Monday, October 31, 2005

Morning Editon - 10/31/05

Happy Halloween!

Carlos C.; Drained – Literally
After a scary touch-and-go on Thursday night, Carlos had his chest cavity lanced and drained Friday. He remained hospitalized until last night, when he was sent home with a nurse that will change his dressing for the next week-or-so. Carlos has already been advised to see another hospital and another physician.

50 Cents For Your Thoughts?
Paramount Pictures agreed to take down billboards for the new 50 Cent flick, Get Rich or Die Tryin’, after activists and community groups expressed outrage at the poster depicting Fiddy with a microphone in one hand and a gun in the other. Placed strategically in underprivileged areas, most activists’ believed the billboards were sending the wrong message. Get Rich or Die Tryin’ will be in theaters on Wednesday, November 9.

Okay, I’m in Love; Call me a fan
Noah’s Arc has stirred the same undying devotion in me that Queer as Folk did five years ago. The show, which premiered on the Logo Channel two weeks ago, will be airing a new episode this Wednesday at 10 p.m. In this week’s episode Wade wants Noah to butch-it-up a bit for his straight friends, who coincidentally, don’t know Wade is exploring other sexual avenues. Noah struggles to maintain his identity and stand his ground. This weekend, my close circle of friends and I watched the first three episodes repeatedly and picked them apart with the precision exercised by anal men across the globe – Siskel and Ebert beware! By the way Bobby – Wade is my man and you and the crew will need to find another favorite character to lust after. For a look at the dreamy Wade check out…

On Blast
How important are public displays of affection (PDA) to maintaining a healthy relationship and what purpose – outside of warding-off onlookers – do PDAs serve?

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Friday, October 28, 2005

Morning Edition - 10/28/05

Carlos C. In Hospital Again; Possible Surgery
Doctors discovered Carlos C. had residual blood in his chest cavity that may now be infected and require surgery. This morning Carlos and the family will meet with surgeons to discuss whether treatment will be needed. Surgery was aborted last night when it was found that Carlos' Cumadin levels were too high posing a his risk for bleeding during surgery.

Long Story Short
Frankie H. will be laid to rest today. Frankie died last Thursday of liver and kidney failure. Services will be held at Owens Funeral Home in Harlem, between 3-7 p.m. Ronald, who worked with Frankie at North General Hospital in NYC, died last Tuesday. The cause of his death is still unknown. Monday, NYC celebrates their yearly Halloween parade. Although the parade was primarily a gay function it has now gained wide straight attendance and support. Ladies... are we going together this year?

On Blast
Try as I may... Sometimes the exposure to frequent death, illness and tragedy can inspire a sense of detachment in people. I've recently felt that I'm becoming emotionally numb in an effort to methodically handle the negative instances in my life.
Name one instance that has affected your life so greatly that you may have shut down emotionally to cope with it?

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Thursday, October 27, 2005

Morning Edition - 10/27/05

You Know What?! Forget it!
Harriet Miers, nominated by President Bush for the Supreme Court to replace outgoing justice Sandra O’Connor withdrew her nomination today. Miers was said to have had close ties to Bush – always in-step and in agreement with the Pres. Unfortunately, no one could figure out what Miers’ views were on any of the important issues – abortion, gay marriage, etc. Strangely, her choice to withdraw comes on the heels of the Senate’s announcement that they would seek documents from the White House that would clarify her views and help shed light on the Pres.’ choice to nominate her. Still on the list as a possible nominee for the Supreme Court is Attorney General Alberto Gonzales. Yeah Bush, how about a Latino nominee for the bench this time around?

Neverland will be Never-His; Beat it
Michael Jackson has reportedly placed Neverland ranch in Los Olivos, California, up for sale. Fox News reports Jackson has missed payroll dates and his ranch has seen many staff departures. At least six staffers have left to date. Jackson is presently living in Bahrain and travels to London periodically.

Noah’s Arc
Many of you tuned-in, with me, to watch the first three episodes of Noah’s Arc last night on Logo. Noah, Wade, Alex, Trey, Chance, Eddie, Ricky and the rest of the cast did a job at solidifying and dispelling many myths about gay men in general. First, I’ll admit that Noah – the pivotal character who is the namesake of the show – needs some acting lessons, but it doesn’t take away from how fun to watch the series is. The new episode, which aired at 10 p.m., held some pretty touching, yet hysterical storylines. First, Wade shows his jealousy of the hands-on relationship shared by Noah and Ricky. As it turns out, Ricky and Noah never actually engaged in any hanky-panky thanks to a premature “skeet” on Noah’s part. We also discovered that Chance’s man, Eddie, has been cheating – while Chance baby-sits his daughter, no less! Chance took care of the problem and I especially love the “We need to talk,” following running your mini-van through someone’s living room! Alex is getting tired of having to get “freaky” with his long-time partner Trey. Trey has taken a liking to toys, leaving Alex to experiment much more than he cares for. Our next installment of Noah’s Arc is Wednesday, November 2, beginning at 9:30 p.m. Having trouble remembering who is who by name, then check out

On Blast
You be the judge… Noah’s Arc explores gay men of color and gives a glimpse into different personality types within our community. Now I want to hear what you thought…

On a scale of 1-5 (1 being the highest and 5 being the lowest) How would you rate the entertainment quality (funny, dramatic, insightful) of the show?

Who is your favorite character? Why?

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Wednesday, October 26, 2005

Morning Edition - 10/26/05

Stay Away; Folks Hate You More
Pastor Ryan Rush of Bannockburn Baptist Church in Austin Texas told the Ku Klux Klan to stay away from a rally set to take place November 8 supporting proposition 2 which supports the Gay Marriage Amendment – a cause near and dear to the religious right. Basically, proposition 2 establishes the definition of marriage as one man and one woman – implicitly including this definition in the Texas constitution; prohibits judges from ever redefining marriage and restricts government bodies in Texas from using tax dollars to officially recognize or give benefits to homosexuals. Pastor Rush says he doesn’t want a riot to ensue because a hate-group, such as the Klan, supports this important cause. Quick question Reverend; so you’re saying it’s okay to hate the gays, but hating the gays while hating people of color is out of the question?

How Much Fat?
McDonald’s has finally relented to the pressures that be and agreed to display nutritional information right on the food packages and containers beginning February 2006. The new “sticker shock” will debut at the Olympic Winter Games in Turin, Italy. McDonald’s presently has nutritional information on their website and in some restaurant postings. A 2003 documentary entitled “Supersize Me” exposed McDonald’s as one of the leading fast food chains having meals with poor nutritional value.

Uh, Yeah… Let Me Swab Your Mouth First
We will soon have an at-home HIV test that will make knowing your partner’s or prospective partner’s HIV status a no-brainer. OraSure Technologies, in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania makes the home test – as easy to take as a home pregnancy test. Although the product has been ready for quite some time, there was fear that people testing positive for HIV would panic and suffer further damage without counseling. Now, researchers believe that the advent of new drugs may have made folks realize that you can live (medicated of course) with the condition. “If we’re going to win the war against AIDS, we need to make HIV testing as easy as pregnancy testing,” said Dr. Freya Spielberg, a researcher in the Center for AIDS Research at the University of Washington.

Noah’s Arc; Tonight starting at 9:00 p.m.
My new favorite program airs its second episode today. The hunks of Noah’s Arc take center stage as Wade experiences some jealousy about Noah and Ricky’s past. If you’re wondering what the f*ck I’m talking about then you’re in luck, because tonight Logo will rerun the premiere episode at 9 p.m., followed by the new episode at 10 p.m. The new episode will only be 30 minutes long. As Carlos C. joked last weekend, my phone is ringing non-stop from close friends who are enjoying the show as much as I am. Tomorrow, our blog will thoroughly discuss the first two episodes. I’m very interested in getting the female perspective on this show, so please tune-in. Boys… you know I know what you think!

On Blast
Scenario: You’ve already engaged in unprotected sexual intercourse with your current partner. The new HIV home test is released and you have the opportunity to know, without a doubt, your partner’s HIV status. Would you ask them to take the test and share the results with you or would you continue to trust their word and forgo the test?

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Tuesday, October 25, 2005

Afternoon Edition - 10/25/05

No Park-ing
Rosa Parks is a name that will live in history as the spark that began the fire that was the civil rights movement. By refusing to give up her seat on a bus almost 50 years ago, she rallied others to the quest for equality. Last night, Parks, 92, died at her home in Detroit. "At the time I was arrested I had no idea it would turn into this," she said 30 years later. "It was just a day like any other day. The only thing that made it significant was that the masses of the people joined in." Her struggle for equality lives on.

Freddy’s New Nightmare
The controversial Baptist minister, Fred Phelps, who set up the Westboro Baptist Church in Kansas didn’t know a reporter was in his midst when he mentioned that he was “thankful” the London bombings and hurricane Rita killed so many Brits and Americans because both countries tolerate homosexuals and homosexuality. The Sky Report investigation in London includes secret filming of Phelps spewing his hate from within his Topeka compound. His church presently has approximately 150 followers – many of whom visit the funerals of American soldiers killed in Iraq waving banners that read, “Thank God 9/11” and AIDS Cures Fags.”

Boobs Weighing You Down
Ladies, ladies, ladies… yes, it sounds really HOT to tell a guy how top heavy you are, but the truth of the matter is, your breasts are not the total mass of what’s weighing you down up-top. An A-cup can weigh up to a ¼ pound, while a B-cup weighs half a pound. Working with a D-cup? Well, those babies are about a pound a piece. While in your 20s your boobs consist of primarily fat, milk glands and collagen. This explains why those girls sit up when you’re young. Unfortunately, as you age the collagen – which helps breasts hold their firmness – is replaced by fat tissue, which weighs them down. The added weight sends those puppies south of the border. To help give the illusion of perky ta-tas, try an over-the-shoulder-boulder-holder with under wire.

On Blast
Plowing away at warp speed during sex is not necessarily the way to keep your intercourse interesting. While some folks vary between oral sex and penetration our question today focuses on the “what ifs” of life. If you had to choose only ONE style of sexual interaction for the remainder of your life, what would it be? (Oral, physical penetration, the use of outside toys & gadgets, etc.) Why?

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Monday, October 24, 2005

Morning Edition - 10/24/05

The Sunshine State Now The Hurricane State?
Wilma officially struck Florida this morning, making it the 12th hurricane to hit US shores this year. Winds were said to be in the 125 mph range. Hundreds of thousands of folks in the Key West and Miami area are said to be without power and already one death in Florida is being blamed on the storm. Forecasters say Wilma is now a category 3 hurricane.

Putting PMS To Rest
A study in the Obstetrics and Gynecology journal reported that diet plays a vital role in reducing the mood wings, bloating, breast tenderness and blemishes that occur right before menstruation. Apparently the reason behind these uncomfortable symptoms is an imbalance in your body’s hormones; there is too much estrogen compared to the progesterone in the system. It is now believed that by eating a low-fat, vegetarian diet that includes legumes and whole grains you can increase the sex hormone-binding globulin in the blood which will keep hormones in check. At the very least women are encouraged to eat more vegetables, fruits, nuts and seeds – easy on the nuts though…. Just kidding.

Karate Chop To the Population
Dai Zhicheng, director of the Chinese Health Ministry’s Committee of AIDS Experts says China can reach an estimated 10 million AIDS cases if the disease is not seriously addressed in the near future. China has a population of 1.3 billion. China officially says it presently has 840,000 HIV/AIDS cases, but insiders say the number is grossly underestimated. China is now pouring millions of dollars into campaigns to inform the public, but the difficulty in finding work in the country have led to an increase in drug abuse and prostitution.

Cruising and the Down Low
As discussed in earlier blog posts, the Down Low is NOT a new thing; although many in the media would have you believe it is. What is amazing is the number of arrests that have taken place recently in what’s known as “cruising” in public places. That is, some down low men will gather in public bathrooms, gym locker rooms, even train station waiting areas to meet other men. Police even reported one man as specifically asking, “How long will I be detained? I have to pick up my daughter from school.” Cruising, like the down low, is not a new occurrence, but the increased arrests and the ever-more-clever gathering places begs the question – Is it easier to just come clean with your interests?

Long Story Short
Carmen C. held a banging gathering at her home Saturday. A small group of us – well, not so small when you consider Carmen was dishing out some pretty flavorful treats – gathered at her home just outside the city limits here in NYC. The mouth-watering teasers included everything from a hardy cheese dip to caramelized scallops. The grade-A chef even threw-down some pernil, pastelillos and even a personalized candle to take home while you luxuriate and massage your full stomach. Carmen also showed off her trick pelvis while breaking down some light-footed salsa moves. All-in-all, the festivities were a HUGE success. Thanks for the invite Carmen! James, oh James!?! Thanks for closing out my Saturday night with a BANG. By the way, my lower back is blown-out and it’s taking me a few minutes to stabilize myself before standing – hope that wasn’t your goal. …wink, wink. Frankie H.’s funeral arrangements are still in the works and a Friday service date is expected – I’ll keep folks posted. Late tonight and tomorrow there will be reruns of the first episode of Noah’s Arc on the Logo Channel – please check your local listings. The second episode of NA will air on Wednesday night. A few invites have been sent to me for Halloween – J’Moo are you joining me for anything this year?!

On Blast
How long is too long? This weekend I came across two beautiful ladies who hadn’t been in a serious relationship in years. How long is too long? Can waiting for the perfect man lead to a waste of prime dating years? What can they do to attract the right kind of man?

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Friday, October 21, 2005

Afternoon Edition - 10/21/05

Insecure About Security
Frank Ulerio, a 23-year old screener for the Transportation Security Administration at John F. Kennedy Airport in New York City, helped himself to $80,000 while he inspected a passenger’s bag on October 7. The passenger was headed from NYC to Pakistan and noticed the cash missing when his flight landed. Now Ulerio faces up to 15 years in prison for grand larceny and possession of stolen property. When he was arrested on the job this Wednesday, Ulerio was carrying $18,000 in cash; although he has admitted to authorities he only stole $60,000.

Doggie Style
The neighbors of Ubaldo Vasquez Huizar, 39, were disgusted to see him sleeping nude in the dog house, but were even more disturbed when they witnessed him sexually assaulting the family dog, Mayra the Rottweiler. When detectives visited Huizar to inform him that he needed to register as a sex offender for a previous offense – Huizar was charged for exposing himself to an 11-year old girl – they were told of Huizar’s assault on the dog. Now Huizar is being charged with two counts of sexual assault on an animal. He also has a $10,000 outstanding drug warrant – go figure! Huizar was booked at the West Valley Detention Center in California. Other neighbors reported seeing Huizar dancing in his yard wearing a woman’s bra and panties prior to this incident.

The University of Iowa is adding a new course to the classes offered in January – Introduction to Queer Studies. Developed by Dr. Warren Blumenfeld and Kathy Hickok the course will explore issues like announcing your gay and coming out. Other universities presently have queer studies as a major and the University of Iowa hopes to build the queer curriculum to also include a queer major. The school already offers Global Queer Cinema as a course.

Long Story Short
Frankie H. is dead. Doctors at North General Hospital say Frankie died at approximately 2 a.m. yesterday of liver and kidney failure. The memorial service has not been announced. Tonight (well, tomorrow morning) at 1 a.m., Logo will re-run the first episode of Noah’s Arc. It’s worth watching folks, so please take a peek. I want us to really discuss the series as it progresses. Who’s that boy? A curious interaction has taken place of late. An odd flirting ritual led to a fellow male rider finally speaking this morning. We spent about 10 minutes smiling and chatting-it-up before I dashed-in to the office, my heart racing a mile a minute. What’s with the butterflies? My aunt Hena is out of the hospital and is recovering at home after suffering a massive stroke over a week ago. She is in a wheelchair and presently has one side paralyzed. My Life As A Man…. That’s what I’ve chosen to name my first novel. I will begin the framework this weekend. The novel will include pieces (ideas) from the G in E Flat short story and the basic storyline behind my failed One Bad Apple attempt last year. Keep your fingers crossed.

On Blast
The vagina is supposed to be a thing of beauty – okay, give me a minute to keep my lunch down here – outside of cleanliness, is there any reason to trim hair in that region? Do men and lesbians really prefer a bare or manicured vagina? Women: Do you feel sexier in a natural state or with your coochie manicured?

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Thursday, October 20, 2005

Morning Edition - 10/20/05

Momma I Want To Swim
Lashaun Harris, 23, is being charged with three counts of murder after she allegedly tossed her three children, Trayshaun Harris, 6; Travante Greely, 3; and Joshua Harris, 1, into the San Francisco Bay. To date, only Travante Greely’s body had been recovered from the bay. San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom said, “I’m sick to my stomach,” before leaving the scene. Lashaun Harris told authorities voices told her to throw her children into the bay. Harris had been staying at a Salvation Army shelter with her three children.

Noah’s Arc; Review
Last night marked the first episode in Logo channel’s new series Noah’s Arc. Most of the actors were exquisitely beautiful - although some of the relationship pairings seemed far-fetched; with buff, strapping Mandingo types sharing long-term commitments with sloppy flamboyant average-folk (Alex and Trey). I know, it sounds superficial. …but let’s get real folks, this is a gay series and we know gay men as a group can be slightly “appearance” conscious. The main character, Noah, is a stereotypical, effeminate type – albeit extremely gorgeous. His friends: the sloppy and over-the-top Alex; the hooker with his own business, Ricky; the professor with the husband and baby, Chance; the Mandingo built like a brick shyt-house, Trey; and the incomparably sexy Wade; ,made up the cast for the first episode. Characters will be added as the series progresses. Admittedly the acting can use some help and I suspect that as the series grows, the acting will loosen-up and take shape. The story lines are slightly unbelievable – although with a cast this HOT, I can see how some issues could creep up. My favorite scene was when Noah meets Wade at his crib for a potential threesome with a very sexy girl. I don’t want to give away any of the story, but suffice to say that the interaction between the flamboyant Noah and the female left me needing a very, very cold shower. As reported yesterday, a repeat of last night’s episode will air on Friday at midnight on Logo. The series is set to air Wednesday’s at 10 p.m., but be sure to check the Logo site for the schedule in your area -

Long Story Short
Carmen C. is having a gathering at her home Saturday at noon. Invitees will be treated to a true-Rican style meal and dessert. I have an odd, but pleasant date of sorts scheduled for Saturday night. We’ll keep our fingers crossed that I don’t have to cook breakfast Sunday morning – wink, wink. Cedric P. is having a birthday dinner in early November with friends – editor not invited, although I was asked to create the invitations (go figure…yeah, it takes balls). Aisha D. had a successful interview for a promotion this morning. Will we be having frequent lunches together? Mario, of ABA customer service fame, got the boot from the association recently. Rumor has it the axe came down over time spent calling-in “slick.” Resident blogger Caspar breastfeeding grown men? What’s really going on?! Slugger suspected of taking items from Frankie’s apartment BEFORE they pull the plug at the hospital? God don’t like ugly girl.

On Blast
As mentioned earlier, I was extremely turned-on by the “potential” threesome scene on last night’s Noah’s Arc. Whether it was the completely jaw-dropping beauty of the cast or the soft sex-appeal of the actors, I was mesmerized and “heated” at watching the interaction between Noah, the female (Terry?) and Wade. What was most surprising was my fascination between Noah and Terry. All this said to ask, have you ever been turned-on, attracted-to or sexually intrigued by someone of the opposite sexual orientation? Notice, I didn’t ask if you’ve been turned on by the opposite sex. This means, if you’re straight, have you been turned on by someone who is gay and if you’re gay, have you been turned-on by someone who is straight? For the bisexual or freaky, respond by addressing an instance when you’ve been turned on by someone you wouldn’t normally be attracted to. Please note that this doesn’t mean you ever acted on it or that your sexuality is coming in to question. If you’re at all embarrassed by the question, please feel free to hit the anonymous button in our comments section prior to posting your comment.

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Wednesday, October 19, 2005

Afternoon Edition - 10/19/05

A category five hurricane that packs over 175 mph winds, Wilma has broken all records; it’s the most intense Atlantic storm in recorded history. Wilma is expected to deposit over 25 inches of rain in Cuba and over 15 inches to neighboring Cayman Islands and Jamaica. Florida is considered her first U.S. target. The strongest storm to hit the U.S. prior to Wilma was Gilbert in 1988. Florida has suffered over $20 billion in damages and 150 deaths this year from hurricanes. Wilma is not expected to touch the Gulf Coast devastated by Rita and Katrina a couple of months ago. Wilma is the 12th hurricane, tying this year with that of 1969 for the most hurricanes for one season.

Don’t Ride the Pony
On July 2, James Tait and his roommate, who share a farmhouse, were visited by a friend from Seattle. It was in the neighbor’s barn that the three engaged in a bestiality session with a horse that left the Seattle man dead. The King County Medical Examiner says the Seattle man died of acute peritonitis due to perforation of the colon – to put it bluntly, he was screwed to death by the horse (don’t ask!). Now the Kings County prosecutor in Washington State is charging Tait with criminal-trespassing – the most serious offense in this case. Washington State does not outlaw bestiality – only a dozen states do. “There is no evidence of injury to the animal to support animal-cruelty charges," said Dan Satterberg, the county prosecutor's chief of staff. "This is the only crime we can charge."

I Ain’t Sayin’
New Zealand is not the pulse of the American legal system, but it has set an important precedent when it ruled that Justin Dalley, 36, an HIV positive man, was not required to tell his female sexual partner about his infection if he wore a condom to protect her. Under New Zealand law you are not required to disclose any STD or HIV infection to your sexual partners if you do not endanger your partner. Judge Susan Thomas said Dalley’s legal duty was to take reasonable precautions to avoid transmitting the virus and he had done so by wearing a condom. Dalley and the alleged victim met on the internet.

Long Story Short
The long-awaited Logo Channel series, Noah’s Arc, airs tonight at 10 p.m. and 11 p.m. It will air again at a reasonable hour on Friday at midnight. Noah’s Arc explores the life of four black gay men in Los Angeles. Since the Logo Channel is not a pay channel ala Showtime, HBO, etc. chances are this show will not be as steamy as say, Queer As Folk or Oz. To read more about the show or meet the attractive cast, go to
Our dear friend Frankie H. will have his life support machines turned off tomorrow. Frankie’s family believes there is no point in having him remain in this state with his kidneys and liver failing. Carlos C. is home from the hospital and fixing dinner for the masses. Carlos had his sisters over for dinner last night for a Spanish food medley. Tomorrow we will have our first Manners Mutha Fuka column. The spot will detail pet peeve issues that we can share with each other to help us understand annoying, rude and sometimes inconsiderate traits that can be changed for the better of all – we can all use a little brush-up. I’ll be heading out to the shining star of the Caribbean on Saturday, November 19. Freaking Rican will be in Puerto Rico at the same time, so I’m sure we’ll do plenty of hanging out.

On Blast
Is there an age when we should consider “growing up” and ceasing to participate or partake of certain activities, such as clubbing, tattoos, piercing, etc.? Is age simply a number or do we need to set a cut-off age?

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Monday, October 17, 2005

Afternoon Edition - 10/17/05

One Side Of The Story
Toledo Ohio Mayor, Jack Ford, never imagined that granting a permit and police escort for a march of a white supremacist group calling themselves America’s Nazi Party would result in the rioting and disaster that ensued in his city Saturday. In the end, the march could not take place and over 65 protesters were arrested. The supremacist group alleges the white people in the community were being harassed by black gang members. There was an 8 p.m. curfew issued for the city for the duration of the weekend. One black resident blamed city officials for allowing such a march to take place, while a spokesperson for the Nazi group blamed the police for losing control of the situation. Most news stories portrayed the black community as wild and unruly.

The Poppies Will Make Them Sleep
Months ago my parents visited and I joked about giving them a sleep aid to knock them out for a few hours. …uh, that was a joke folks. Anyway, Medeco has produced a new study that shows the use of sleep aids is increasing among young adults and even school-age children. The report showed that the number of 20-44 year olds using sleep aids doubled between 2000 and 2004. More dramatic was the stat that said 10-19 year olds were using sleep aids 223% more often than in years past. The study also highlighted the use of sleep aids by women was much more prevalent than by men.

Hard Facts Unknown
The Centers for Disease Control & Prevention (CDC) and the National Institute of Drug Abuse held a conference in September to discuss, among other issues, the prevalence of HIV and high risk behavior in gay men misusing erectile dysfunction drugs – street names include: Viagra, Cialis and Levitra. The conference discussed how there appears to be a link between the “hard-dick” drugs, substance abuse and risky sex. “What’s unclear is if the substance abuse comes first, or after taking impotence drugs,” said David Purcell, a senior behavioral scientist from the Centers for Disease Control & Prevention. “We can’t say because the information we have comes from studies done for another reason and stumbled onto the erectile dysfunction issue,” he added. HIV positive men tend to use the “woody” drugs to combat the effects of their antiviral medications, while substance abusers use it to maintain an erection. Before prescribing erectile dysfunction drugs all at the conference agreed that a sexual history and STD exam should be performed on every patient to insure patients with a history of issues get proper treatment. The drug makers, who were represented at the CDC conference, do not want a label placed on their product warning users that the use of the erectile dysfunction drugs can lead to HIV and STDs since they feel there is no direct link between the drug and the infections.

On Blast
An estimated 46% of men over 40 suffer from erectile dysfunction. Would you encourage your partner to use a drug to help with the condition or would you simply deal with the soft member? How important is it for your partner to maintain an erection?

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Friday, October 14, 2005

Morning Edition - 10/14/05

Unwilling Surrogate
Valerie Lynn Oskin was bashed in the head by Peggy Jo Conner in a bizarre attempt to cut-out and steal Oskin’s baby. Oskin was eight months pregnant. Doctors treated Oskin and delivered her baby at Allegheny General Hospital in Pittsburgh. Conner is charged with aggravated assault and attempted homicide for her alleged role in the ordeal.

Yeah, Ask Me To Ejaculate For You
Today, bearing children doesn’t always involve a man and a woman copulating. Now, there are as many different ways to make that family as there are children. As always, a loop-hole and issue comes to light. A Swedish man who donated his sperm to a lesbian couple in the 90s was treated to a rude awakening when he was sued for child support by the mother of the children. The lawsuit – which made it all the way to the Supreme Court in Sweden – said that three sons born between 1992-1996 were fathered by the man. The lesbian couple split shortly after the man signed the parental agreement that showed he was the biological father of all three boys. Sweden’s Supreme Court ruled that as the biological father he is required to pay for the children’s upbringing. Americans beware!

Long Story Short
Sara R. will be celebrating her graduation from New York University (NYU) tomorrow. The festivities will take place at her home in my former neighborhood in the Bronx. Frankie H., the queen mother of Harlem, is in the intensive care unit at North General Hospital. Her prognosis is grim, but we are hopeful that the Lord will make a way somehow. While visiting Frankie on Tuesday I asked her if I would be promoted from my position as His Eminence of the NYC Flamers in the event of her demise and she said, “Don’t keep your fingers crossed on becoming queen – bitch!” I’ll take that as a good sign that she plans to stick around for a while. Carlos C. is again in the hospital. This time the clot in his lung is believed to be infected. A lung tap will be done today to determine the status of the mass. Medical staff suggested they might want to do surgery – an extensive procedure that would involve a “smiley” face cut from his back to the front of his rib cage and requires removing two ribs. The family will seek a second opinion if the matter escalates to surgery. My aunt, Hena is still recovering from a massive stroke that has left her speechless. She can hear and I insisted my mom put her cell phone to Hena’s ear for me to shout, “YOU’RE SUPPOSE TO WAIT FOR ME TO ARRIVE IN NOVEMBER TO BE SPEECHLESS!” She grunted loudly which I assume means she’s going to wait for me to visit before making a departure. I’m buying my tickets for my Thanksgiving trip to Puerto Rico today. I’ll be sure to take plenty of pictures to share with you guys – although with my new girth, I doubt any will be beach photos. Bobby S. had a knee probe to determine if there were loose shards of bone in his knee causing his recurring pain. Doctors fear the pain may be caused by a degenerative case of arthritis. Resident blogger, Krissy, will be taking her two day martial arts exam beginning tonight. The blonde (well, frosted and streaked blonde) bombshell expects to one day open her own martial arts studio – hey, I don’t know how to properly spell “doe-joe.” ABAs Shannon Williams is home on double-strength Percocet after tearing her ACL a short time ago. Williams is awaiting news on whether she’ll need surgery to repair the tear. In short folks – WE NEED SOME PRAYER!!! There are too many of our friends and family presently sick, hurt or in need the last couple of weeks. For the record – the devil is a lie.

On Blast
Sex and love come hand-in-hand for some folks, while others have a clear separation between the two. Would a sex act with someone other than your “lover” compromise the love shared with the person you’re in love with? Do we (Americans) put too much emphasis on the physical aspect of sex acts?

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Wednesday, October 05, 2005

Morning Edition 10/5/05

Uh… We’re Going To Need That Money Back
After investigating claims brought-up by Senator Bill Nelson of Florida, FEMA (the federal agency who handles disasters) announced that it will work to recoup over $30 million in funds handed-out to folks in Florida who either received payments from their personal insurance companies or were given duplicate payments by the agency. Among the Florida counties targeted by FEMA - St. Lucie and Palm Beach - where the agency says it wants $7.1 million in funds back.

The Day After Tomorrow; Getting Prepared – Yesterday!

With a population six times the size of New Orleans, New York City’s over 3 million residents can find themselves in quite a pickle if a hurricane ever hit our shores. The last hurricane to strike the Apple occurred in 1938, killing over 700 people. The Office of Emergency Management (OEM) says that it can handle the evacuation of the over 3 million New Yorkers, but admitted that it would take over 18 hours to evacuate every 1 million people. Hmm, who gets to leave first? In 1821 a hurricane had waves that topped 13 feet per hour – definitely a concern if it will take 18 hours to evacuate just one million of us. Weather experts say the most difficult part of hurricane preparation for New York is convincing New Yorkers that there is a real danger for the nation’s largest city.

Lauryn Hill, De La Soul and others; Free NYC Central Park Concert Tomorrow
Take Back TV, a new independent network inspired by folks who believed our youth should be more creative and directly affect what they watch on the tube, is hosting a free concert at NYC’s Central Park, tomorrow at 5 p.m. The concert will feature artists Lauryn Hill, De La Soul, Fishbone, Simone Dawes, Suffrajett, Rich Medina, Malene Younglao and Slum Village. Tickets are free, but MUST be obtained online at The concert is for all; not just kids.

On Blast
Loving enough… “I loved him a great deal, just not enough…” Torch Song Trilogy. Today’s question is: What is enough?
A mother runs to push her child out of harms way only to be crushed by a truck. A lover jumps in front of an assailant’s bullet saving his partner, but ending his own life. There are also more subtle displays, but ultimately what would you define as “enough”? Do you believe you’ve loved someone “enough”? What is an example of “enough” love in your life?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

Tuesday, October 04, 2005

Morning Edition - 10/4/05

Sexual Freedom or New-Found Hooker-dom
A new study from the Review of General Psychology looked at sexual behavior in young men and women from 1943 to 1999. With fifty years of hard core statistics the study is liberating and shocking. The study showed that the average age of first-time sexual intercourse for females dropped from 19 to 15. More jaw-dropping was the statistic that said only 13% of female teens said they were sexually active in 1943, while 47% said they “got busy” in 1999. Back in the forties only 12% of young women thought premarital sex was okay; that number skyrocketed to 73% today. In 1969 the survey said only 48% of youngsters engaged in oral sex – most, in fact, thought it was nasty and deviant behavior; today 72% felt it was just another way of being sexual.

He Makes My Coochy Hot
An average of 5% of women are allergic to their man’s sperm. This means that following sex they encounter itching, burning – almost the same feeling of having a yeast infection. Some gynecologist say that the number of women is slightly higher (up to 10%) for women with infertility. If you’re not sure if it’s your man’s sperm that is irritating you, experts suggest you use a condom to see if you have the same reaction. Truth is, if it’s not your husband you should be using one anyway. The pros also say that sometimes the problem isn’t your man’s sperm, rather lubricants and contraceptive jellies that do the damage. In the end, you should see your gynecologist to rule out any possibility of viral or bacterial infection.

Truth Is; Our Dead Loved Ones Live On
Yesterday’s On Blast unearthed some pretty serious emotions stemming from having a last hoorah for our deceased loved ones. While some of our resident bloggers shared some deep-rooted emotional connections to lives cut short, some voiced a longing to have a final moment to let someone know how much they care. Our loved ones live on within us and regardless of what your beliefs are, they had a lasting impact on our lives. The issue also accents a real and present situation – appreciating the loved ones in our lives today, so that we have less regrets and longings in the future. As we get older it’s important to say what we feel, tell those you care about that you love them and be there (without strings) for those that mean something in your life. Following yesterday’s discussion we should come away with a sense that you can’t fix the past, but you can learn from it. We can see that some arguments and disagreements aren’t important enough to damage the core of our relationships with those we love.

On Blast
Regardless of your current education, experience or training you are granted the opportunity to realize your professional dream and do what it is you’ve always wanted to do. You will be at the top of your game in your dream field or career path. What is that dream? What would you do? Where would you be?

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Monday, October 03, 2005

Morning Edition - 10/3/05

Meet Me In The Parking Lot At 5
It’s not enough to carry a concealed weapon legally and have the ability to use it if you have any disagreement that has you feeling threatened, now Florida has some seeking legislation that would allow them to bring their guns to work and stash them in their locked vehicles. The National Rifle Association (NRA) is, of course, a big supporter of this new sought-after legislation. There are already 353,000 folks in Florida with concealed weapons permits. Under the new law, employers who attempt to stop workers from bringing their guns to work would be committing a third degree felony and be liable for up to $5,000 in fines and five years in prison.

The One Shouting the Loudest
Usually the person shouting homophobic rants the loudest has engaged or is tempted to engage in some funny business. It’s my experience that a homophobe’s desire to deflect attention from their wants or behaviors serves to make them suspect of the same. Now, writer Keith Boykin, former President Clinton aide and writer of Beyond the Down Low, is taking a controversial approach to stifling the, sometimes hypocritical, tirades of ministers across the U.S. Boykin says that black gay men and women tend to visit black churches, rather than gay churches and it’s time that the hate spewed from these ministers toward the gay community stops. Boykin has taken a very controversial approach – he will simply research the various homophobic ministers and OUT anyone who is discovered to have had any homosexual interaction in their lifetime. The project has drawn criticism from both straight and gay groups, but ultimately, Boykin has said it is necessary to stop the hate. “I am not a fan of outing for the sake of outing,” Boykin said. “But I do believe in targeting homophobic ministers. We knew a lot of people — gay and straight — would be upset. But we have been too nice for far too long. In the 10 years I’ve been an activist, I’ve yet to see one minister change.” Presently Boykin’s website has put to question such ministers as T.D. Jakes, Bishop Eddie Long and even the Rev. Willie Wilson of DC, to name a few. To visit some of the profiles, go to

The Sky Is Falling!
Residents of Washington DC and as far reaching as Falls Church, Virginia were frantic on Saturday night when the Kennedy Center decided to launch their month-long Festival of China using a seven-minute fireworks display that sounded like a bombing or terrorist attack to area residents who had no knowledge of the event. The Washington Post reported hundreds of calls to area 911 operators who said folks were frantic. The show started at 9:50 p.m. Saturday night. "We are certainly sorry that people had that experience," said Adams, vice president for international programming at the Kennedy Center. "For the people who were here and read about it, it was on the banks of the Potomac, and it was a wonderful celebration."

Happy birthday Bobby!
The Cocoa Rican’s long-time friend and partner in crime, Bobby S., turns 41 today. The funny old-timer is spending his birthday with loved ones in Long Island, but will be making his way to the the Big Apple Saturday where we will celebrate the BIG day by catching The Gospel and throwing a few highly flammable spirits back for OLD time’s sake. Enjoy your day sunshine!

On Blast
Birthdays are something to celebrate – just look at the alternative. What person (deceased) do you wish could celebrate one more birthday? What would you write in the blank card you purchased to be read at their birthday party?

Keep passin’ the open windows…