REMINDER: Tomorrow night 5:30 p.m. - Until
Place: LQs; Between 47th and 48th Street and Lexington Avenue
Ladies: Free with flyer
Men: $5 with flyer
Cocktails: 2-for-1 until 7 p.m.
Complimentary buffet until 6:30 p.m.
Arrange to have the sitter keep the kids, let the significant other know you’re letting your hair down and join us at LQs (Latin Quarters) as we bid Evelyn Maldonado farewell and celebrate friendship. So whether you’ve known and loved Evelyn for years or can just use partying with a group of festive and laid-back folks, tomorrow is the night to get your let-loose on! R&B, Salsa, Pop, Reggaton, Reggae and Merengue abound – but you don’t have to be a Dancing With the Stars superstar to cut the rug. Celebrate success, live life and step out of the ordinary tomorrow night!!
New Jersey Shows Some Sense; Old School Sounds Crazy
In a vote of 4-3 the Supreme Court of New Jersey says that gay couples are entitled to the same rights as heterosexual couples. The justices gave lawmakers 180 days to rewrite the law. Now, the Garden State will decide if they will institute marriage or civil unions in the state. Presently, only Massachusetts allows gay marriage, while Connecticut and Vermont have civil unions for gay couples in place. Just as I was in the middle of reading the news reports and inwardly smiling to myself, I received a call from my mom – the first lady of a Pentecostal congregation and wife of my dad, a proud minister. I quickly mentioned the ruling and asked if she’d heard about it. Without missing a beat, she said, the issue will always be a hot-button one since gays are swimming upstream and trying to go against the norm. My joy fell to complete disappointment that a woman I admire so much and love wholeheartedly could be so ignorant on an issue. She had colorful analogies on how there are pros and cons to every situation – though she couldn’t really establish what the cons to gay marriage are. The conversation ended with a quiet moment, mainly because I was baffled at how ignorance and misinformation can prevail even in the most informed and open-minded folks. Comedian Wanda Sykes said it best, “Gay marriage is not a threat to conventional marriage; divorce is.” If you’re straight, I don’t see how the issue of gay marriage affects you. To the religious right: Rather than oppose gay marriage you might want to consider instituting laws that prevent straight folks who marry, from divorcing their partners. This will certainly protect that “sanctity” of marriage.
On Blast
I’m genuinely curious. I’ve been gay for as long as I can remember and openly gay for over 22 years. Why do you (as a straight person) feel that granting gay couples equal rights to heterosexual couples threatens your way of life? Why is there such an interest in what gay couples do in their intimate life? How would you feel (as a straight person) if we were discussing whether you and your loved one are entitled to the same rights as other couples?
Keep passin’ the open windows…
9 comments:
I'm more threatened by the straight marriage that is brought for citizenship than a gay marrage that is real. That affects all of our money. A gay married couple wants rights for their loved one to get what they've worked for. I mean love , love and love too. This all is relevant, but at the end of the day, the only ones who care are the ones who have nothing better than other peoples business to think about. One man said he didn't want his kids to think it was acceptable. There are many things that are unacceptable like being a hoe, drug wasted, baby makin, not working (oh we can go on). What can you do about them? I asked, Nothing, just mind your business and talk to your kids. If they're gay, you want them to be clean, happy, productive beings that know how to love themselves and others. Not some sorry soul who can't respect themselves or others (as many people are, gay or straight) AVP
I'm more threatened by the beliefs of Christians and those that FEEL they are upholding God's law.
I ask these questions of you.
1). Wasn't it Chistians who began slavery?
2). Why you would as an Non-white person believe what Christian's have to say now?
3). How in the HECK does what you do behind your closed doors affect my life? I don't care if your doing back flips off the dresser, just repect people in puplic.
4). Isn't it our Chistian beliefs that are killing the only home (planet) that we have, what's next?
5). Isn't there the old Testament and New, did God change his mind....?
6). My belief,,,,, Be the best that YOU can and accept others for what they are. Respect all people and demand respect of yourself.
P.S. John Legend's CD has to get better than what I'm hearing now.
I agree that it isn’t anyone’s business if two competent adults want to marry, but since the religious right has made such a HUGE deal of it and is now adding misinformation that has ignorant folks bring “gay bashings back,” I have to speak up. As I mentioned to my mother last night, I don’t ever want to marry – heck, the straight establishment was giving me a wonderful out without having to accept responsibility for it – but inequality is inequality. Admittedly, I’m worn-out on an issue I feel is insane to discuss. If someone is same gender loving and your are not – HOW THE F*CK DOES IT AFFECT YOU?????? That’s what I don’t understand. I have lesbian neighbors – a segment of the population I never really associated with in the past – and can now say, we’re the best of friends because I don’t try to understand your love for the kitty or the lack of magic-stick in lesbian interactions. It just doesn’t peak my interest nor does it affect me. More power to their ass. I’m now crossing the line between caring if straight people understand and a complete apathy for ignorant and intrusive behavior.
As for the John Legend new CD thingy – smoke two blunts, drink a forty and take down a Vicodin… that CD will be sounding like the brotha wrote it just for you – TRUST!
Awww shucks, people should be allowed to love who they want. I am curiouse also, why, why is it anyone business what ANYONE does in their intimate life. DANG!!!
Redhotmamagirl
Awww... Caspar... I'd go with adorable, although the wrinkles, dents, age blotches etc. would probably say otherwise... good thing is, since you'll be in my life forever I'm guaranteed the view through your eyes... :)
If I ever get married you can be the flower heffer AND the anesthesiologist. I have a strange feeling I'll need both!
BTW...call me... are we meeting here or at the club tomorrow night? I think the chances are you'll meet a man there and marry WAY before I do sunshine!
I'm coming to NY...too bad I won't be there tomorrow night.
Can anybody answer this question? Were Adam and Eve Married? I don't read the bible, so I don't know.
The marriage that I would like to have is not based on religion or being blessed by God. I am blessed by God and that's enough for me. What I want is to be able to legally share my life, finances, children, and everything with my partner. Through, wills, powers-of-attorney and things of the sort, you can somewhat do that. But why should I only have partial rights that I have to jump through hoops and pay money to get? Straight people can get married and have rights by paying $15 dollars for a license and recited some words in front of a damn judge. Why can't I and my partner?
And people are so concerned with the spiritual side of marriage, why do the bother with the civil side of it? It's because they want the rights and privileges that some along with a civil marriage.
The people who don't want us to marry feel that way because they don't want to feel that we are equal to them. The same reason men didn't want women to vote and whites wanted to continue segregation.
Wow... let me preface my statement with this...
Cas, I love you and you know my heart.
That said, you said a mouthful and unfortunately not all of what you said is true AND a lot of it comes from fear or imposing of OUR values and religion on others.
Rather than argue a point one way or the other, I found a very intelligent and clear piece... please read it carefully, think on it and let's not shoot any comments back and forth on it. It is meant to edify all of us. Before anyone goes there... my position is simple...I don't wish to ever get married but recognize that same gender loving individuals (gays & lesbians) are entitled to be married with all the rights and priveleges of their straight counterparts. Period. Discrimination is discrimination and whether it's sexual orientation, gender, age, race, etc., we have to fight to extinguish it. Sometimes, it's a bit more covert and may be harder to identify...but it doesn't mean it isn't there.
Whew...the article... http://www.bidstrup.com/marriage.htm
Cas, I didn't write the article, but when I came across the article I felt it best conveys the arguments and a very comprehensive rebuttal to many (if not all) of the arguments presented here. Equal, but separate and equal but different are still saying that a group of people are not entitled to the SAME rights. Let's pull away from the whole gay issue and use any other issue...when would you ever allow yourself, your children or those you love to be denied the SAME rights afforded their peers? Even if those rights were equal, the very notion that they weren't the SAME would have you in an uproar. Think of it in those terms. Proposterous, silly, whatever the description - what marriage for the gay population means is affording a group the SAME rights granted to their peers.
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