Tuesday, March 07, 2006

Morning Edition - 3/7/06

Hold Tight To Your Pole
Last weekend’s ski trip to the Eisenhower All Star Resort in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania proved you don’t have to be Bode Miller to have a good time by the slopes. Admittedly, the majority of us never made it anywhere near the snow-covered mountains, but I suspect this ski weekend had little to do with skiing and more to do with a great time. While the temperatures hovered just over 18 degrees, we boarded a 50 plus passenger bus – not one seat left available on the coach – and met some of the coolest party animals on the east coast. Thanks to Evelyn M.’s meticulous planning, there was food – and when we say food, we don’t mean chips and dip, we’re talking about rice, rotisserie chicken and a virtual complete open bar – this was just on the ride to the resort. Some of our ski family members were also avid herbalists, so whether you liked to drink or take a more scented approach to releasing your stress, our bus ride had it. Twin divas Dava and Didi B. held it down with a double-dose of class and thanks to Didi’s God-fearing prayers, we arrived to the resort safe and full. A quick shower and change and most of us were gracing the dance floor with our nightclothes draping our sweet smelling and relaxed bodies. This ski weekend may not have offered free ski rental, but it did provide a fully-stocked open bar for 10 continuous hours of each day. Following the pajama party, those that still had some gas in their tanks rushed to their rooms for the final change of the evening. With bikinis, flashy trunks and a non-stop DJ pumping out hit-after-hit, we settled in for our evening wrap-up pool party – well, if you’re considering 5:30 a.m. an evening. Worn, but none the worse for wear, the ski family retired to their rooms for a quick recharge before meeting for an 8:30 a.m. breakfast call. Tubing, skiing, shopping, roller skating or bowling, there was something for all to do. Hey, if you were just trying to lay low for the wear-what-you-dare party, you could even relax at the hotel’s pool – sun shining through the atrium above. Freaking Rican, Krissy, Celpin and Mariah-look-alike Maury-Maur took a dip and tried to squeeze in a couple of laps – hey, we were trying to keep some exercise on the agenda. A quick nap and the BIG Apple ball-busters were ready to rumble. We ate an early dinner and started-in on the 4 p.m. open bar. Shortly after, we showered, jumped into some party outfits and sat for 30-minutes of a comedian before breaking the dance floor down. Oldies, R&B, hip-hop and even backyard dominated the turntables. A group of over 300 partiers sweated and grooved until past 3 a.m. before taking the party out to the pool again. A few pool push-ins and the mood continued as light and crazed as ever. It was high school fun meets adult sensibility. Our own bus riders were inseparable – of course, some more than others – but heck, that’s another blog story all together. So where’s the big chill or the story about us bobbing and weaving through deep snow-covered peaks? Well, I guess this trip proved that whether you call it a ski weekend or a Caribbean cruise, a bus load of strangers embarked on a ride to Familyville and we all reached our destination.

It’s 1972 All Over Again In South Dakota
South Dakota legislators passed a law that makes abortion illegal in the state – even in cases of rape or incest – unless the unborn child poses a life-threatening risk to the mom. The officers at the Planned Parenthood in Sioux Falls plan to challenge the new law, but supporters of the new law have even pledged money to help fight the legal battles that will keep the law on the books. With a more conservative Supreme Court presiding on the bench, this may heat up to a boil before the final word is permanent on the books. Until all challenges are heard the legislation will stand – No Abortions. Doctors in South Dakota found to be performing illegal abortions could serve up to five years in prison.

On Blast
Ex Sex. A discussion ensued between myself and a ski weekend participant that revolved around the notion that exes have an almost unwritten “booty guarantee.” Long story short, the person mentioned that exes pose the greatest potential cheating threat to a new relationship. The basic idea was that exes are always a temptation and provide a comfortable and almost morally acceptable avenue for cheating. What’s your take on this issue? Do exes provide your greatest source of temptation? Would you sleep with any of your exes if you thought there would be no repercussions? Can you share a completely platonic friendship with folks you’ve been intimate with and not continually feel the pressure to “hit-it” one more time?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

12 comments:

Cocoa Rican said...

I equate exes to old shoes – they’re sometimes comfortable, but if they have a hole in them, it’s time to throw them out. Long story short, you broke up for a reason and you need to keep that reason at the forefront of the relationship. If you can maintain a friendship – great, but if the temptation remains, it’s sometimes best to stay away. I’m presently not intimate with any of my exes and don’t intend to be. Either the thought makes my stomach hurt real bad or my friendship with them is more important. In either case, with so many new four-star restaurants on the strip, why go back to the Mickey D drive-thru again? Enough said. :)

Just Me said...

I can't say that Exes pose the greatest threat to your relationship, it's you. I've been in both situations in that I've sleep with them and others I refuse to revisit some situations that stand out in my mind. One I've cut off all contact with because they refuse to understand that sleeping/laying/screwing between us is NO longer an option. I'm a flirt in the worst way but with Exes I'm very careful not to cross that line unless I'm willing to pay the price. The reason you want to do the-wild-thang with an Ex is because your current is not work it like you want or your not in a relationship.

KahluaLoverInVa said...

I agree with "Just Me"...(yes...I did just say that)...Exes aren't the biggest threat...its YOU. Its all about choices and self-control. A friend of mine once said to me "Exes are exes for a reason." And trust me, the reasons should always stay in the forefront of one's mind. In regard to sleeping w/the enemy? (I mean EX!) The only ex who I've re-visited that path with is my ex-husband...in times when we were trying to spend alot of time together to see if we could work things out. Our marriage wasn't ever based on the physical and it wasn't intended to fix the damage later on, but it was more about comfort and familiarity than about getting the groove on. The important thing is, neither of us were in relationships w/others when we were 'together'...so no harm was done to anyone. That being said, its understood between us that when and if either of us enters into another relationship...the Ex sex thing is history. Period!

KRISALMIGHTY said...

I AGREE WITH 'JUST ME' FOR A CHANGE. THE GREATEST THREAT IS 'YOU' NOT YOUR EX WHEN IT COMES TO CHEATING. AND AS KALUA ALSO SAID, SOMETIMES FAMILIARITY AND COMFORT COULD BE TEMPTING, BUT WE HAVE CHOICES. I'VE REVISITED ONE EX IN PARTICULAR ( WE WERE BOTH SINGLE AT THE TIME) AND EVEN THOUGH IT DIDN'T WORK, IT PROVIDED AN AMICABLE CLOSURE FOR BOTH OF US.

Toy said...

I agree with Just Me. In my case there's only been one ex that I've slept with after the break-up and it was simply because the closure had never happened. I was still in love. But other than that I tend to look at you like you are crazy if the subject is approached by an ex.

caspar608 said...

People need to start taking responsibility for themselves. Just Me is right, but anyone with a conscience and a sense of self would know that his answer is the right answer.
An ex is an ex for a reason. Buy toys if the urge is that bad. But ultimately, the choice to cheat is one's own. You cannot blame anyone but yourself for lack of SELF control.

Cocoa Rican said...

The most hysterical thing is that as I looked through the comments I noticed Just Me never said that an "ex is an ex for a reason." Talk about follow the leader. LOL

caspar608 said...

what? Cocoa, you are speaking in tongues of a madman again.
Explain...please...

Tammy said...

i slept with one of my exes for a while, just cause i'm an ole girl...aint tryna be out there...but was gittin horny. knowwhutimean? but for real doh...aint nuffin i had that i want.

Anonymous said...

Did anyone puke in the pool.
Sounded like a binge and purge ancient Roman revival to me....

Anonymous said...

you're all going to hell in a handbasket. heathens....

Just Me said...

There is nothing wrong with revisited the past if you are both single. Some people become Exes because of happen-stances not because of actions. Ex. One of my Exes moved to another state, so our break up was an amicable situation, heart wrenching but amicable.....I've never dipped into the silver plated pool while otherwise entertained, but you can tempted me….