Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Morning Edition - 7/11/07

I See You In A Different Light
For close to two years, Baby Daddy and I have dated off-and-on. There’s never been any official discussion about our dating and we’ve both dated other folks in that two year period. So what has brought the recent ignited flame in our friendship? I’ve asked myself the same question and have no real answer. What is clear is that we’re both extremely engaged and passionately interested. Yesterday, after our new ride-home routine, BD jumped off the train at my stop and we hopped in my car to have a quaint dinner at Nathan’s – famous for their boardwalk-style NY franks. We sat and had an interesting conversation about our teenage years while inhaling a couple of chili dogs. As the conversation continued I noticed BD becoming more and more intense. His looks of concern were burrowing into me and I stopped to ask, “Are you alright?” He said, “Now I understand.” When I asked what he “understood,” he went on to explain how he felt my sense of humor is so raw and magnetic that it clearly showed someone who had overcome great pains with his will to laugh as a weapon. I was somewhat touched, but continued my story. When I got up to dump the trash (yeah, Nathan’s is that kind of joint) he got up and continued to stare and smile. We decided to do a little shopping trip to Target and while I drove I felt him still staring – hard! I turned and said, “What is it pa?!” He smiled and said, “I just thought I knew you all this time and you’re so much deeper than I ever thought. It explains why I’ve always really liked you. Right now I like you so much more.” Always the break-the-sappiness-king, I responded, “Cut the crap before I drive us into oncoming traffic!” We both laughed and he snapped some unapproved pics of me with his Blackberry. So we’re talking several times a day, riding home together virtually every night and I’m not thinking of where this is going, but how I can continue feeling this silly; this fresh and this at peace.

Enjoying the Coast
Nothing in life is done at full throttle and any attempt at full-throttle-living will leave you exhausted, unfulfilled and distressed. So, it came as no surprise that my six-day a week work-out sprints and healthy eating needed to somehow ease for a little while so that I could catch my breath and enjoy some of the benefits. I’ve reached that mental level where I accept that I enjoy the results of working out; so it goes without saying that it will be a life-long commitment, but I’m also accepting those couple of slow-down weeks when I workout less strenuously and eat more voraciously. All said, I’ve gained a few pounds, but the exhale of letting go for a little while is great. I’m comfortable with my size and can now accept that a couple of weeks of chillin’ cannot blow me up. This week I’m back to my more strenuous workout regimen, but am still eating a bit more – and a bit differently – than I had the past six months. Next week, we’re going back to our usual diet of curbed carbs and increased protein. Hey, my Great-At-38 birthday weekend is now less than four weeks away and I’m trying to sport my new Rio!

On Blast
Revelations. I’m a firm believer in not revealing too much – especially not too much of your sordid past to present potential partners. All said, that type of banter can come back to haunt you as the new beau attempts to make connections between your past and your present behavior. There are, however, times when having a candid conversation that gives someone a peek inside, can serve to endear them and show them your growth and development. What story from your past do you think serves you best staying there?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

10 comments:

yet another black guy said...

that i was 'the other man'. and stayed after i found out he was married.

Anonymous said...

Love Ya!

One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of Their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there Isn't anymore. No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls ! just to chat, no more "just one minute." Smetimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say
"I love you."

So while we have it, it's best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick. This is true for marriage .. And old cars .. And children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, and aging parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it.

Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away or a classmate we grew up with. There are just some things that ma! ke us happy, no matter what.

Life is important, like people we know who are special. And so, We keep them close!
I received this from someone who thought I was a 'keeper'! Then I sent it to the People I think of in the same w! ay. Now it's your turn to send this to all those people Who are "keepers" in your life, including the person who sent it if you feel that way. Suppose one morning you never wake up, do all your friends know you love them?

I was thinking...I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had Any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.

Let every one of your friends know you love them. Even if you think they don't love You back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile can do.

And just in case GOD calls me home ...
Love Ya!

Anonymous said...

I Love You too anonymous...whoever you are : )

Caspar608

Anonymous said...

Cocoa,
I have the DISTINCT feeling you will be singing this to BD sometime soon.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yKKGRgKN2I8

Have a lovely day.
I Love You
Cas

Kensilo said...

Beginning stages of a beautiful relationship you and BD. Continue to enjoy the time you two have together.

Joey Bahamas said...

Oooooooooooooooooooo sounds like somethings-a-brewin'!!!!!!!! LOL

ReddMann said...

enjoying the present... i love it!

as for what stays locked away for me is alot of my childhood and family stories... actually my family themselves... i could write a best seller about that experience.

Cocoa Rican said...

I don't think I'd give too many details of what I did to survive between 15-18.

That Dude Right There said...

I think that I will keep ages 6, 13, and 17 under wraps. Potential mates don't need to know all of that. They were painful enough for me to deal with.

Mr. Jones said...

Re: I See You in a Different Light

I'm so glad this is working out for the best for you two. At least someone's being bitten by the love bug. My ass certainly isn't. BTW, I LOVE Nathan's!

Re: Enjoying the Coast

Enjoying the present is key. Too often people just do things and not really experience and appreciate them.

Re: On Blast

Law 4 - Always Say Less than Necessary

When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinx-like. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.

As for stories from my past...I'll let them remain there. lol.