Thursday, January 05, 2006

Morning Edition - 1/5/06

DC Going Dry?
Washington, D.C., a town that still allows dancers to strip nude (that is, without a thong, jock-strap or other concealing undergarment) may be seeing the last of its gay male strip clubs shutdown. It appears the city is in the works to build a new stadium right in the southeast zone that houses these gay establishments. Wet, Velvet Nation, The Edge and Follies, among others, may soon be clubs of the past. Under current zoning regulations establishments that feature nude dancing are restricted to one area of the city and are not allowed to move to another area of the city. D.C. mayor Anthony Williams says he's working to change that law to allow these businesses to relocate. Owners of the building that house both Wet and The Edge nightclub say both businesses are slated to move when their lease ends in September 2006 anyway. The Wet nightclub has one of the hottest black male nude dance clubs with its Chocolate Tuesdays show.

I'm So Happy I Could Kill Myself
Each year over 30,000 folks in the U.S. commit suicide. Most do so as a direct result of depression. An estimated 17 million people suffer from depression each year and most of these never seek help. So you're asking yourself, "What the f*ck does this have to do with me?" Well, chances are you will face a moment in your life where you will suffer depression or you are in the company of someone who is depressed. Depression comes about when a person loses control of their life or emotions and simultaneously encounters a feeling of hopelessness. These feelings begin to narrow an individual's perception so that the negatives in their life are intensified, while the positive aspects of their life are diminished or discounted. Recognizing these feelings and combating them with positive thoughts, exercise, relaxation and establishing hope will help folks come out of a depressive state. All said, it's not a bad idea to seek help and honestly discuss your feelings with a professional. Ultimately, suicide is a permanent solution to a likely temporary problem.

Damp Down Under
Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) is a condition that primarily affects women in their child-bearing years. The main clue that you may have BV is a fishy odor sometimes accompanied by a clear, gray or yellowish discharge. Although some women report having no symptoms of the condition, left untreated BV can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease, ectopic pregnancy (where a fetus grows outside the uterus and in a fallopian tube) and even increase a woman's chances of catching HIV. Although BV can sometimes clear-up on its own, it should be treated with antibiotics such as Metronidazole or Clindamycin. Male partners of women who suffer BV are not usually treated unless the infected woman has a drug-resistant case of BV.

Read The Signs
Our Capricorns are celebrating their birthdays this month, so let's make sure they know what the stars say about them and hope this information proves useful… hey, you never know. First, rumor has it that your best star-sign match is a Scorpio. Although rumor also has it that you lack imagination, so you may find shacking-up with say, a Sagittarius (your worst match) your way to show your strong determined side. Know your weaknesses Capis… yours are status symbols. The wicked witch in Oz may have used Poppies to make Dorothy and her friends sleep, but insiders say the Poppy is your flower. Finally, you might not want to dangle these from your feet while swimming, but you should know that lead - yes lead! - is your designated metal.

On Blast
It is said that prejudice is learned…that said, what prejudice do you now hold that you wish to overcome? Example: You have a strong negative reaction to seeing interracial couples

Keep passin' the open windows....

22 comments:

Anonymous said...

Coco Rico aka Tundo’,
Thanks for making my 28th birthday a blast! You are the best son! And as always you are a HOOT! You just get it, thanx,

Peace! J’Moo

petite morceau said...

I have always strived to keep my mind as free of prejudice as possible - be it, religion, race, sexual orientation, etc..

I know that for the most part, I am successful. However (and you knew that was coming), the one prejudice I cannot get over and hard as I try I just cannot is towards the culture of the middle-east (specifically Muslims).

I despise their culture for the unfair way of treating the women. It seems so barbaric and backwards.

And believe me, I'm not even getting into the whole terrorism side of it - I've felt this way since way before 9/11.

So, Cocoa, you asked for it, you got it. :)

KahluaLoverInVa said...

I, too, struggle w/my distaste for the Middle Eastern/Muslim culture based on their treatment of women. Until that changes, I doubt my opinion will either...~~~Kahlua~~~

Anonymous said...

I struggle with black men being "No Good." I am a black female but am turned off by black men because of past experiences. I know I should not judge "All" because of a "Few" but that is a struggle I deal with everyday. I am the mother of black children (black baby daddy's) and do not like my children playing with or associating with black children in fear that a black male may corrupt their minds with rap music, baggy pants, ebonics/slang, white tee's or Air Force Ones.

Cocoa Rican said...

Okay...the Anonymous posting at the end with the "black men" comments made my day... especially the mention of the ebonics and air force ones.... thank you... I needed to smile, laugh and tear-up...

LOL

Tammy said...

anonymous were you serious when you said you dont allow your black children to play with other black children or was that a joke? Please say it was. oh, and by the way...i think air force ones are no longer in style.

Jeanine said...

I struggle with a predjudice toward immigrants, namely immgrants from Central America. Having grown up in NYC, I don't consider my people from PR, DR or any other Carribean nation to be "foreigners" so I don't include them in my grouping. However, since living in DC, I find myself calling everyone a "Mexican" or an "African" and I have developed very little tolerance in dealing with people from these groups.

I have vowed to work on that in 2006 and less judgemental and quick tempered.

Hey Tam...how are you?

Cocoa Rican said...

For the record Anonymous... I struggle with black men being "No good" as well... but darn-it, I can't deal with anything BUT black men - go figure... they're my down-fall and my preference. LOL That said, assuming your comment is a serious one, let me say that your children are losing the ability to see themselves in their friends and will always be perceived as "black men" only now they'll have less resources and reference points to adequately deal with the conflicts black men face on a daily basis.

Anonymous said...

Cocoa Rican...regarding your comment, my children's fathers/families are very active in their lives so they do get to see how black men and women deal with society as well as conflicts as an African American. I just don't want them to be stereo-typed more than they already will be. Even though I don't want them to associate with other black children, I will be damned if they date any other race. I have a bigger struggle with mixed couples/marriages.

Anonymous said...

I have to admit that whenever a white person does something that seems to be prejudice in my eyes I call it how I see it. Example: The other day I walked behind this white guy and he opened the door just enough for him to get through and didn't hold the door for me. That made me so mad! Unfortunately, I have encountered this on more than one occasion in the building I'm working in.

Here is another example. I caught offense when my boyfriend and I went to Cancun last year and asked for some hot tea. On the packet reads…… Negro Black Tea. We also complained about our room and the hotel asked us to pay 50.00 extra a night to get another room but when two white ladies complained about their rooms they gave them choices. I found this out when I talked to one of the ladies after their encounter. She told me she wasn’t satisfied with the first three rooms that they gave them and she was going to take a look at another room after she got a drink. Of course I wrote a letter a demanded we get our money back and after eight long months we did. It’s a shame what we have to go through sometimes. It seems to me that some people are still stuck in the 50’s and 60’s.


Toni

caspar608 said...

Anonymous
You have been poisoned by the WASP society that wishes nothing more than to divide and conquer a people who are the ultimate survivors - who unfortunately have very few righteous, morally upstanding individuals who can give the community at large DIRECTION. Every race and culture has bad folks...but they should be seen as individuals rather than a representation of an entire race or culture of people. My heart breaks for you, you must have been emotionally crushed by someone and now you are trying to protect those most precious to you from suffering the same fate. But please understand this...we are all destined for greatness in this life - some on a large scale, others on a small scale. If you died today, and God asked you to explain yourself and in turn forced you to bear witness to the crucifixtion of Christ Jesus, would you then be able to justify "keeping" your children from other children who are of the same "race". For all you know, your babies may inspire other children to be better people - despite whatever it is they are witnessing at home. Please, please, please consider what I have stated in the above. I have mixed race children whom I try to shelter from the evils of the world, but ultimately it is the tools I give them (love, understanding, tolerance) that will help them to be part of the solution rather than part of the problem in this life. I really don't care about the color of their friends skin, I care more about the content of their character.
Peace and love to you,
Cas

caspar608 said...

Mind over matter = soul over flesh

- Mos Def

FREAKING RICAN said...

My struggle is my judgement and my dislike with some people from DR. My struggle first started when a piece of sh*T Dominican killed my baby brother like he was a dog in the street. After that I just noticed so many things about certain DM that really bothered me. Don't get it twisted I have DM friends and I respect them but I am talking about the ones that don't make anything of themselves or just want a handout. Ohh, and for the ones that are in PR that are making our Island a drug palace they are the ones I dislike the most. They have corrupted PR with their bullsh*T drugs and trying to pass themselves off as a PR just to get access to the US. These are the DM that totally disgust me and I am having such a hard time trying not to judge them but damn they always seem to prove me right! I know that we have men and women in all nationalities that do these things but my mind is just focused on one race and I know it is because of that ONE PIECE of SH*t that killed my brother that has me thinking like this.

Cocoa Rican said...

First Anonymous, thank you for your candor. I think many times we're afraid to voice our opinion, but it doesn't mean hiding them in any way changes them. Ultimately, you'll raise your children how you see fit. Cosigning on Caspar's remarks, having a diverse group of friends and a wealth of experiences and interactions - especially with children of their own race - will only serve to help your children cope with the challenges that will face them. I don't know how much positive influence a crippled relationship and a mother who resents their black father and black men in general serves to make your children better equipped black men/women. As family to Caspar (who by the way, is white) and her children (my nephews and niece) who are half-black, I have to say that she has taken all that is good from both cultures and is doing a fine job at raising two men and a woman who will be seen as black by many. My hat goes off to you Cas for taking on a task you had no point of reference to for and doing such a fine job. We all have so much to learn, hopefully Anonymous, you can take some of the constructive criticism and think some of your decisions through going forward. Best of luck. ;)

Cocoa Rican said...

FR,
I call Dominicans our latino black brothas. I won't even try to touch the subject of the murder of your brother - that would be insensitive. ...but for the Dominican men that I've had experiences with in the last two years, my pants... I mean, my hat goes off to you. LOL

caspar608 said...

Anonymous -
I would also like to commend you for getting all of that off your chest and out in the open. Only when we reveal and admit to our inner demons can we actually confront, combat and eventually send them back to hell. Keep talking sweetie. Let all of that hurt out. We are here for you.
Cas.

Anonymous said...

This was a wonderful question for the day. I have checked back three times to see other people's responses/comments.

Toni

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much Caspar for your comments and concerns. You are right, I was DEEPLY hurt by a black man but shouldn't stereo-type all. All of the comments posted today really have me thinking. I should raise my children to make their own decisions which they will utimately do in the end. Thanks so much for listening Fam. I really needed to get that off my chest!

Anonymous said...

Sorry Cocoa for taking over today's blog but I really needed to get that off my chest and felt this was a good time to do so. Thanks for having these discussions. They are very helpful!

Cocoa Rican said...

...that's what we're here for... hope it helps.

Tammy said...

anonymous baby...you gonna be ok, you and your babies. you listened to what others had to say, and you realized that maybe you should change somethings. it takes a very strong person to do that. i gots nuffin but love fo ya baby!!

Cocoa Rican said...

Comin' from the devil-raisin' single momma Tammy, that says a lot. If it wasn't that I wanted to coach her (now) young men, I'd say more... LOL
BTW, when are you coming to see me? Please tell Michael he's always welcome to come up to NYC for a spell. ...you know me, always tryin' to help out with my black brothas. :)