Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Morning Edition - 10/3/06

Love Is Stronger Than Pride
By Sade

I won't pretend that I intend to stop living
I won't pretend I'm good at forgiving
But I can't hate you
Although I have tried
Mmmmm

I still really really love you
Love is stronger than pride
I still really really love you
Mmmmm

I won't pretend that I intend to stop living
I won't pretend I'm good at forgiving
But I can't hate you
Although I have tried
Mmmmm

I still really really love you
Love is stronger than pride
I still really really love you
Mm mm mm mm mm

Sitting here wasting my time
Would be like
Waiting for the sun to rise

It's all too clear things come and go
Sitting here waiting for you
Would be like waiting for winter

It's gonna be cold
There may even
Be snow

I still really really love you
Love is stronger than pride
I still really really love you
Love is stronger
I still really really love you
Love is stronger than pride

Living Your Truth
I was watching Oprah last night – yes, I watch Oprah sometimes – and the show involved individuals (and couples) who had accepted that they were gay and decided to be true to themselves and “live their truth.” It would appear that this show would have nothing to do with me since I’ve known I was gay virtually all my life and have been comfortable with me – always. So what line from the program captured my attention and had tears streaming down my face? It was a simple line… it always is. The line was, “Live your truth because life is too short.” The amazing thing is that I struggle to know (at 37!) what my truth is. Physically, I’m comfortable in my skin since I took control of maintaining a fit physique, but my inners are a flabby mess. I’m not connecting emotionally with my peers and I’m feeling an awkward sense of disconnect with my romantic partners. Today, I have to agree to face my fears, stop being a control freak and live my truth.

On Blast
We’ve all been there before….you come to a crossroad in your life when you have to decide. Is love really stronger than pride? Can you overcome some of those relationship woes, pitfalls and indiscretions to have love survive or does your pride prevent you from accepting what is? Is love really stronger than pride?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

16 comments:

caspar608 said...

My love was stronger than pride for 14 years. It took one final act of complete inconsideration that killed the love and pulled pride to the forefront.

I will always love the individual, but my self love, pride and dignity will never allow him back into my life. If he really loves his children, he will fight for them. His love for them will be much stronger than his pride.

Anonymous, you say what?

adam_ex2 said...

I most definately believe that LOVE IS STRONGER THAN PRIDE. Anyone who knows me, knows that I am one proud African b*tch. Throughout my life, I've often let my inherited West African pride get in the way of "making the right choices."

Over the past two years, I've proven to, not only myself, but also to my closest friends and family, that love is stronger than pride, at least in most cases. I mean, I won't go degrading myself in the name of ANYONE'S love.

I've found out that abandoning petty pride, in the name of love, is not such a bad thing and not nearly as frightening as I had imagined it to be. In my experience, Pride has held me back and not allowed me to be the person I was meant to be. Abandoning much of my pride has finally let me allow myself to be loved for who I am.

Anonymous said...

Love is stronger than pride! I recently realized that, I have to submit. I have always had a problem with submission and because of this; I have waited until my “later years” to finally marry. I love my husband with all my heart but as a black woman who grew up in the struggle, I have the attitude and the sharp tongue.

I give up. Rather than pride myself on being a “strong black woman,” I’m going to submit myself, my attitude and my strong personality. My pride will be touched but I love him so much. I want to prove my love is real without any strongholds or attitudes. I have decided to lay down my pride and let my love overtake all else.

Anonymous said...

LOL, Talk about pull me out if I'm the anonomus you're talking to. I see you, and I say for me, love seems to be a day to day for me, almost moment to moment for some. I loved in action for 9 years, and once my boundry was crossed, I had no problem giving my pride the spotlight. But I have to say, it couldn't have been love, cause I didn't even think twice. It was like I was waiting for him to f up. DOn't get me wrong I cried my (#*&$ off cause I couldn't believe I had to start over. I thought my settelment was the way it was going to be. But choosing between pride and love, I have to say I've never been there and 4 years later of watching this show, I'm afraid that's a decision I may never be faced with to make. Sound familiar anyone? AVP

Cocoa Rican said...

First off, today’s On Blast came from my wake-up call this morning. My stereo kicked-on to Sade belting away to Love is Stronger than Pride. I lay there another 10 minutes just thinking about that…. Reviewing…has my love been stronger than my pride? I’d have to say that in instances when I’ve been completely immersed in love, my love has been stronger… although my pride fought it tooth-and-nail. Unfortunately, there have been only two times in my entire life when I’ve been in love and one of those times I was too young to have any sense. That said, I’m more likely to have my pride win out. A good example is my best friend of over 20 years is on a time-out until he finds his mind and apologizes for being a complete azz! If that doesn’t happen, I suspect the relationship will not mend… my pride is firmly planted, I feel no regret. …and before you go there, don’t get yourself cut-off too.

…and back to that warm fuzzy place…

caspar608 said...

Let it GO Cocoa. Just let it GO.

Dayne Avery said...

Wow love the lyrics though ive never been a sade fan. But its true, love is stronger than pride and my pride is hella strong.

Anonymous said...

That is my favorite Sade song and I sing it at karaoke because I do believe Love is Stronger than Pride. When I grew up and realized that I started singing it. If you truly love someone, and are real with yourself - if you can be - Love proven to be Stronger than Pride.

Thank you Hector...I just love that song.

Redhotmamagirl

R&B lover said...

I thought about this question and ponder on what would be the right response for me. I think pride will always be stronger than love. I say this because, as long as any relationship is going smoothly pride really doesn't come into play. But once someone in the relationship disrespects the other in what ever capacity. Pride will then come into play and eventually beat love down. Hopefully you guys get the jest of what I am trying to say. Bottom Line I think pride will always eventually win out. It's just a matter of time.

Tammy said...

I believe love is stronger than pride. I have seen people do some stoopid shyt for love. I myself have been down that road. Of course my pride eventually kicked in and I was like the hell wit dis...course i was younger then. Now a days love for myself, prevents me from putting op with the bullshyt.

Tammy said...

by the way i loooove Sade.

R&B lover said...

Living in side my truth. My truth scares me and i know that I am battling to change it. my truth is that people scare me, and I'm almost become afraid to let people inside my realm. When friends you trust, and past lovers you trust and family you trust have have become a very negative source of energy to you. You become very reluctant to let new people in your space. I guess that why I kling onto those that are in my realm now. I've learned now to Choose my friends as I would choose my thoughts. Very Carefully.

caspar608 said...

This is for R&B Lover....

Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.


Don't worry baby, it's gonna be alright.

Anonymous said...

No matter how old you get,you never got it pack down when it came to relationships, I am definetly not an expert.

I am a beautiful, intelligent and an independent woman and always on top of my game. At least until I met this Egyptian handsome papi than made me fall head over heals for him and rock my world in every sence of the word.
Emotianlly I am still trying to cope
Mentally he runs through my mind so much I'm exhausted
Phisically I can't get enough of him.

It gets better...
My egyptian Papi is Muslim, I'm not! do I plan to convirt to one? I've entertained the thought. Obviously we've been on and off for some time. The times we are together is because my love for him is a trillion times stronger than my pride.
I always went and go to him something I never do, it's against my rules. I am the one that always lookes for him and those few times when I have been upset and he came looking for me, I haven't been able to say "no"
PAIN AND PLEASURE, WHAT A B&*^%!!
I melt with just one touch, I get butterflies in my stomach when I feel his eyes layed upon me. 27yrs old feeling like a 17yr old high school girl in love for the 1st time.

I miss him undescribably and I keep looking for him even thought deep in my heart I wish I could just walk away,I can't!!!
No matter what he does, my love for him is stronger than anything I've ever felt before. Stronger than an evil womans pride.

Is love stronger than pride?
I think...

Cocoa Rican said...

Wow Anonymous 8:32... I am really there with you. I've only felt the type of love you describe once in my lifetime... it's intense, and all-consuming. You want to run, leave, fight...but ultimately, you're disarmed by your feelings for the person. Here's the kicker, I'm beginning to think that it doesn't necessarily go away.. the feeling sometimes mutates into something more manageable... or as I like to think, something you can control enough to keep your self respect. I'm no longer with the person and make every effort to keep our present relationship in the right context. Which only served to give me my answer for today... for me, pride is stronger than love. Fortunately, Sade realized her version was much more heartfelt.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 8:32am
The Love of your life is a TERRORIST. He is playing mind games with you so you can blow up buildings together.
Get out while you can girl!
Run.