Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Morning Edition - 6/17/08

My First Father’s Day
After a couples-with-kids night that bled on until close to 2 a.m., BD and I returned home to put the Minnie to bed and shower. Just as we got in the bed and BD was kissing my neck and stirring me into the mood, I heard myself snore. That’s right folks; I’ve officially reached that point in my relationship where I’m suffering from parental wear-out. That’s when you want to do so much more, but your body just won’t cooperate with you. I quickly turned to BD and said, “I’m sorry baby, but I’m just so tired….” As my voice trailed off BD settled into a comfy spoon and whispered, “That’s alright. I know you’re tired.” That was all I needed to immediately fall into unconsciousness. Early in the morning, I felt BD ease back into bed – apparently after a quick trip to the bathroom. As he kissed my cheeks and began pulling down my underwear, I stretched in that classic morning body contortion that precedes a good a.m. quickie. It was then that there was a loud knock on the bedroom door and a shrilly voice asked, “Can I come in?!” BD adjusted himself, got up and opened the door for the Minnie who ran, jumped into my bed and began trying to tickle me. Luckily, I managed to pull up my underwear moments before his leap of faith. As he chuckled and tickled BD and I, we both turned on him and began to act like tag team wrestlers. It was then that the Minnie reached under my pillow and said, “Hey! I think your fairy Godfather left you a card.” Since he’s always a kidder, I assumed he was pulling my leg, but there in his little hand was a pretty eggshell-colored envelope with my name on it. I took it from his outstretched hand and began reading my first EVER father’s day card. I swallowed hard to push the frog from my throat and said, “Well whatdya know…my fairy godfather actually did send me a card!” BD and the Minnie looked at each other and started laughing and I jumped back in the bed. They both gave me a big hug and before I could give in to any further mushiness I blurted, “Okay you two, I’ll start breakfast and you two brush those funky pie holes!” As the Minnie ran past me to the bathroom, BD grabbed me from behind and kissed my neck. “Happy father’s day baby,” he said. “We’re so lucky to have you in our lives.” I gave him a quick peck and said, “I’ll be the lucky one once you brush your teeth.” He turned me around and hugged me tightly and I felt like the luckiest man in the world. As I cooked my boyz some breakfast I began singing in tune with the gospel song playing from the blaring stereo in the living room. “Cocoa, you make incredible eggs, but you really can’t sing,” the Minnie smiled. I said, “Oh yeah, well wait until you’re all grown up and miss my eggs.” He turned right before leaving the kitchen and said, “I love you…” Yeah, this really was my favorite Father’s Day ever!

On Blast

Any man can make a baby, but being a good dad is much harder than I ever imagined. To be a role model and responsible, protective, fun-loving dad to a child is a 24/7 gig.
What man made a positive impact in your life and gave you the blueprint of what a man should be?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

14 comments:

fuzzy said...

I would say my brother, but I am not so sure. I don't think I have ever modeled my life after a role models life. I have pieced together pieces of different one's lives and constructed what I want my life to be like. It was my brother and my new pastor. they have the house, the car, the kids, the family, they have it all.

Caspar608 said...

My Uncle Michael was like an older brother and a father figure to me. He was funny but authorative. He is a wonderful father to his sons also.

bLaQ~n~MiLD said...

Wow! I mean I'm speechless... Excellent day for you!

I think the struggles that my momz had raising me as a single mother taught me how to be the responsible man that I am today. Don't have a father figure. Sorry.

~Damnit!

Lonnell said...

Very funny, very real. Glad you had a wonderful day! Know that you always deserve the best!

Darius T. Williams said...

This is a hard question to answer. It's hard for me because I really didn't have a male role in my life that shaped me. It was the opposite. It was the absence of one, that sprawled me into such a mentality that I have today. I never wanted to be like my father was to me - he really wasn't one. So, it's the energy behind that scenario that has shaped me into who I am today.

One Man’s Opinion said...

What a wonderful story. I felt that moment, and the song choice was on point. As I was reading it I was like, "look, he's growing up." That story was like the ultimate turn in a relationship or something. Now you guys gotta fly off to Cali or some place and make it official.
For better or worst, Minnie now has two fathers. Keep up the good work, bro. Things are only going to get better. Hell, I could feel the happiness my damn self.

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Caspar608 said...

you had a great Dad Cocoa. Papa Johnny was stern but snuck out a warm smile every now and then. Matter of fact, both of your parents were phenomenal....

Kensilo said...

Cocoa,

It's looked like you had a wonderful Father's Day. That was soo sweet of them to surpise you with a wonderful card. On Father's day I reminise of the days when my dad was alive and all the great things that he shared with me. Take care and enjoy.

Anonymous said...

Cocoa,

Wow, I'm left speechless at your fortune in finding such a great guy with an obviously great kid.

Proof-positive example that families are ever changing and ever evolving into bigger and better things daily.

May you guys enjoy many more Father's Days, and other holidays......

AI

Joey Bahamas said...

My dad actually. He's the best....

Mr. Jones said...

You make me smile, boy.

Ty said...

Happy belated Father's Day

j_shanlin said...

awwww.. im sooo happy for you! i love you! happy father's day! and as for your on blast, my father, Abraham Shanklin modeled unashamed manliness to me.. I love that nucca. OH and of course this otha nucca, i think his name startes with an H and his last name was a homonym for a luxurious vacation on water.... hmmm.. i cant remember lol!