Tuesday, July 03, 2007

Morning Edition - 7/3/07

Two Wrongs Sometimes = Right
The debacle surrounding Isaiah Washington and his “faggot” slur on the set of Grey's Anatomy has been spun in every direction possible. It appears Washington now feels he was wrongfully fired, since he “atoned” for his remark and apologized to anyone that may have been hurt by his comment. Some in the gay community have gone as far as to say that Washington has been a long-time gay rights supporter and a friend of the cause, but a question still comes to mind when I think of comments such as these and that is: Why would you utter such a slur if you have gay friends and are such a supporter of gay rights? It brought to mind what would happen if a White man who had a slew of African American friends blurted the word “Nigger” during a heated moment. Would his African American friends see his rant as an isolated incident or would they surmise that he had these racist feelings just under the surface all along. As I read many of the ongoing interviews with Washington, I see he is now pulling the race card and saying that as an African American man he is being treated unfairly, but the fact remains that he is not being punished for something he did not say or do. Now, the details of how the incident occurred may be muddled and whether or not the gay cast member, T.R. Knight, was ever on set when the comment was shouted is irrelevant. Washington admits to making the comment. So, let’s end the argument here and now. Black, White, Latino or Asian, you cannot use the word “faggot” or “nigger” regardless of the circumstances and expect sympathy from the community you hurt and society as a whole. Personally, I forgive Washington. I even accept that he may have plenty of gay friends – some of whom are crossing his name off that proverbial Christmas party list – but it doesn’t make the comment okay. Let’s move on and hope that Washington can learn from this and move on as well. So, should Washington have been fired when others have said worse and kept their jobs? Probably not. But in the unfair world of karma and bullshit, it sometimes works in your favor to not put it out there so it doesn’t come through the fan and back in your face.

Eating It Can Make You More Prone to Cancer
Maura Gillson of John Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health has concluded a study that found individuals who had oral sex with more than five partners were 250% more likely to develop throat, tonsil and other mouth cancers. This was due mostly to the human papilloma virus (HPV) that can also cause cervical cancer. By comparison, the study showed that drinking and smoking only increase the risk by threefold. Tonsil and throat cancers affect two in 100,000 adults in the U.S. Last year a vaccine against HPV was developed, but not enough is known for everyone to feel at ease administering it to young women. Researchers are attempting to develop a new spit test to test for the risk of cancers in the mouth and throat. In the meantime, be mindful of your koochie eating and keep your partners to a minimum.

Busta; The Update
Busta got up on all four legs yesterday; restoring my hope in his oral treatment working. There are still over five days of oral treatment left, but the future looks brighter now that he’s up and moving. My fingers are still crossed, but I’m grateful for his recovery so far. Thank you for the well wishes.

On Blast
Many of us consider oral sex very intimate and will only engage in it with our spouses or life-partners, while others consider oral sex a fetish to be enjoyed with as many partners as possible. I’ve heard that it is more difficult to tell if a woman is unclean before oral sex; while a man’s external parts make for easier inspection in these situations.
All said (keep it real) do you use protection when having oral sex or do you only enjoy oral sex raw?
Keep passin’ the open windows…


life said...

Yeah for BUSTA!!!!

Anonymous said...

I am so happy to hear that Busta is doing much better...hopefully he will make a full recovery.

Anonymous said...

I am a straight female and have had oral sex numerous times. However, I have never used protection. It never came to mind. However, when having "sex" protection is almost always used.

Mr. Jones said...

Good for Busta.

I've never once had protected oral sex. Sadly, I'm not really ashamed to admit that. I'm proud to admit, however, that my buddy always gets wrapped up before penetrating anything.

Kensilo said...

I am glad that busta is comming around. *smilz*

I never had protected oral sex.. I guess because I always had sex (oral or otherwise) within a comitted relationships. I guess now I will be protected since HPV is now in effect.

Kensilo said...

I always use protection when having intercourse.

Anonymous said...

As long as gay men call each other faggots, and black people call each other nigga who or nigga what neither group she be surprised that each is referred to by those who aren't. In other words, don't scream about the name calling when you call enough names yourself.
Its a different story if your getting a pole rammed up yor heiney while being called eith/or/both....that would be a hatecrime....but the fact is words can hurt, but they are words...and if you are using the same words YOURSELF, even in jest, then do not be surprised.


Anonymous said...

people are really stupid sometimes.

I heard Isaih Washington has anger management issues and was booted off SoulFood because he likes to act up.

Pulling the race card is a moot point at this stage of the game....maybe he is pulling the race card because the dude he caled a faggot is white.

Whatever the case may be, I heard he choked someone also, so who cares about what his crazy behind says when what he does is far more serious.


Cocoa Rican said...

I’m a little strange about oral sex. I’m one of the few men I know who don’t particularly care for it (on the receiving end). Mainly because many people who allege to know what they’re doing don’t know their ass from their elbows. I hate a waste of time and worse for someone to irritate the heck out of me giving it the college try.

As for giving oral sex, when it came to women, I rarely did it. Mainly because I never liked the way it looked and the thought of having my mouth in an open orifice was never appealing. We won’t even go there on the issue of taste, smell, etc.

Where men are concerned, I don’t care to rim – especially strangers and have only rimmed ONE person in my lifetime. As for giving head, I’m pretty good at it and have to confess that I don’t use protection. This isn’t to say that I haven’t – but admittedly those times have been to experiment with flavored condoms, etc.

I do think that I need to get with the program and use protection in any sex act.

That Dude Right There said...

It's good to hear that your pooch is getting better.

I talked to my doctor about oral sex and was told that unprotected not risky. So I asked another doctor the same question and got the same answer. So I have stopped worrying about it.

Cocoa Rican said...

Dude..rather than try to convince you otherwise, I'll let you read

Also you may want to google "Is Oral Sex Safe"

Your doctors were misinformed and ill advised; in ebonics, they were trippin! Good luck.

Anonymous said...

wait, Dude, did you give your Dr.s unprotected oral sex?
That might be why they said it was just dandy to go raw like ODB and the rest of the Wu Tang Clan.

Unless of course you want a bunch of sores in and around your orifice.

That Dude Right There said...

I guess I should have included more information with my comment. They didn't tell me to go sucking every dick in town.

I asked both of them in the context of a monogamous relationship.

Anonymous said...

I've never used protection for it either ... and most don't. Most research has shown that there is a risk of getting HIV from it, but it's a small risk. There is always a risk involved with anything unprotected, but at least where HIV/AIDS is concerned it is much lower (not nonexistant) than with intercourse. Now, if you are letting them jac in your mouth and all that (which more people do than I ever realized) than your risk goes up signficantly and from what I've read over the years, most who claim to have gotten it from oral sex were letting their parnters ejaculate in their mouths. It's not 100 percent safe but it's not as dangerous as unprotected anal sex. I'm way too chickenshit to let a man bareback me ... I don't know that I'd ever do that.

yet another black guy said...


as for oral, i never used protection. maybe i should.