehend the prodding that led-up to your tirade.<BR/><BR/>Second: You do me in, you get cut-off, I never forgive you. (WRONG!)<BR/>Monica taught me that while I may never forget how you may have wronged me, I am as miserable as you are if I don’t forgive you and move on. It takes a lot of mental and emotional energy to hold a grudge and chances are the darn fools who sent you over the edge aren’t worth that kind of investment.<BR/><BR/>Third: Tell folks what you’re thinking and feeling and they’ll do their best to make you happy. (WRONG!)<BR/>Silence is your friend. There is nothing that set’s your opponent, partner, wife or husband on their head more than NOT knowing what you’re thinking – and therefore, what you’re capable of doing. This isn’t to say that you don’t let people know what they can do to make things better, but don’t beat a dead horse or make yourself a whining chatterbox. Say what you need, expect and feel and let it go. When the need arises, quietly reassess the situation and handle it – internally. No need to take a vote when the party you’re dealing with isn’t actually registered to vote… enough said.<BR/><BR/>Finally: There are rules to love and when those rules are broken, all bets are off. (WRONG!)<BR/>My past relationships (and partners) have taught me that there are no rules. Love can withstand anything and yet be dissolved over the most minor infraction. Parameters are set by partners in a trusting, loyal and respectful environment and all preconceived notions of what makes relationships work and what breaks them down is determined by the participants. The outside world – friends, family and jealous onlookers – be damned. LOLAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.com