Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Morning Edition - 2/19/08

Content vs. Fulfilled
As Valentine’s Day rolled around, I had a conversation with BD about how I felt that the made-up and commercial holiday is nothing but a ploy from retailers to make an extra buck off of folks who don’t regularly treat their partners the way they should the other 364 days of the year. Hey, that’s how I feel about it. If you treat your partner with love, respect and care then Valentine’s Day feels pointless. Unfortunately, although that reasoning makes perfect sense, VD has become so ingrained in our romantic entanglements that even when you’re affectionate and present all year long, you have to make some kind of gesture to insure your partner is aware that you celebrate your love for him/her. So, BD and I exchanged cards, pleasantries, but found that our dinner plans were rearranged – well, you do remember that little single-parent thing? Well, our plan B was so much more fun-filled than a Valentine’s Day dinner. We opted for a Valentine’s Weekend – which included two dinners, a romantic walk through the city; on an unusually warm night in New York – and a sense that we can never get enough of each other physically. We watched Dirty Laundry, Why Did I Get Married and spooned more than a fat lady with a quart of Breyers. We then looped back to pick up the Minnie and headed over for a movie – the Spiderwick Chronicles. While dropping my boyz at their crib, the Minnie quickly asked if I could sleep over and BD told our little disappointed tyke, “He has to work…” When it was all said and done I returned home to clean up and prepare for the work week and exchanged text messages with BD; the gist of which is how happy we really make each other and how each shared moment makes the moments without each other that much more difficult. My last text message was simple but honest, “I was content before you and now realize how much better it feels to be fulfilled.

Two Months & Counting
If you’ve been reading my blog and a host of my other blogger family’s blogs, you may have seen the announcement (now residing at the top of my blog page) that we’re having our first ever Blogger Family Reunion. The gathering will host a group of bloggers that have shared their lives via the web for over two years. We’re inviting everyone who writes or reads blogs to share the live experience of interacting with bloggers you may think you already know from reading their work each day. The rules of the event are simple – come with an open-mind and the desire to have fun and network with a diverse group of folks. There are no race, gender or orientation requirements; simply the desire to have a great time!

On Blast
In an effort to be players, some folks destroy the love a partner has for them. I thought about how there were countless people around me who had taken the unconditional love of folks in their lives and slowly, but surely, stomped it out.
Do you live by the theory of ‘a bird in hand is better than two in the bush’ OR do you subscribe to the belief that ‘there’s always something better waiting around the corner’?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

12 comments:

Darius T. Williams said...

Lovely question today sir - just lovely. I think for the most part - the bird in hand is a good way to live. It forces you to be content with what you have. It teaches to really enjoy what you have - you know, water your own grass. But, I must admit with some things in life - the battle really is wondering if there's something better waiting around the corner. I think it's important to pick and choose when you will apply certain theories. But, life would be boring if we didn't peek around the corner. We could miss opporutnities if we don't peek around the corner. But, like I said - we must peek realizing that sometimes our curiosity comes with a cost.

Kensilo said...

Every day should be Valentines Day. Showing the love and respect for each other on a daily basis is what it is all about. But I did enjoy the colonge I recieved on V day.. (Smilz). I can not wait tfor the Blogger Family Reunion. Let the couunt down begin!!!

Curious said...

Obviously, you don't need Valentines Day to celebrate what you have for each other. What you have seems to be beautiful and that's something special that you should hold on to.

BTW regarding your banner, if this is the 1st time that all of you are getting together, can you really have a reunion?

ThisMightBeMe said...

I am still learning....

Cocoa Rican said...

Well Curious...although two of the three meanings of the word REUNION came up saying something about uniting "again" or state of being united "again" we're working off of meaning number 3....
a gathering of relatives, friends, or associates at regular intervals or after separation....We've been separated for over 2 years...it's time to meet....LOL
Joining us or just looking for grammar flubs? ;)

Joey Bahamas said...

For me....the answer is neither. I believe that it takes time to discern what you really feel is important to you in a relationship, and that you shouldn't settle for less than that...which is what my next post is going to be about...

JB

PS. I am so gonna "trapes" over the bmore for the reunion. See you there!

life said...

Don't lose what you have trying to get what you don't need.

Curious said...

Well like a lot of men, I sometimes am afraid of commitment, which is why I haven't said that I was attending or not. But it seems like it would be really interesting and maybe eye opening. I shall let all of know my plans next month.

As for grammar flubs, that's just one of the disadvantages of a communications degree. It makes me constantly see what I perceive as things that can be communicated in a better way, and I hope that the mistakes that I make are never seen or realized, like this run on sentence. LOL

Cocoa Rican said...

Well Curious...that's the beauty of our blogger family...we ignore our many flaws and try to be the voice of reason and support...hope to see you in April... ;)

Darius T. Williams said...

Smart man Cocoa...smart ass man! That's why you're my boy!

Cocoa Rican said...

Aiiight D...you know how we roll ;)

bLaQ~n~MiLD said...

Hmmmmm... Cocoa, the question you pose is interesting. I don't go looking for something new or better, however, I think my very personality pushes people away from me. Case in point, 2 days after V-day for which I have never celebrated and this year did not celebrate because Lil Dred and I were not speaking, we've now decided to take a break. Because of someone else, no. But because we decided that before we get to the point where we totally shut down, we'd rather back up and provide some space tho keeping the focus on us with no outside interuptions from the word. Hopefully we will be fulfilled one day as well.

~Damnit!