Do actions speak louder than words (as the saying goes) or should words that counter a person’s actions take precedence?
Although it’s important to tell folks how you feel, actions tend to set the precedent on how folks will feel about you. While actions can prove words ineffective, words don’t seem to do the same for actions. That is, if you show someone you care, you’re loyal, you’re devoted and you’re accessible, it stands to reason that your feelings will convey, even if you never say, “I’m here for you.” Conversely, if you tell folks, “I care about you,” etc. and you are never available for them, it stands to reason that the person will not believe what you’re saying.
Unfortunately, there are also folks who have an extremely strong disposition – bordering on aggressive, rude or obnoxious behavior. They consistently act put-off, are unwilling to show compromise and rarely appear warm. These same folks can (and frequently ARE) very sensitive folks who have adopted a very hard and difficult exterior to ward off being perceived as “softies.” To their credit, they are rarely taken advantage of – but then again, they are rarely taken. That is, most people will avoid these types of folks setting off a vicious cycle of disconnected relationships. These folks often feel that no one understands them and wonder why people avoid them.
While it’s important to be assertive, being aggressive is the epitome of too-much-of-a-good-thing. While it’s crucial to be respected, it’s equally critical to be liked. While it’s of utmost importance that I be happy by MY OWN standards, it becomes obvious that compromise can bring about happiness and satisfaction.
Actions will ALWAYS speak louder than words. So, say what you mean, but show what you mean with more zeal.
Keep passin’ the open windows…