Sex Pays; Love Costs
Last night DJ and I sat for the 90-minute feature, Boy Culture. In its limited engagement in NYC (Marc 23 – Apr 3) Boy Culture is playing at a quaint little theater in lower Manhattan. The film is written and directed by Q. Allan Brocka and stars eye candy, Darryl Stephens from Noah’s Arc fame, along with Derek Magyar and Jonathan Trent. Admittedly, I went in with low expectations and thought the flick would be just another gay love story with a low budget. Instead I was pleasantly surprised and found the storyline is beautifully written and it was both hysterically funny and poignantly realistic in its portrayal of gay love. The characters are flawed, but endearing in their raw approach to discovering themselves and ultimately accepting love into their lives. I refuse to give away the storyline, but suffice to say, you’ll find yourself smiling at the end of the film and rethinking your choices with regard to handling your feelings for the person you love. The movie also explores the boundaries of relationships and what is acceptable to create a lasting bond. This movie is a must-see in my book. Check show dates for your respective city by going to
Life Support; Boo-Hoo
There are mistakes in life that have life threatening consequences. Moreover, just because you’re sorry, will not make everything right and okay. So goes the story of Ana Willis (played by Queen Latifah) who after an intravenous drug habit, discovers she is HIV+ and has lost her family to the havoc of drug use. After rehabilitation, Ana is now leading a productive life as an HIV outreach counselor and has even had another child – who is, thankfully, negative. Both her and the man who infected her now lead productive lives, but find that getting everything back – including recapturing the respect and trust of family – is sometimes more difficult than kicking a bad habit. The story introduces Evan Ross (son of legendary diva Diana Ross) as Omari, an HIV+ gay youngster. A homothug of sorts, Omari is also on the path to destruction when his world collides with Ana’s older daughter (now living with her grandmother, played by Anna Deavere Smith) Kelly. Kelly is a hard-edged, but mature, young lady. She’s aware of her mother’s effect on her life and holds a deep-seated grudge against her now-clean mom. The story of Ana and Omari is a heart wrenching one. The lesson is simple – HIV is still real in our community. Testing and treatment are the number one ways to stay alive, but most important, for all the drugs and treatment available, not all stories have a happy ending. This movie had me crying so hard I had to stop the DVR and get tissue. The characters are raw, the story is based on a true story and the message will make you want to take a stand. HIV is here folks. HIV is real. HIV can kill you. You can’t make up for past mistakes; you can only live in your reality and move forward in faith. Now pass the tissue.
Boy Culture addresses open relationships – relationships that allow partners to have interactions with individuals outside of the relationship. Last night while talking to a friend, I asked how they felt about open relationships and/or relationships that recruit and integrate third parties.
How would you feel about having an open relationship with your partner or spouse? Do you believe you would have more of an issue with your partner being physically OR emotionally involved with someone else? What do you believe are the pros and cons of open relationships?
Keep passin’ the open windows…