tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post8952410878929911335..comments2023-10-17T08:48:04.114-04:00Comments on Not Shady, Just Fierce: Educating RitasAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-42805852206765485072008-12-24T16:57:00.000-05:002008-12-24T16:57:00.000-05:00I like the range of your thoughts.It just seems to...I like the range of your thoughts.<BR/>It just seems to me that most people, gay or straight, live their lives more or less unaware that they have the power of choice over an amazing number of circumstances and "givens" in their lives. For most of us, ironically, our sexuality ISN"T one of these choices. Though the bible-thumpers would like to define the debate with this false idea of "choosing the homosexual lifestyle", most of us don't experience our sexual orientation as a choice.<BR/>But, yeah, how you dress & comport yourself, the music you listen to, the people you hang with, the sense of self you have - all these things and many more are constructs that we accept or create, most often unconsciously or unwittingly.<BR/>Your question, then, seems to me to be: do ALL of these different ways of acting in the public sphere really serve us, and really depict the reality of our lives as we live them in all their richness? Or are they somebody ELSE'S idea of who we are that we are either unconsciously accepting, or just as mindlessly acting-out against?<BR/>Keep up the good work!bobbymohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12196571733159250532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-80739883629548022632008-12-24T13:50:00.000-05:002008-12-24T13:50:00.000-05:00Great post man ... I could say a lot of things abo...Great post man ... I could say a lot of things about my younger same-sex loving brothers but will leave it alone. I think people have to find their own way, and eventually I think will come to their senses and realize that who you go to bed with (and what you do there) shouldn't be the focus of who you are a person.houstonmacbrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10744783297181195853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-1943088995068817672008-12-22T11:32:00.000-05:002008-12-22T11:32:00.000-05:00Wait... what did Norris just say?!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA...Wait... what did Norris just say?!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-7372197425054661792008-12-17T17:42:00.000-05:002008-12-17T17:42:00.000-05:00I say to let people live their lives the way that ...I say to let people live their lives the way that they see fit to live their lives. What others eat won't make me shit.That Dude Right Therehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05945947593109685871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-31813838395534863112008-12-17T12:05:00.000-05:002008-12-17T12:05:00.000-05:00And that guy in the Bronx... what was REALLY going...And that guy in the Bronx... what was REALLY going on for him to think he could come at you like that in BROAD DAYLIGHT???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-59721502431109150592008-12-17T12:04:00.000-05:002008-12-17T12:04:00.000-05:00I'm loving the forum this post has created.I think...I'm loving the forum this post has created.<BR/><BR/>I think it's a phase. A stage in their lives where they feel this is who I am. We've all had some sense of "girl" in us at some point. For me, it was hanging with Brian, my "aunt", voguing to Madonna and Shania with bath towels as wigs on our heads. <BR/><BR/>The kids these days are fierce with their "so what" attitudes. But I agree with the notion some of it is media-influenced. I hope they realize the difference between accepting what others have already deemed them and coming to terms with what they really really like regardless of anyone's opinion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-89469881074662923492008-12-15T13:51:00.000-05:002008-12-15T13:51:00.000-05:00I am sorry I misread what you were saying...I have...I am sorry I misread what you were saying...I havent been coherent in dealing with others lately.<BR/><BR/>love you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-12022843654810847532008-12-12T13:18:00.000-05:002008-12-12T13:18:00.000-05:00I've seen some dudes so pretty that men look at t...I've seen some dudes so pretty that men look at them like "huh?"/<BR/><BR/>Maybe they want to entice the down lows? Maybe they just want to feel beautiful and thats how they do it.<BR/><BR/>I dont know if it does a disservice to the gay community by wearing kitten heels, foundation, blush, etc. We dont know what other people feel or think unless they tell us sometimes. <BR/><BR/>Embrace the youngins none the less and let them know, come what may, they are loved and respected.<BR/><BR/>And dont make me kick down your door with an easy pass and money in hand... stop being shady and call me OR ELSE.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-71521122780848424432008-12-10T16:02:00.000-05:002008-12-10T16:02:00.000-05:00I think you got it right and put it quite perfectl...I think you got it right and put it quite perfectly. It may be helpful to remember what being that young is like though. The young are still trying to find their "place" in the world. To see what makes them different and special. As we age a few years, we gain a little self-confidence that makes conformity much less important.<BR/><BR/>But young will always be by-and-large foolish and silly. It's a part of youth and exactly why Coco's words were so right on in helping them get through it.<BR/><BR/>As for femininity/masculinity, I think both damned sexy. I realize that it’s not everyone’s thing (which is ok), but remember that no two people are exactly alike in any way. So there will always be those that are more feminine. An even if all the feminine immediately butched up starting tomorrow, we’d only just move the bar because a year from now the guys that are gender-neutral in disposition will then seem like they are at the extremes. The trick is not to seek or shun the extreme, but to be yourself and allow others to do the same.nudeindchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16444914433151600191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-81874281373530250042008-12-10T01:18:00.000-05:002008-12-10T01:18:00.000-05:00I agree...there are so many people trying to confo...I agree...there are so many people trying to conform to what they think is acceptable instead of just being free to be themselves. The fem guys are doing what they want. They maybe the joke for the mainstream population but certainly shouldn't be for the the gay population. The reason being is that they are the strong ones. The fearless ones not ashamed to be themselves. Not the ones that are dressing a certain way or acting a certain way so that they won't be shunned.D-Placehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11910123960971438134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-5935077552610470732008-12-09T23:32:00.000-05:002008-12-09T23:32:00.000-05:00OMG - I love you!You've hit the nail on the head w...OMG - I love you!<BR/><BR/>You've hit the nail on the head with this post sir - the nail on the head. You're definitely educating and I'm taking notes.Darius T. Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06225878800405121386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-3994426355837105142008-12-09T21:14:00.000-05:002008-12-09T21:14:00.000-05:00You said so many things that made me laugh. I have...You said so many things that made me laugh. I have to wonder sometimes what are these kids trying to prove?lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10835271031361930205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-13850017422641861752008-12-09T17:34:00.000-05:002008-12-09T17:34:00.000-05:00Like pencil to a paper, your point was felt. *Wi...Like pencil to a paper, your point was felt. *Wink*<BR/><BR/>~Damnit!bLaQ~n~MiLDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07875175151911527789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-61071793950759159092008-12-09T16:03:00.000-05:002008-12-09T16:03:00.000-05:00"I'm simply concerned that everyone is hyperfemini..."I'm simply concerned that everyone is hyperfeminine and NO ONE is a bottom. LOL Let's be real." <BR/><BR/>Unc, maybe my perspective is skewed or DC is the exception...but our femme boys are proud, trade munching bottoms (no shade). Now the no fats no femme kids in fitteds and timbs that, at the sound of Beyonce can no longer control their pu$$y popping, but are "DL" and "tops"...that's where I see the dissonance...<BR/><BR/>Blaq,(swings my mane over my shoulder) I'm calm sweety! Just getting my point across...<BR/><BR/>JBJoey Bahamashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07900810125389210092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-2605907588867194492008-12-09T15:45:00.000-05:002008-12-09T15:45:00.000-05:00**pulls out pen and paper, sits down for Pappo's l...**pulls out pen and paper, sits down for Pappo's lesson**<BR/><BR/>These new age kids come complete with the oversized bags in hand (or on arm), the big oversized Jackie-Os on the painted face and a kitty heel to boot. <BR/><BR/>It's just too much for me. I can't deal.Mr. Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02231406990703923642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-62550695341718777292008-12-09T15:23:00.000-05:002008-12-09T15:23:00.000-05:00(Sheesh, struck a nerve)Joey, enhance your calm ma...(Sheesh, struck a nerve)Joey, enhance your calm ma dude. LoL. Nobody bashed anybody.<BR/><BR/>~Damnit!bLaQ~n~MiLDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07875175151911527789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-50456187727844068502008-12-09T14:55:00.000-05:002008-12-09T14:55:00.000-05:00Hey Joey...I agree with you on many points...I hav...Hey Joey...<BR/>I agree with you on many points...I have always supported individuality and folks being accepted for who they are. I'm more concerned with a majority of our young gay men following some new fad of hyper-female (not femme) characteristics that don't appear to be of their own natural personality trait...mere copies of things they've seen. I'm wondering whether there are no role models - outside of Lady J and the like to give gay men a presence to emulate. I'm all for individuality - femme or masculine - but am disturbed by mimicking behavior/dress code that is neither attractive to all nor appropriate in all settings. You're a prince (and a princess when you want to be) and I love that...I'm simply concerned that everyone is hyperfeminine and NO ONE is a bottom. LOL Let's be real.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988868216271744389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-26624478733211937492008-12-09T14:41:00.000-05:002008-12-09T14:41:00.000-05:00*looks up* Okay, okay, okay, I got on here to give...*looks up* Okay, okay, okay, I got on here to give my Unc a big ole hug because that post was ovah. And then I get in the comments section and see the comments above. <BR/><BR/>I just get tired of all the fem bashing, you fems make gay men look bad, women aren't even that dramatic, overcompensation bullshit. Really, my eyebrows stays plucked, my wrist is slightly limp and my runway walk serves. So what...sounds like femme men are embarrassments to the folks that commented above. Do they feel the same way about leather daddy's, bears or muscle queens...they two are used to stereotype the larger gay community. I pluck my eyebrows because they're too thick for my liking, my wrist has always been limp and walking the runway is fun to me. <BR/><BR/>That str8s stereotype all gay men on the femme model isn't my fault. And, I shouldn't be asked to change what I like or how I am because of that. We shouldn't be blaming femme men for that stereotype, we should be pushing mainstream society to accept the many variations that gay men come in. And, that might be easier if masculine or "normal" acting gay men would stop hiding in their closets or trying to pass, something many femme men can't or refuse to be forced to do. <BR/><BR/>Where Unc Cocoa go it right was: "Have your own sense of style; dress appropriately to work and social functions and recognize when you have become a cartoon of yourself; have you become a joke?" I think whether you're a joke it too much mascara or in a fitted, you're still a joke. We should allow people to be who they are, defend our femme gay brothers instead of bashing them for expressing themselves and embrace the community in its totality. Luv!!<BR/><BR/>JBJoey Bahamashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07900810125389210092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12180121.post-76041267834556389442008-12-09T12:22:00.000-05:002008-12-09T12:22:00.000-05:00As soon as people hear "effeminate" or "passive" t...As soon as people hear "effeminate" or "passive" they generally associate: weak,limp-wrists, plucked eyebrows, wearing make-up, the runway walk. Just everything being dramatized and "overdone". Real women don't even act like that-I don't know why some guys do. People see that and think that's the norm for all gay men. It's a big misconception.Achilleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06824876832040987429noreply@blogger.com