Content vs. Fulfilled
As Valentine’s Day rolled around, I had a conversation with BD about how I felt that the made-up and commercial holiday is nothing but a ploy from retailers to make an extra buck off of folks who don’t regularly treat their partners the way they should the other 364 days of the year. Hey, that’s how I feel about it. If you treat your partner with love, respect and care then Valentine’s Day feels pointless. Unfortunately, although that reasoning makes perfect sense, VD has become so ingrained in our romantic entanglements that even when you’re affectionate and present all year long, you have to make some kind of gesture to insure your partner is aware that you celebrate your love for him/her. So, BD and I exchanged cards, pleasantries, but found that our dinner plans were rearranged – well, you do remember that little single-parent thing? Well, our plan B was so much more fun-filled than a Valentine’s Day dinner. We opted for a Valentine’s Weekend – which included two dinners, a romantic walk through the city; on an unusually warm night in New York – and a sense that we can never get enough of each other physically. We watched Dirty Laundry, Why Did I Get Married and spooned more than a fat lady with a quart of Breyers. We then looped back to pick up the Minnie and headed over for a movie – the Spiderwick Chronicles. While dropping my boyz at their crib, the Minnie quickly asked if I could sleep over and BD told our little disappointed tyke, “He has to work…” When it was all said and done I returned home to clean up and prepare for the work week and exchanged text messages with BD; the gist of which is how happy we really make each other and how each shared moment makes the moments without each other that much more difficult. My last text message was simple but honest, “I was content before you and now realize how much better it feels to be fulfilled.
Two Months & Counting
If you’ve been reading my blog and a host of my other blogger family’s blogs, you may have seen the announcement (now residing at the top of my blog page) that we’re having our first ever Blogger Family Reunion. The gathering will host a group of bloggers that have shared their lives via the web for over two years. We’re inviting everyone who writes or reads blogs to share the live experience of interacting with bloggers you may think you already know from reading their work each day. The rules of the event are simple – come with an open-mind and the desire to have fun and network with a diverse group of folks. There are no race, gender or orientation requirements; simply the desire to have a great time!
In an effort to be players, some folks destroy the love a partner has for them. I thought about how there were countless people around me who had taken the unconditional love of folks in their lives and slowly, but surely, stomped it out.
Do you live by the theory of ‘a bird in hand is better than two in the bush’ OR do you subscribe to the belief that ‘there’s always something better waiting around the corner’?
Keep passin’ the open windows…