Monday, November 30, 2009

The Weary Face Of Committed Gay America

It seems a bit disconcerting to need to answer this question, but to those who have asked me whether BD or I are the "woman" in our relationship, the answer is simple - there isn't a woman in our relationship. If BD or I wanted a woman in our relationship we would've courted one. I realize that folks feel the need to neatly box and file-away people and things, but put this one in your miscellaneous folder. Gay relationships are as varied as there are gay men. To be clear and helpful to ALL of my friends, it is rude to ask adults what they do in bed intimately with their partner. Gay men don't wish to be women; you're confusing homosexuality with gender identity issues. I'm happy to be a man; never wanted to be female and am very comfortable with being a male friend to my female friends. I recognize that the mass media has long tried to make it easy for heterosexual folks to understand the gay experience, but in oversimplifying the issue for you guys they've led you to believe that one or both men in a relationship is a baton twirling, penis-loathing, sissy girlfriend, and well that is not only untrue but it compromises my ability to be polite when around those who continue with the ignorant comments and questions.

Keep passin' the open windows...

- Mobile post from my iPhone

6 comments:

thegayte-keeper said...

I LOVE HOW YOU PUT THIS!!!!

Demon Hunter said...

Tell it, Cocoa! ;-) I'm a straight woman and I get tired of ignorant folks asking gay folks these silly questions. :-/

yet another black guy said...

PREACH! And what's up with people asking about the intimate bedroom details of folks?! Like that's any of their business in the first place.

Caspar608 said...

what if every gay person who was asked this question took a stand...and just hauled off and busted people in their shit for asking such a stupid fucking question.

I understand curiosity...I've asked my share of stupid questions...but its 2010...dammit.

Anonymous said...

This responses clearly evidences the fact that you are, indeed, the woman in the relationship.

Cocoa Rican said...

You're right Anonymous...the dangling penis between my legs gives that away every day. lol Must be an enlarged Clit.