Friday, November 10, 2006

Morning Edition - 11/10/06


Sometimes I just have to say... You don't know me...

Preferences Within Preferences
Your preference to be intimate with the opposite sex makes you straight; with the same sex makes you gay, etc. What most folks don’t talk about is our preferences within our preferences. The characteristics that make people attractive to us and turn us on and the traits that just turn us off, vary. Unfortunately, the preferences are a bit more muddled and hard to define in the gay realm. Gay men are tops (aggressive), bottoms (passive) or versatile (either). To add more flavor to the mix there are those that are versatile bottoms (passive who like to be aggressive every now and again), versatile tops (aggressive who will take a passive role when the moment is right) and degrees of versatility that can affect the frequency of occurrences. All said, the gay man can find himself in quite a confusing position when it comes to meeting and becoming intimate with new partners. Of course, there’s always the “Free and clear plan.” No, this isn’t through Sprint; this is the idea that it’s easier to just reveal your preferences in advance to an intimate setting, thereby alleviating the need to wrestle in the bedroom. Recently, I’ve been slightly misguided into thinking that preferences do not matter and that my finding someone attractive, interesting and fun would be enough to carry the relationship forward. UPDATE: This is untrue. Sexual incompatibility is a deal-breaker and I’m dismayed to find that my preferences matter in my quest for romantic-bliss.

On Blast
Is it superficial or shallow to allow your sexual preferences to interfere with the progression of an otherwise perfect partner or are you keeping it real to drop it early before it gets tense and ugly?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

5 comments:

caspar608 said...

I take it the date didn't go so smoothly : ) ?

Tammy said...

that song was beautiful. ray charles would be proud...and he had an orchestra behind him. who was that?

Cocoa Rican said...

The singer was Michael Buble. He's actually pretty good... very talented. Love his version and wanted to share it. So appropriate too... LOL

caspar608 said...

I love Michael Buble. I especially love " I Want to Go Home".

Anonymous said...

I think that it's best to get the discussion out of the way. There are just some people that are so rigid in their ways that they don't want to compromise on any sexual level. Gone are the days of just TOPS and BOTTOMS. In those days, the top fuck the bottom and ate his ass. The bottom sucked the tops dick and got fucked. But people have realized that there is more to sex than solid and rigid roles.

But then again, I guess that's why it's damn near impossible to find someone with whom we are fully sexually compatible.