Tuesday, May 23, 2006

Morning Edition - 5/23/06

Overwhelming; Oprah’s Legends Ball
Last night I sat for one hour of the most heart-stirring television in recent history. Billionaire Oprah Winfrey planned an executed the greatest thank-you three-day event for legends in the entertainment and literary world. The affair brought some of the most famous names of our time together into one room. The experience – including a luncheon, gala ball and tent-revival-like closing ceremony – was opulent, genuine and original. Equally astounding is that these women had never been honored collectively before. Call me an emotional twit, but I could not contain the streaming tears as women I admired all my life, congregated to receive a resounding thank-you from their peers and the up-and-coming artists of our time. For those who missed this moment in television history, we’ll keep our eyes open for any mention of a DVD deal.

Set-back or Just Life?
My little back-trouble fiasco set my Body Beautiful campaign on its head. While sitting out for a week with excruciating back pain, I treated myself to every tasty treat I cheated myself out of for the past five months. The result was five nasty pounds that no one noticed, but I certainly felt. As I prepared to torture myself with mental beat-downs and physical work-overs, I realized that this is life. You can’t run your car at 90 mph all day, every day and a simple set-back cannot derail so many months of hard work. I’m back at the gym and slowly returning to the rigorous work-outs, but the most important lesson of this incident wasn’t lost. We will have moments of side-stepping and indulging, but we must return our focus on staying to our goal. The spotlight on Body Beautiful 2006 continues!

Sex in Bookstores and Bathrooms; The Making of a NJ Governor
Former New Jersey Governor, Jim McGreevey is touring with his soon-to-be-released book Confessions. The 384-page tell-some book (he keeps some facts to himself) details how McGreevey engaged in sexual encounters in bookstores and rest areas to avoid being discovered as gay. What the book doesn’t detail is whether these trysts occurred while he was still in office. McGreevey resigned as governor in 2004 amid allegations that he was having an affair with one of his former aides. McGreevey was married twice and has a young daughter. His book is due in stores later this year.

On Blast
On the Down Low On My Way to the Top; Why are stories about white men engaging in homosexual or bisexual behavior not directly associated with the HOT issue of the down low, but any mention of men of color carrying-on a separate sex life with other men immediately pegged as the down low? Is there a double-standard and a new prejudice brewing in the sordid world of cheating homosexual/bisexual men? Does the “down low” only refer to men of color who cheat with other men? Can this phenomenon be attributed to a more vocal group of women – namely women of color – and their hypersensitivity to this issue?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

10 comments:

Just Me said...

The DL, in my opinion, is not just related to men of color. I believe that it's related to a certain income class. White collar workers have been doing this type of thing for many years. Darrin, from Bewitched has been on the DL for many years and then finally decided, after his series ended to relieve himself of the burden. John Wayne took his secret to his grave. I can see many sports and actors on the DL while their managers and Presidents are bisexuals...Refugees or evacuees, Alternate lifestyle or Gay? Different classes will use different words. That's why we need to understand the power of WORDS and choose carefully...

Cocoa Rican said...

My opinion is slightly controversial in that I believe the DL phenomenon is fueled not so much by the media, but by the target audience driving the charge. I believe black women have long sought a reason or scapegoat for the troubled black partnership (male/female) issue. The decline of healthy relationships; two-parent families and the perception that successful black men will avoid black women at all costs, are all reasons why, now frustrated, black women have turned to the DL as yet another reason why they have trouble maintaining a healthy relationship with black men. Women of other cultures see the DL as an anomaly that affects a few men and don’t generalize to search for that behavior in ALL the men of their culture. Hey…it may sound crazy, but before you fire back think long and hard…your man probably already has…. LOL

Tammy said...

that's because the DL is yet another reason why we have trouble maintaining a healthy relationship with black men.

caspar608 said...

I hear Tammy's engine revving.
Being "on the DL" has the potential to DESTROY lives. A man on the DL takes vows with his wife, makes babies, comes home after screwing his DL partner and just lives a very deceitful life. ALthough, I have to say, being on the DL with a woman when you are a man IS EXACTLY the same. Regardless of whom you choose to be on the DL with...infidelity is infidelity. PERIOD. Vows, homes and hearts are broken for some really selfish and insafe behavior.

But we all must keep in mind that Christ is the Redeemer. And everyone is worthy of forgiveness for their transgressions. Even if it means you must forgive from a distance. ANd that is my sermon for today....

Cocoa Rican said...

Tam... breathe, think about how black women can accept SOME of the responsibility for alienating the black men and let's start talking from there.... you know when it comes to black men, I'm the expert. LOL

Just Me said...

Come on ladies, you want to make it appear like it's the man's fault for relationships not working. Let's be real....You've heard the saying, "One bad apple spoils the barrel". Let the first woman who hasn't cheated on a man throw herself on the tracks. If you haven't slept/desired a man who was already in a relationship you can slap this brutha with NO thought of retaliation. I refuse to let you place your shortcomings on the man. We are ALL responsible, men and women....Let's look in the mirror and straighten him/her first. There are NO saints in this forum, only humans.

Tammy said...

I dont care what you refuse "Just Me". The question was about the DL...not about relationships and who is to blame. Now...if I have been with azzholes in my life...then you bet I'm going to place the blame on them. I am not saying that all relationships end because "the man" dont know how to act...I can only speak on personal relationships. And Dammit, they were AZZHOLES!!!!! SHYT! call a spade a spade!!! And for your information "Just Me", I have never cheated on a man, not because I am so pious but its because I am a GOTDAMN QUEEN, and I dont spread myself thin. Besides, its to much work. Now, what were tawking about?

caspar608 said...

TESTIFY Tammy!!!!! TESTIFY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have never cheated on anyone either simply because I am a WOMAN of INTEGRITY.

Iloved my enemy until I could no longer tolerate his behavior so now I love him like Bette Midler...From A Distance.

Cocoa Rican said...

oh girls, girls!!! I've cheated with more men than are mentioned in the old and new testament, but I sincerely loved every one of my partners and would never have done anything to really hurt them. In retrospect it was stupid, but hey, you live and learn. Now, that said, the question was about the DL and I realize my comment asked black women to own-up to the issue and the repercussions. That said, let's not turn this into a completely separate issue; ie. black women as victims in relationships and unable to accept ownership for the lack of cohension in the black family...that my sistahs is another issue that can be addressed later.... Cas...stop co-signing...you love that man of yours and rumor has it..... LOL :)

caspar608 said...

Look at all dese rumahs surrounding me everyday....

Contrary to your statement Mr. Cocoa that "man of mine" hasn't been that man of mine since he decided to call me something outside of my name just to keep screwing an idiotic syracuse university student. He never thought he would be caught, but he was, and I haven't looked at him the same since. Matter of fact, his unemplyed azz has been MIA since February so if you see him let him know that the papers are already in and he better ready himself mentally to put on an orange mesh vest and a hard hat...he'll be picking up dirt from the side of the highway with the rest of the deadbeat Dads.

You want some more of the real deal or are you going to try to NY Post me?