Monday, August 31, 2009

Unsolicited Rude Honesty

It has probably happened to everyone – or maybe that’s what I tell myself to lessen the blow – but at one time or another in our lives we encounter someone that whether by ignorance or pure cruelty has the unmitigated gall to share some pearls of rude honesty. Today was my day.

More than a year after my work team moved from one location to another and now to a third location, I returned to my original stomping grounds to have lunch with BD. After raking more than eight ounces of beef tenderloin to my plate, I shoveled a few hearty tablespoons of mac and cheese and sealed the deal with a generous serving of corn; picked up some tasty Diet Dr. Pepper and I was all set. Once at the register, I recognized one of the cashiers who I hadn’t seen since my initial move. I waved and heard her yell back at me, “Where have you been?” I waited until I got slightly closer and smiled before responding, “Oh, I’m at the new building across the street.” The words hadn’t quite left my mouth before I heard the nails-upon-the-chalkboard-next-statement that bellowed from her, “You’ve gotten so fat!” Caught off guard I looked around nervously, two-shades darker than a bottle of Heinz Ketchup and attempted to give her – or maybe myself – an out, “I guess I’m just happy.” She frowned and shot back, “Well then don’t be so happy then. You were so attractive when you were fit. You need to lose that weight.” To add insult to injury she shook her head and tapped the cashiers nearest her to look as I walked away.

BD wasn’t privy to the incident and quite honestly, he does such a great job at loving me for me, that I may have ignored the bigger pant purchases or the cutting underwear and needed to hear the truth from an impartial party, but I wonder if I needed to hear it like this.

So as I sat down with BD and some friends, I told them what just happened and did what I do best…made a big joke of it. No one laughs more at themselves and is more critical of their own physique than me. As I walked back to my office I was gripped by the realization that this ignorant bitch’s unsolicited and rude honesty was just what my fat ass needed to get serious about getting back in shape.

On Blast
What was one of your most unsolicited, yet motivating, instances of rude honesty?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

11 comments:

*DELLA! said...

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU AS LONG AS YOU ARE HAPPY AND THAT WHORE NEEDS TO GET SOME RESPECT...THAT WAS RUDE..NOT HONEST...RUDE!


MY MY MY IF THE SHOE WAS ON THE OTHER FOOT!

Ty said...

Luv, I say do you. People are ALWAYS going to have something to say. When I was thicker than I am now, there were people who always told me that I need to loose weight, I'm fat, etc. Now that I've lost the weight, those same people tell me that I need to put some weight on. I look skinny and hungry, etc. I'm like wtf!!! So I'm doing what makes me happy. And I'm quick to remind people of that when they make a comment.

Anonymous said...

People need to start concentrating on themselves...she's probably VERY bored in life.

Ian (Darktomahawk) said...

H-man, you handled the sitch better that I would have, cause this here fat bitch woulda caused a scene. A big scene of EPIC PROPORTIONS. OH HELL TO THE NO. Did this HEFFA call me fat?!?! Bitch Please! Ugh.

Now Cocoa, you and BD are a fine couple, both cute as the day is long. Don't neither one of you need to change absolutely a damn thing about yourself. And you ARE NOT FAT. You seen me. BOY you could probably fit into my size blah blah blahs 2 1/2 times (well maybe 1 1/3 LOL) But you look good man. And you worked hard to lose weight this summer. Your 40 and FABULOUS!

Do I need to settle up a posse to slap this chunti bitch down? LMAO!

OK, All joking aside my friend. You are beautiful inside and out, as long as your husband and you love YOU, that's all that matters.
HMMM K??!?!?

Caspar608 said...

that was a really stupid thing for her to say.

and please do not listen to her.

you are beautiful in every single way. we live in a culture that is obsessed with obesity and anorexia.

if you feel good, thats all that matters. all that other superficial crap is CRAP.

She had no class or self respect to say such hurtful things to you.

Kent said...

Baby I'll love you no matter what. Simple as that. I know you want to be more fit and that's fine. If you wanna start hitting the gym and working out that's fine too. But do it because you want to-for you. Not because of some inappropriate comment from some hookah slinging hash!

Ian (Darktomahawk) said...

Amen, Baby Daddy. You tell it brother. LOL.

Cocoa Rican said...

Thanks happy boi and friends. I appreciate your support and to be honest I was side swiped today. I'll be ready for the world in a moment. ;)

That Dude Right There said...

And you didn't let this woman have it right there in line!!!!!!!!!!!!

But you already know damn well that you aren't fat!!!

thegayte-keeper said...

I know how you must have felt when those words came @ you, but all things in moderation...

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