Exhaustion & Anxiety
I’ll admit that I have the habit of adding more to my plate when I know I have plenty on there already. It’s almost a competitive feeling that I can pull off what needs to get done, overcome the difficult obstacles to emerge victorious on the other side. I am now one week and one day from my move and haven’t packed a single stitch of anything. So, what would you say is my weekend plan? I’m packing, cleaning, shopping for and installing blinds, cleaning the new place and packing a separate bag for my vacation; all while lining up my ducks for my day-after-the-move NY AIDS Walk. Yes, that nauseous feeling is hitting me hard, but I can do this – and with the help of my boi J’Moo and the Zen master Leona – not to forget to mention my workhorse Slugger – I will pull this off.
Oh am I ever good at telling everyone else what they should and shouldn’t wear. I can even pick stuff that looks great on me – when I shop that is. The thing is, I don’t’ care for shopping, could care less about a label and just like to be comfy when I’m not in my office monkey suit. With my vacation just over a week away, it was time to buckle down and buy the new bathing suits, a few lounge outfits and some who-took-sexy-anywhere outfits. I’ll admit it…I took the easy route. I jumped on to Undergear.com and Internationalmale.com and bought some fun, cute and yeah-you’ve-had-two-Iced-Teas-and-you-want-some-of-this get-ups. Let’s hope that when they’re delivered they fit right or I’ll have to resort to the old hooker-wear of yesteryear.
At Issue; If It’s Legal Is It Our Business?
A popular minority gay men’s adult website who was alleged to be acting irresponsibly in Chicago moved to a Miami residential neighborhood and continued filming and posting their adult entertainment for the masses before being discovered by their neighbors. The story has garnered some media attention – not massive, since most of you straight readers outside of the Miami area have probably never heard of the story. What appears to be at issue is that the employees of the adult website (young minority men) were found to be engaging in unsafe behavior and a correlation was found between the employees and a rash of HIV and STD infections in the Chicago area. All said, there are various issues at hand:
1. Many feel that the ethnicity of the man behind this operation (a White man) who is profiting from the exploitation of the minority young men is a key point. Personally, I feel Black, White, Latino or Asian – exploitation is exploitation.
2. The young men are still – MEN. We have a responsibility to educate them and inform them, but do we have the right to control their behavior? Can we demand that they engage in safer sex practices?
3. Shouldn’t this adult website be offered the same rights and processes as others have in similar jurisdictions? A Florida court in a similar case ruled that if the acts taking place in the residence and broadcast on the web did not promote activity in or around the residence and did not solicit activity in the residential area where they are filmed, then they may continue to operate, since their customers – those buying the web movies and pics – are strictly online.
To be clear, I don’t condone unsafe sex and the spread of disease. I do not believe young minority men should be exploited for cash. I am heartbroken to hear of more young men becoming infected because of their ignorance. I simply believe that we have the RIGHT to educate, to inform and to empower – not provide hypocritical censorship when many of those feigning rage are the very folks who are customers (or at least voyeurs) of the site.
Sometimes the hardest person to be honest with is you. Before buying the holier-than-thou ticket to join the bandwagon you have to review the facts in their entirety to see if you want to take the ride. Why isn’t the general population outraged by the multibillion dollar internet porn industry? Do you know of anyone (wink, wink) in your close circle who partakes in this form of entertainment?
Keep passin’ the open windows….