Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Morning Edition - 2/1/06

Woman Thou Art FIERCE!
Coretta Scott King, 78, died yesterday morning. There was much more to the wife of martyr and non-violent soldier, Martin Luther King, Jr. The valedictorian of her Lincoln High School class in Marion, Alabama, she went on to receive her B.A. from Antioch College. Coretta Scott met Martin Luther King, Jr. while studying voice at the New England Conservatory of Music. She graduated from the Boston Conservatory with a degree in voice and violin. Before Coretta, King said most of the girls he met were intellectual lightweights. He was so taken by her that he proposed to her on their first date and they were married in June 1953. In 1959 while visiting India, Coretta was considered the darling of the Indian population as she sang Negro spirituals while King gave speeches. King was quoted as saying, “Coretta would sing as much as I lectured.” Coretta and Martin had four children – two boys and two girls. After King’s death, Coretta continued speaking and fighting for social justice, even speaking for the rights of women, children and yes, even gays and lesbians. Coretta is the first woman ever to deliver the class day address at Harvard University and the first woman to preach at St. Paul’s Cathedral in London. Her continued message of equality, peace and justice took her all over the world and made her an advisor and confidant to countless heads of state. A formidable woman with a history and legacy all her own, Coretta proved that you can make your own mark while still being the very capable partner of a revered world hero.

A Full Nelson
At 6’ 3” tall Nelson R. is not your average Puerto Rican man. Last night, Nelly (yeah, I had to give him a nickname…) stopped by to simply say hi and drop off a bouquet of white tulips. Normally, showing up at my door unannounced would be met by apprehension, but remembering my new rule to give the brothas the benefit of the doubt, I answered the door and was pleasantly surprised. So we’ll chalk up extra credit points toward the “oops bank”. This means if the man has a small foul-up in the near future we’ll give him a break. What made the moment sweeter was that he was rushing, his son waiting in the double-parked car in front of my house. Before writing this little piece I spoke to Nelly and thanked him for the flowers, but made a point of giving him a special thank you for the spontaneity. There’s much to be said about planting seeds of romance.

Treating Your Diabetes With An Inhaler?
Now, type 1 and 2 diabetes sufferers will have the option of inhaling their insulin prescription rather than injecting it. On Friday, the FDA approved Exubera, a new insulin drug to be used via an inhaler. Diabetics will still need to prick themselves to check sugar levels, but now they can treat themselves via an inhaler – ala asthma sufferers. It is estimated this will be a $1 billion per year business. Smokers cannot use Exubera – yet another reason to quit smoking if you’re diabetic. The insulin inhaler will be available by mid year.

On Blast
We can rebuild him/her. Sometimes you wish you could take parts from one partner and attach them to another to make the perfect partner. What traits (physical, personality, etc.) would you take from each of your previous partners to create the perfect mate? Be specific.

Keep passin’ the open windows…

33 comments:

KahluaLoverInVa said...

If I could pick the traits out of the three great men in my life...then it would be: The good heartedness, faithfulness, mr. fix-it-ness and serious good looks of my ex-husband; the body, mr. knows-alot-about-alot-of-things, humor and mental/sexual intensity of my post-marital lover-friend; and the kissing and intense love of my cop. Damn...now I'm depressed cause I can't build-a-man!!

Cocoa Rican said...

I’ve been blessed by some pretty well-rounded men, but if I had to throw the perfect mix together they would be:
1. The honesty of my first partner – he was a hooker, but he was honest about it.
2. The creative energy of my second partner. The man could make a bomb out of a ball of lint, a paperclip and a coffe filter.
3. The loyalty and adoration of my third partner. Poor man never saw it coming.
4. The passion and raw sexual energy of my fourth partner. The man could make me screw at the job with folks walking right outside the office door.
5. The determination and career mind of my fifth partner. He knew where he wanted to be and he got there.
6. The bold and out-front affection of my sixth partner. He didn't care who was watching because his eyes were buried in mine.

Geez… I’d really have to create a Stepford Husband. LOL

Anonymous said...

when you said the mans son was waiting in the car I got very sad.

Anonymous said...

I agree with Anonymous. Wow, the world has really changed. How did that make you feel knowing that this man has a son? Have you dated other men that had children?

Anonymous said...

It wasn't so much that his Dad was gay (that must be difficult for a boy too), it was that his Dad was preoccupied with thinking of you while he should have been concentrating on his son.
From what I know of you Cocoa, you are a wonderful person, a good person. But how would you feel if your Dad delivered flowers to someone when he was supposed to be chillin with you.
Kids always seem to take a back seat to the needs of some of their parents. Then we wonder why they shoot up schools and listen to crazy music and join gangs.
All I am saying is, I would tell any woman who had children that was seeing me...do not take time away from your kids to make me happy. They need you more than I.

FREAKING RICAN said...

Anonymous, We don't know what type of relationship this man has with his son. We need to give children more credit than that. I have a girlfriend that is very honest with her daughter who is very young and they have a relationship that is open and they talk about everything. So just because Nelly made a pit stop to drop off flowers doesn't necessarily mean he was neglecting the time spent with his son. People juggle things all the time I am sure that you are included in this population so I don't see how him stopping by to drop off flowers to his new love interest that probably took about 5 mins in any shape or form take quality time from his son. Think of it as stopping by a store picking something up (or in this case dropping something off) and getting back in the car and moving along. What's so bad about that?

Anonymous said...

Well we dont know if the child knows what dad was doing. He could have been told that dad was giving flowers to a good friend. Which in turn helps the kid to do nice things for his friends. Should the dad do it while he is with his kid? Well I am sure he didnt stay long. Cocoa next time just keep the children out of the story. Some people just start to throw things out of context.

Cocoa Rican said...

First, as common sense would dictate, Nelly only dropped off flowers and the interaction did not take long. Second, if I could see the child was in the double-parked car, he was safe and in full view of all that was happening – which stands to reason that nothing inappropriate was done in front of the child. Third, as Freakin’ correctly pointed out, no quality time was taken from the child and Nelly spends plenty of time with his son. Fourth, the child is not at an age where explaining to him that daddy wants to take a male friend flowers would be appropriate and contrary to ignorant belief, gay parents are aware of what age is appropriate to begin discussing sexuality and appropriate behavior among boys, girls, etc. On the real – we’re not trying to recruit anyone. Most important, this is 2006 and gay parents are becoming as common as single-parent families. Let’s come out of the dark ages. To answer your question about my dating habits… No, I don’t normally date folks with children – then again, with gay men that scenario doesn’t frequently present itself. I appreciate your suggestion(s) but I think I’ll continue to tell my stories my way… even when children are involved. I love children, but there are worse things than having daddy drop off flowers for 2 minutes…there are the realities of beat downs by single mommas that kill their children because they’re frustrated, stressed and man-less. Now, try and answer the On Blast question and we’ll try to place your apparent issues on future On Blast columns for all to address. :)

Anonymous said...

I agree Cocoa. I think Gay Parenting would be a good On Blast topic. I'm sure there are mixed views.

Anonymous said...

How many of us have children? How many of us have or have had relationships? How many of us are married or with a significant other?
Questions: When you are showing affection, Love and performing an emotional or romantic “gesture”, (not to be confused with a sexual act), stops you from Loving and respecting your children? And if it does, maybe that's what wrong with your relationship; with your child as well as with your significant other. Flowers at a door, is not a BJ in the hall…
Be for real
J’Moo

Anonymous said...

Coco boi,
Go on and get your flowers while your can smell them...
J'Moo

KRISALMIGHTY said...

WAIT A FUCKING MINUTE...HOW COME COCOA GETS TO BE THE VILLIAN FOR RECEIVING FLOWERS FROM A ROMANTIC MAN WHO HAPPENS TO BE A FATHER?. DAMN THE MAN CAME BY FOR 2 MINUTES , HOW THE HELL COULD THAT HARM HIS SON. WE DON'T KNOW THE DIMENTIONS OF HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS SON OR WITH HIS SON'S MOTHER. WE DON'T KNOW IF THE DUDE IS A GAY PARENT. YES, WE GAYS ARE PARENTS TOO, BOTH NATURAL AND ADOPTIVE, AND WE ARE LOVING JUST THE SAME. "ANONYMOUS IS BEING SUBJECTIVE AND ASSUMING THAT SOME NICE LADY IS BEING BETRAYED AND THAT ISN'T NECESSARILY THE CASE. LET'S NOT ASSUME THAT THE GUY IS "TAKING TIME AWAY FROM HIS CHILD". BEING GAY AND BEING A PARENT IS NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE. I KNOW COCOA IS A GOOD, DECENT MAN AND LOVES CHILDREN AND HE'LL NEVER TOLERATE SHYT THAT WASN'T ON THE UP AND UP. SO LET'S NOT MAKE IT MORE THAN IT'S CALLED FOR. COCOA BABY YOU GET YOUR FLOWERS BOY! H/C I HOPE YOU HAVE AT LEAST 5 CHAPTERS OF THAT "BOOK" COMPLETED ALREADY....LOL

KRISALMIGHTY said...

I'M WITH J'MOO....

Anonymous said...

Yeah KRISALMIGHTY!
You are absolutely right; why assume that some nice lady is being betrayed. In that case assume that she is some nasty hook nose whore, who is getting what she puts out and the brother, aka “Dirty 6.3 Nelly”, is just putting it down, try to find a new family, and good home for his little boy to grow up in; no matter how hairy his new mom may be…And by the way Coco, with those new nipple piercing, breast feeding is definitely out!

J’Moo

Anonymous said...

And after absorbing this morning postings I just want to say that “Dirty 6.3 Nelly” ain’t your man. All those who are worried maybe you’re projecting on what you worried about your man doing; is your man, giving flowers to some man? Clean up your backyard before you go trimming your neighbor’s bushes…
If it don’t apply, don’t reply
J'Moo

LaLa said...

I thought we were going to wait and do a blast on this topic at another time. I'm still waiting to hear the traits people want to combine.

Anonymous said...

Back to the Blast, thanks LaLa
I really thought that I would have to break open my do it yourself “Frankenstein make a Man”, (battery included), Kit but, then I found my Boo; and it seems that God did it for…see prayer works. He is the perfect combination of all those who fell before him. MP is handsome, smart, athletic, mortal, serious, humorous(you gotta laugh), sex, very physical, and most of all easy to Love and retur Love…that’s what makes him great. Those are all the traits my other Lovers had but in spastic intervals; it was the down time what killed them.
J’Moo

KRISALMIGHTY said...

LOL @ J'MOO. ANYWAY REGARDING TODAY'S ON BLAST QUESTION: I WOULD COMBINE JOACHIN'S ABSOLUTE DROP DEAD GORGIOUS SEXY APPEAL ( HE TOOK ME TO THEORGASMIC HEIGHTS) WITH MICHAEL INTELLECTUALLY STIMULATING PERSONA ( HE SHOWED ME HOW TO MAKE MY MONEY WORK FOR ME)THEN ADD ANTONIO'S SOPHISTICATION, HONESTY AND HIS ABILITY TO COMMUNICATE (WE COULD TALK ABOUT ANYTHING). FINALLY ADD MY CURRENT BOO WHO IS NOT ONLY TOTALLY EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE AND ACCESSABLE BUT IS NOT AFRAID TO BE DEMONSTRATIVE WITH IT. A BLEND OF ALL THAT WOULD MAKE MY DREAM MAN....LOL

Cocoa Rican said...

Where are all the girls with answers to our On Blast today? My Lala, Tam, Donya, Jeanine, Soul Wifey, Cola, Kimmie, Lady Long Leg and L Word? I mean damn! LOL

caspar608 said...

Now that the troop have been rallied to the unth degree...

1) I would pull the body of my babies Daddy
2) I would pull the silliness and charm of my first love
3) I would pull the intellect of my high school boyfriend - he was a bit of a faker but he went to Rensellaer Polytech Institute - rocket science type of stuff. He was cute as heck but his intellect was off the chain.

Mix em all up and VOILA! the perfect man.

Peace peeps....

caspar608 said...

thanks for giving a crap about my where's and when's Cocoa.
I want a damn divorce!!!!

Anonymous said...

I wouldn't trade the one I have for the world minus the criminal convictions and pending charges, he is the best I have ever had. I guess that doesn't say much for those I've been with.

Anonymous said...

Well, what the hell happened here today? I've been busy all day but damn....

I say this. Living in a fantasy dream is not for me. I know that people come as packages and that you can't take an organ, trait or fetish and place that into another person. In every relationship there are trade offs that won't measure up to what you had in the past. Overall, they have to be something more than your past or at least you believe that they are to allow yourself to think of them as relationship material.

I don't know the age of the kid or the circumstances surrounding this man's EYE opening experience.

Koochie,

From the outside looking in, be careful. I can't imagine a man with a CHILD who is letting it all hang out there with no discretion. This appears to be a facade or is he a GAY man that happened to sleep with a woman who got pregnant. lmao

Question: Is this man willing to kiss you in front of his parents and/or family? That to me is really knowing who is...

Just Me...

Cocoa Rican said...

No you MF didn't! Did you just call me Koochie? The last man that called me Koochie is still in therapy behind how I left him...

That said, the man in question was straight most of his teens and twenties and came out in his very early thirties...he's now in his late thirties. I haven't met his parents and I don't parttake in affection in front of children - his, my family members children -shoot I have trouble being affectionate with a man in front of my siblings!

Just Me... you make my stomach hurt real bad!

Cocoa Rican said...

...and for Christsake, the man gave me flowers at my front door, not a blow job in front of the kid!

Anonymous said...

Yeah! Who do you think he is Michael Jackson.
Flowers and a kiss, not the NeverLand's secret hand shake.
...I told you he was from DC/ MD area and a MO...chalk one up for J'Moo

caspar608 said...

I said he wasn't from the NYC the way he dissed our environement and all that jazz.
JUST ME!!!!!! We are dying for you to take off all your clothes, I mean, that mask!

Tammy said...

Damn, why some people got to make mountains out of molehills is beyond me...he just dropped off the damn flowers. get a life anonymous!!! as far as making my perfect man...i would take the humor of my first man, the body of my second and fourth man...the devotion of my third man...and the committment of the one i'm with now.

Tammy said...

by the way...i am sick of anonymous...he is an AZZHOLE!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

We all have azzholes, it's just that some are bigger than others.

Hey Kooch, Do your thang. I love you no matter how/who or what u r doing.

Just Me.

P.S. If any of you have a bone to pick, don't hesitate. Scurr'd has never been apart of my vocab...

Hu--rray!!!! for the 6'3" Rican living his life out loud....Maybe You can introduce him to Queen Latifah.

Anonymous said...

Good Night

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