Friday, April 27, 2007

Morning Edition - 4/27/07

Greatest Love Of All; Wonderful 2s
Two years ago, after a difficult pregnancy, my sister gave birth to the most beautiful baby in the world. My Daylen has been the greatest love I’ve known and I was slightly disappointed that after reminding myself for the last two weeks that his birthday was coming up, I actually missed it yesterday. The family is planning to cut a cake for him today. Admittedly, this is a very difficult period for my family, particularly between my sister and me, but Daylen is and will always be my greatest love of all. Happy 2nd birthday Day-Day!

Sanjaya; Oh Yeah...I'm Not Gay

Sanjaya Malakar, the most controversial American Idol contestant ever, sat down with People Magazine and talked about his upbringing and his sexual orientation. The 17-year old Malakar went on record saying that being raised by his mom and having such a close relationship with women gave him an understanding of women. This understanding, he says, always had women at his side, and conversely, had the guys disliking him. He also mentioned that his close relationship with women and his cheek-peck greetings with women led men to believe he was gay. He says he’s not gay and that he had a girlfriend at 16, but dropped her when she became too clingy. The Hoola dancing, hair obsessing waif – formerly referred to me as my Golden Sunshine – didn’t know what to say to Jimmy Kimmel, of ABCs Jimmy Kimmel Live, last night, when Kimmel asked why he decided to come out and say he wasn’t gay when People Magazine never asked the question directly. Sadly, Kimmel’s question is a valid one. Although many may have had questions about Malakar’s sexual orientation, no one had blatantly said he was gay. His preemptive approach to tackling the issue poses more questions than it answers.

The HOE’s Travels
My dating foray with the HOE has been a good one. We enjoy each other’s company and our dates are both romantic and comforting. He has many qualities that make him a great candidate for a long-term partnership. The one issue that has us doing the one-step-forward-two-steps-back dance is his extensive vacationing since we’ve met. Two weeks after meeting he took a two week vacation to Machu Picchu in Peru. Today, he’s leaving for Bali, a small Indonesian Island, for another two weeks. This would be a non-issue, except it has also allowed me more time to invest on dating Baby Daddy. Baby Daddy and I have a lot more in common than the HOE and I; he gets me and we really share serious passion when we’re together. The comparison probably would never have come to play if the HOE wasn’t gone so often and for so long. Time will tell where my dating with these two goes, but this early on the concept of absence-makes-the-heart-grow-fonder becomes more of an out-of-sight-out-of-mind reality.

On Blast
In my opinion, the issue of sexual orientation is really not anyone’s business and the question need not be addressed, unless the respondent feels there’s a valid reason for divulging his/her personal business.
Why do you believe Sanjaya Malakar used such a public and gossip-ridden forum to reveal he is straight when he was not asked about his sexual orientation? Does his assertion raise more questions for you than it answers?

Keep passin’ the open windows…


WhozHe said...

I don't know if you can read much into Sanjaya's "I'm not gay" declaration. I know many guys who did not believe they were gay at that age. They simply liked being around girls, thought the thing to do was to date girls, so they thought "I'm not gay." A few years later they realize the opposite.

Joey Bahamas said...

She's gorgeous!!!

Karim said...

Sanjaya's not gay. Right and I'm the king of France.

Cocoa Rican said...

Joey... Daylen is my nephew.. pretty, I know...but it's a HE. LOL
Yeah Karim...I get the sense someone's a bit silly.

Anonymous said...

If he stated that he is not gay then he is NOT. Who are we to judge? why is this important? Do we want him to be Gay? Does it matter??

Cocoa Rican said...

Anonymous...I believe that's the point and the reason why we're asking why he felt the need to blurt out ANYTHING regarding his sexual orientation when NO ONE asked. Quite honestly, what I think of Sanjaya's sexual orientation is unimportant - regrettably, we're not sleeping together. Now, when he makes it a point to assert that's he's straight and has frequently been though of as gay, then I am in all my right to address his assertion and question his motivaiton.