Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Morning Edition - 2/14/06

My Funny Valentine
Valentine’s Day has long been celebrated as a day for lovers to express how much they care about each other. Whether you’ve been having a rough time at keeping your relationship in order or you’ve been living on cloud nine with your partner – Valentine’s Day is a cease fire of, “Let me count the ways…” As we get older we realize that love is a complicated emotion that can grow with every passing year or wane and die with each sunrise. The remarkable thing is that age also teaches us how to simplify our relationships so that we get the maximum amount of pleasure with the minimum amount of pain. Sometimes this means openly communicating with your partner to set new boundaries and rules that make the relationship fit both parties’ needs. Ultimately, use this Valentine’s Day to recognize that you have as much to do with the success of your relationship – or lack thereof – as everyone else. Step-up to the plate. Grab the bull by the horns. Snatch that bow-and-arrow from Cupid and take matters into your own hands. In the end, as Luther once sang, “If you can’t be with the one you love, then love the one you’re with.”

Friday the 17th- Celebrate Good Times, Come On!
This Friday, February 17, Carmen C. hosts her first monthly Friday night dance party at La Maganette. The guest list has already topped 30 folks who say they will be present to party. With R&B, salsa, merengue, disco, and yes, even hip-hop, the party will be on-and-poppin’. La Maganette is at 50th and 3rd Avenue in midtown. Cover charge is $8 with free buffet beginning at 6 p.m. So join in on the fun and get ready to release some of that weekday pressure.

Long Story Short
Momma Cruz cut her hand on a splintered glass while doing dishes last night. The cut required six stitches to close. Cruz is in great spirits and recovering at home. Carlos C. is heading out to Puerto Rico February 20. After struggling with poor health this year, Carlos will be enjoying some fun in the sun for a week. Chaka Khan will be performing at Lehman College in the Bronx on March 23. Tickets range from $30-$45. J’Moo are we going to be front-and-center to join in on Black Butterfly?! Leona G. has agreed to pick up tickets for the show. What’s behind door number 3? Okay, I’ve been a bit adventurous and fun-loving of late and guess what, I think it’s okay. Recently I’ve met three great men who are a lot of fun and don’t have many hang-ups. Call me crazy, but I think I’ve discovered the wonderful world of up-front and comfortable dating without the drama. Today on Valentine’s Day I take a page from En Vogue – “Free your mind and the rest will follow.” Friday we will do our weigh-in and catch-up on our Body Beautiful Campaign. So get out your measuring tape, pull out and dust the scales and get ready to tell us about your progress.

On Blast
Face your fear. Sometimes the greatest fear we have is that folks will see us for who we really are. What are you most afraid that prospective new partners will discover about you? What is most important to you that new people come away with about you?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

19 comments:

Just Me said...

Sorry, I am not afraid of what people think of me. I have come to love myself, so if you don't then that's your loss...My better qualities are I see life in a comic viewer, I love people, I cherish my friends, I'm dependable and goal oriented. I tell you what I think and try to be nice about it.....
Most people that don’t know me see me as arrogant and selfish. I must admit that I am not the friendliest person upon first meeting....

Maybe, that's why you people are having such a hard time dealing with me....LOL :) cheers.

donya said...

Black History Fact:

A Lesson in Black History ??
The Statue of Liberty ??

It is hard to believe that after many years of schooling (secondary
and
post) the following facts about the Statue of Liberty were never
taught:

Hundreds of thousands (if not millions) of people including myself
have
visited the Statue of Liberty over the years but yet I'm unable to
find
one person who knows the true history behind the Statue...amazing!

Yes, amazing that so much important Black history (such as this) is
hidden from us (Black and White). What makes this even worse is the
fact
that the current twist on history perpetuates and promotes white
supremacy at the expense of Black Pride!

During my visit to France I saw the original Statue of Liberty.
However,
there was a difference... the statue in France is BLACK!!!!!!

"Ya learn something new everyday!"

The Statue of Liberty was originally a Black woman. But, as memory
serves, it was because the model was Black. In a book called "The
Journey of The Songhai People," as Dr. Jim Haskins (a member of the
National Education Advisory Committee of the Liberty-Ellis Island
Committee, professor of English at the University of Florida, and
prolific Black author) points out that is what stimulated the
original
idea for that 151 foot statue in the harbor. He says that the idea
for
the creation of the statue initially was to acknowledge the part that
Black soldiers played in the ending of Black African Bondage in the
United States.

It was created in the mind of the French historian Edourd de
Laboulaye,
Chairman of the French Anti-Slavery Society, who, together with
sculptor
Frederic Auguste Bartholdi, proposed to the French government that
the
people of France present to the people of the United States through
the
American Abolitionist Society, the gift of a Statue of Liberty in
recognition of the fact that Black soldiers won the Civil War in the
United States. It was widely known then that it was Black Soldiers
who
played the pivotal role in winning the war, and this gift would be a
tribute to their prowess.

Suzanne Nakasian, director of the Statue of Liberty, Ellis Island
Foundations' National Ethnic Campaign said that the Black Americans'
direct
connection to Lady Liberty is unknown to the majority of Americans,
BLACK or WHITE.

When the statue was presented to the US. Minister to France in 1884,
it
is said that he remonstrated that the dominant view of the broken
shackles would be offensive to the U.S. South because the statue was
a
reminder of Blacks winning their freedom. It was a reminder to a
beaten
South of the ones who caused their defeat, their despised former
captives.

Documents of Proof:

(1.) You may go and see the original model of the Statue of Liberty,
with the broken chains at her feet and in her left hand. Go to the
Museum of the City of NY, Fifth Avenue and 103rd Street (212)
534-1672
or call the same number and dial ext. 208 and speak to Peter Simmons
and
he can send you some documentation.

(2.) Check with the N.Y. Times magazine, part II May 18, 1986.

(3.) The dark original face of the Statue of Liberty can be seen in
the
N.Y. Post June 17, 1986, also the Post stated the reason for the
broken
chains at her feet.

(4.) Finally, you may check with the French Mission or the French
Embassy at the U.N. or in Washington, D.C.and ask for some original
French material on the Statue of Liberty, including the Bartholdi
original model. You can call (202) 944-6060 or 6400.

Anonymous said...

Coco, on the low;
wine and seedless grape

J'Moo

Tammy said...

I've never been afraid of exposing the true me to people. Most people who have met me like me. I like myself. I have been disappointed in some of the decisions I have made for myself, but I dont punish myself for being human and imperfect, I just learn and keep going. A lot of people who dont know me well, see me as this strong, kick azz woman...not always true. My real friends know how vunerable and sensitive I can be. Right hector baby?!

Cocoa Rican said...

On Blast…
1. I’m most afraid that prospective partners will discover that I’m much more of a relationship-oriented person than the free spirit that I struggle to be. I think it’s odd that I would feel this way, since I suspect it’s my affection, attention and warmth while dating is what most attracts the folks I’m intimate with.
2. It’s most important that prospective dates come away with the notion that I’m fun, smart, strong-minded, but caring. So far, I think I’ve been successful at conveying this.

Before this gets ugly, I’d like to say that I want to believe you Donya, but I think we’re going to need much more substantial proof than a few folks making assumptions. So before we begin singing Negro spirituals in New York Harbor, let’s recognize that Ms. Liberty looks more like Julie Newmar than Shequida Jackson. Also, history has shown that no one knew the actual inspiration for the statue’s image and historians have always believed that it was the artist’s wife (a white woman – picture on attached site) who inspired the sculpture. You might want to read….
http://www.americanparknetwork.com/parkinfo/sl/history/liberty.html

…and yes, my Tam-Tam is like a Cellas chocolate covered cherry…slightly hard on the outside with a soft sweet center. :)

caspar608 said...

Tammy......Happy Valentines Day Mamacita. I'm a Cellas she's a Cellas he's a Cella's we's a Cellas wouldn't ya like to be a Cella's too?

Donya......thats my girl right thur....Happy Valentine's Day....You gotta have heart, lots and lots and lots of heart. I believe the story you wrote. Damn Cracker Azz Crackers!!!! (Oh, excuse me, sorry for that slur).

J'Moo...my sugar sweet sunshine hershey kiss. Happy Valentines Day.

Freaking....girl where you at? This will be the year you find true love. I promise. Keep that big heart open and shake that azz.

Cocoa .... 'Where do broken hearts go, can they find their way home...back to the open arms of a love whose waiting there and if somebody loves you...won't they always love you....I look in your eyes and I know that you still care for me.' I am in awe of your ability to find love. I hope you always have love because to me, you ARE love. I am so glad you are my brother by choice. Happy Valentines Day sweetie pie. Although I dd mention Chak chak chak chak Chaka Khan first. I am going with y'all because Lehman College is 5 minutes from my house and I can run home if I have to so give Leona money for my ticket and I will pay you back.

Just Me....I, like you, could give a rats azz about what people think of me either. Most people think I am insane, but thats only because I don't take any crap from 'most people'. So keep keeping on and being you. I've gotten used to you : )

Hugs and Kisses to All...and for the ladies...can you feel me ?...

I'm EVERY Woman
I’m every woman, it’s all in me
Anything you want done, baby
I’ll do it naturally
I’m every woman, it’s all in me
I can read your thoughts right now
Every one from a to z

I can cast a spell
With secrets you can’t tell
Mix a special brew
Put fire inside of you
But anytime you feel
Danger or fear
Instantly I will appear, ’cause

I can sense your needs
Like rain on to the seeds
I can make a rhyme
Of confusion in your mind
And when it comes down
To some good old fashioned love
That’s what I’ve got plenty of, ’cause

I ain’t braggin’ ’cause I’m the one
You just ask me ooh and it shall be done
And don’t bother to compare
’cause I’ve got it
I’ve got it, I’ve got it, yeah

I’m every woman

donya said...

Well I thought of that too Hector which is I put the information up there so that those in New York can check it out while my children and I do what we need to do here. I figure if we work together we can find out if this is true or not.

Just Me said...

Cocoa Rican,

I can stand with Donya in this FACT. The model for Ms. Liberty was a French Black woman and the gift was given to the states as a symbol of freedom. Her shackles were removed because they thought that people would read them incorrectly and her nose narrowed.

FREAKING RICAN said...

I'm here Caspar babe! I am still hurting from the damn shoveling of snow! Damn if I don't need a man right now to rub out all the knots in my back! Happy Valentine Day to you too! Oh by the way, are you going to make it on Friday for our night out? Well I hope so since you missed out on the dinner. And believe me you were truly missed! Thank you so much for wishing me my soul mate this year. From your mouth to GOD's ears. I do pray that this will be my year. Don't get me wrong I embrace being single...I actually enjoy it but there are times like today when I just need a man to hold me and make me feel loved and wanted........Cocoa....I need a hug!

caspar608 said...

just like the sphynx in Egypt. Someone shot the african nose off. This is all bulls#!+ and we need to put an end to it. Someone needs to stand up and have that statue corrected. In addition, there should be a plaque on Liberty Island with the original design posted.

I always hated the Statue of Liberty and thought she was a symbol of hypocrisy. Give me you tired and poor...I mean, the slaves were treated like garbage even AFTER the north WON the war. You should read about the history of Manhattan and the way freed slaves were treated here. They used to hang freed slaves on Wall Street. Don't GET ME STARTED please. Our children are the only hope we have. Lately the truth has been seeping out of all the cracks. Its almost overwhelming. We need to spread the word and get crackin on putting some light into the dark folks. Time is of the essence. And reparations are definitely warranted for every African American. NOW.

donya said...

True fact about the statue of Liberty found at: http://www.endex.com/gf/buildings/liberty/libertyfacts/Toes.041231.pdf

In Bartholdi’s models for the Statue of Liberty, his training in
the classic traditions can be seen as the idea for the statue develops.
From an Egyptian woman, to a Greek goddess to his
final change, a Roman goddess, his statue has symbolic
meaning from the torch’s flame to the statue’s toes.
As a goddess, Liberty wears a crown with seven rays emanating.
This “perfect” number reflects the Seven Seas and the
Seven Continents as illustrated in Biblical texts. The torch is to
enlighten: if darkness is eliminated fear is gone! The keystone
tucked under the left arm and inscribed, July 4, 1776, represents
the law. America is a nation of laws, not of men. Her
dress, like a Roman goddess, is a stola, a palla and a tunic.
Her raised right foot is on the move. This symbol of Liberty
and Freedom is not standing still or at attention in the harbor,
she is moving forward. as her left foot tramples chains of tyranny
and slavery. And, on her Greek/Roman feet, open sandals
that define her heritage from the earliest days of civilization—
we see her Morton’s toes and her “hammer” little toe.

caspar608 said...

Freakin....
Yoga helped my back. I made sure I did a few poses when I came in from shoveling and it did the trick. I broke y back in 03 so believe me I know back pain. My arms hurt more than anything.

donya said...

Although it the previous speaks of slavery it does not say anything about being for blacks. However, it does state that his beginning was of an egyptian woman. Now some people do not want to except the fact that egyptians are black. This could be why there is controversy. But there is another area that states (urbanlegends) that she was modeled after his mother (the head) and his wife (the torso). Now if there is not a lot of information on who she was modeled after why should we believe that it was his wife.

Anonymous said...

For me personally I have learned that being too open & giving is not a good thing & after waking up & realizing how there actually are people that would take advantage of that I am now working on not being that way so my biggest fear now would be for a man to see who I really am and take advantage of it. But my biggest fear is waking up sooner rather later from now on.

That I am a person who loves life, enjoys eating & working out to stay in shape or else I would be bigger than a house.

Krissy

Anonymous said...

For me personally I have learned that being too open & giving is not a good thing & after waking up & realizing how there actually are people that would take advantage of that I am now working on not being that way so my biggest fear now would be for a man to see who I really am and take advantage of it. But my biggest fear is waking up sooner rather later from now on.

That I am a person who loves life, enjoys eating & working out to stay in shape or else I would be bigger than a house.

Krissy

Cocoa Rican said...

Like they said in The Price is Right, "Bob, I'd like to pass on that Showcase and bid on the next one..."

caspar608 said...

what the hell are you talking about Cocoa?

Cocoa Rican said...

I was talking about the hug Freakin' asked for :)

Anonymous said...

your a mean man! The girl needed a hug.