Thursday, February 23, 2006

Morning Edition - 2/23/06

When Animals Attack
Yes folks, humans are animals too. Unfortunately, they act more like the four-legged creatures we’re accustomed to seeing as the “classic” definition of animals than we sometimes care to admit. Yesterday’s On Blast led to a back-and-forth that had the potential for hurting feelings – all unnecessarily. The object of yesterday’s little attack – Freakin’ Rican. Freakin’ and I agreed to go the gym together and after our schedules conflicted, we pretty much began going on our own. What I wasn’t aware of – well, until much later – was that Freakin’ was apparently hurt by my decision to take on this project on my own. My decision was based solely on my need to get the goal accomplished – that is, get in shape ASAP. So plain-and-simple, let’s not take everything so personally, let’s realize our goals independently (if necessary) and let’s be the strong individuals we allege we are when we’re faced with criticism. After being called selfish, fat, rude, old, worn, etc., I’ve learned that the only real opinion that counts is my own. I appreciate comments made by my friends and consider them when making decisions, but the decisions are all mine. Make your decisions yours as well. For the past several months I’ve been living openly, freely and joyfully. It has helped me feel stronger, look sexier – not because any major physical change has occurred, but because my inner self is exuding a new sense of confidence. Let’s vow to grab our lives by the horns before we’re looking back on wasted time and old regrets.

Manners Moron
Why does NYC’s subway system come to a complete stop, delaying thousands of passengers, when one sick passenger aboard one of our trains has a little incident? The question came up during my ride into the office yesterday. As we sat over 20 minutes in a dark tunnel, the smell of urine permeating from a homeless man who managed to squeeze his way into our subway car, I kept asking myself – sometimes out loud – why can’t we pull the sick person off the train to await medical attention at the nearest train stop platform? Instead, we sat patiently – one train behind another – waiting for help to arrive for one sick passenger. Word to the ill…. if you’re riding in my subway car and I catch you acting sick, I’ll sit you on the bench of the next stop. No point in you being ill and us being unemployed.

Read it and Let’s Tell it Like It Is
Next month we will begin our own little blog book club. This will be a simple club that will read one book every three months or so. Hey, even slow readers will get a chance to keep up. Each Friday, we’ll discuss three or four chapters and the book will serve as our On Blast that Friday. March will be our month to revisit one of my favorites – E. Lynn Harris’ Invisible Life. Amazon.com has the book (new) for just over $11 or you can buy the book used for $1.50. Either way, there’s no reason you can’t join in on the book and the fun. Please purchase your copy by Friday, March 10.

On Blast
Dating with children. How important is it to you that the man/woman you’re dating likes your children? What happens if your children and the person you care about don’t get along? Would you consider a negative relationship between potential step-parents and step-children grounds for terminating a relationship?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

28 comments:

Just Me said...

It is of the utmost importance that my kids like and respect you as an adult. You as the adult won't have a chance to meet my kids until I feel very comfortable with you, so you must be muy calma while waiting to be introduced to my family. If you don't like my kids, pack up and roll...enough said, bye

KahluaLoverInVa said...

For me, its a MUST for the person I'm dating to have at least an INTEREST in having a relationship w/my daughter. He should be a positive male role model for her...and she should absolutely like him at least a little bit. If there's no chemistry between them, there's going to be problems w/the chemistry between he and I as well. This being said...I've only introduced my baby to one person in the two years I've been single. They had an instant love for each other and I had no regrets.

FREAKING RICAN said...

Coco, I didn't attack you yesterday I was just making a point on how I handled my fear of sharing something with you that bothered me. From your statement this morning I now feel attacked! What is wrong with you? Yes, I know that your body and your decisions are important to you that is why I have accepted that you wanted to do it on your own. But it would have been nice if you would have shared that with me in the beginning instead of keeping empty promises! I realized by your actions that I don't need your help in creating a better body for myself. That I can do it on my own. I just don't appreciate that you went ahead and made a decision without consulting me first that you had made up your mind to work out on your own opps let me correct myself that you decided to work out with another friend. Like I shared with you last Friday, it's all about you and only you. You didn't seem to care that you hurt me and you took it as a joke when I first shared it with you. And now that I opened myself up to share my experience with everyone on how I handled it you come back with this shyt! give me a break put your money where your mouth is! So I am being for real and for that I get slapped in the face for sharing it. You know what grow up and take responsibilty that you hurt me and I was just reaching out to let you know that. I guess that is what I get for opening up my mouth.

caspar608 said...

Freaking....
Put it where? Back there!
Don't don't don't get yourself all riled up. Cocoa is a man girl! You know men don't have feelings!!!!!!!!! I'm just playing...men do have feelings but they are controlled by their prostate (refer to Cocoa's comments about how we hurt his prostate yesterday).
Look, the best thing you can do is do YOU. Don't wait for someone else to jumpstart a new healthy lifestyle. Get into weight training it burns more calories. It releases all that pent up hurt and aggression. And you will be superbadassvoluptuousmodel of the world because of it.
Onto the blast question....
My kids are hard not to like...although I could see a man I am dating become jealous of the commitment I have for my little kings and baby queen. They would know if someone sinister was around their Mama anyway and proceed to beat his ass. Believe it or not I completely trust the judgement of my children ... they absolutely adore Cocoa and think he is a superstar so that has to mean something...
The bottom line for me is...any man who dates me would consider it a priviledge to witness the evolution of greatness in my children ... anyone who cannot handle and respect that can sk8te off!

Cocoa Rican said...

Freakin' - First, I asked you to call me so this could be discussed privately. I don't think this is the venue for this conversation. I've left you voice mail messages and posted my desire to speak to you in yesterday's blog.

Second, your issue was never that I wasn't working out with you, your issue is the deeper issue that you always feel jealous and slighted to think that I might be working out with someone else. Truth is, I workout primarily alone.

My money, promises and word are all in the right place and valid. I'm saddened that you feel I'm so selfish, but it goes back to my original statement - I hear you and your opinion of me, but I also know who I am and know that my goals are being met.

No need to discusss this further. This is so junior high I won't address it again. Let's let the results speak for themselves on who's keeping the promise to themselves to meet their goal. Enuf said.

Cocoa Rican said...

And on to the real On Blast…
I’m always disgusted by folks who choose their mate over their children. Your children need to be your number one priority. That said, the man/woman you date should at least have a good relationship with your children – they don’t need to be replacement parents, just cool with them. Conversely, you need to check your kids and teach them to respect adults, so that there isn’t inappropriate exchanges between your mate and your children. That mate may never chastise, punish, spank, etc. your kids. If they do, you’re dead wrong as a parent.

Just Me said...

Cocoa and Freak'n

Take it elsewhere. This is not the forum to hash your dirty laundry....

both of you have shyt that stinks...

FREAKING RICAN said...

Coco, I didn't read the rest of the postings yesterday to realize that you wanted me to call you and for that I apologize but all you needed to do was pick up the phone and talk to me you know that I have been swapped later and didn't leave work until 8:00 PM last night. After reading the rest of the blog of yesterday, today, I want to first thank Caspar for the beautiful description of my body because I totally agree. I don't find my self as Anonymous put it Obese. I swim 4x's a week and I am committed to a healthier life style for myself. I actually get turned on by my own body so I don't have any complaints except to lose a few unhealthy pounds. Damn I know I look good! As for the Anonymous one that called me Obese - Here is pure honesty for you, You Dumb Mther Fcuker! If you had any balls you would post your damn name when you call someone out like that! You probably don't even know who the Fcuk I am. And if you do know me then be a fcuking MAN or Woman and tell that shyt to my face because I will knock your fcuking block off! FCUK YOU AND THE BANANA BOAT YOU CAME OFF OF YOU FCUKING COWARD.How's that that for pure honest! Casper great advice to me yesterday I will heed what you shared Thank you and Coco honey it's all good you said what you had to say I said what I had to say and IT IS WHAT IT IS! ENOUGH SAID!!!!!!

FREAKING RICAN said...

Just ME,

KISS MY PUERTO RICAN ASS AND KEEP YOU SIMPLE MINDED SHYT TO YOURSELF. I AIN"T THE GIRL TO FCUK WITH TODAY. THE BLOG IS TO SHARE THINGS BE IT GOOD OR BAD AND WHO THE HELL ARE YOU TO TELL US TO GO ELSE WHERE. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY YOU ARE TOO CHICKEN SHYT TO SHARE WHO YOU REALLY ARE SO AS FAR AS I AM CONCERN YOU ANI'T EVEN REALLY PART OF THIS BLOG FAMILY SO GO FCUK OFF!

caspar608 said...

Order in the court order in the court!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dammit shut up all of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Peace Unity Love and Having Fun. Sure we can curse each other out. She we can kiss and make up...but in the immortal words of Rodney King...CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!!!!!!!!!!!

Cocoa I need an IV line of valium stat. This is all to much for me.

I am sucking my thumb at my desk because of all of this. I am starting to think that sticking hot needles in my eyeballs is more enjoyable than reading the blog.

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Just Me said...

Freaking,
You sound like you have BIG issues along with a BIG azz....Chill out, I don't know who your busted azz is either and I have no desire to lay eyes on you....Again, you live near Ector, so use email to air your shyt not the BLOG.....If you don't like it DUMP with your Boriqueno azz.

P.S. From what I see on the BLOG it's a place to share OPINIONS, not personal attaches.

Be gone or be something esle, just be it somewhere else. I hope you AINT jealous.

donya said...

Oooooo a'll are funny. I swear I so needed my family today. Freakin you do the thing girl. Hector I have not been to that restaurant but a friend of mine has and said that they enjoyed themselves. Will anyone from NY be joining us? I am so sorry that I missed you guys the last time.

caspar608 said...

LETS GET READY TO RUUUUUMMMMMBBBBBBLLLLLEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

In this corner we have Rough Rider Tito (how rough do you ride it baby?)

In the opposite corner we have I Tells It Like It Is...Ain't No Shades of Grey Up In Here!

Go on and beat the crap out of each other ya'll. Your tension would be dynamite in the sack though. Make love, not war. Turn each other out and then order some Chinese afterwards. Sexy freaks that you are...........

donya said...

freakin please breathe and don't let it bother you just ignore.

caspar608 said...

If you two were face to face you would probably grab each other by the back of your heads and suck face until your lips were swollen and your tongue hurt.

Do The Damn Thing!

Cocoa Rican said...

Okay folks, here are the contestants:

Bachelor #1: Nice guy; 6’3”; seven-year old son; slightly possessive; really passionate; doesn’t admit to want to commit, but is always attentive
Bachelor #2: Fun guy, 6’; six-year old son; laid-back; great sense of humor; attentive; conservative
Bachelor #3: Quiet guy, 5’9”; no children; work/school; very busy; touches base daily, but is obviously juggling many balls; very conservative;
Bachelor #4: Nut job, 6’1”; no children; freak in the sack; likes it hot, likes it often; doesn’t sweat you, but blows-up the phone-lines after 11 p.m.; down-low/not out
Bachelor #5: Teddybear; 6’4”, no children; great disposition; quiet sense of humor; doesn’t hang-out much; likes sports; looking for long-term commitment

First, if you had one question to identify the best candidate, what would the question be? Second, those that know me, what candidate (based on the short descriptions) appears to be best for me. Third, if I juggle all 5 and just play openly, do I risk being misjudged and discounted?

Hit me!

caspar608 said...

I'll take the Teddybear for $1000 please. I like them big.

Oh, wait! This was for you Cocoa. Damn!

How come I never get options?

I need a passionate Latin man. If y'all can refer one to me please do. He cannot be a Mama's boy though. Yes, yes I know Mama's boys are good to their women, but they also whine a lot and need to be taken care of and I don't want to be a substitute Mama to any grown men. And when I say passionate I don't want anyone screaming and carrying on unless we are in bed and I am making his toes curl with the way I flex my walls .... let me not go there....

Cocoa take the Teddy Bear. he sounds safe and lovable and someone who you can depend upon and shovel your car out from under a blizzard.

FREAKING RICAN said...

Thanks Donya Understood....Coco, misjudged and discounted???? Are you kidding me? You know you are having too much fun with all those men why choose one just enjoy and live in the moment! you "Hooker"

caspar608 said...

Don't HATE...CONGRATULATE!!!
Emulate.Appreciate.Go on a date.

caspar608 said...

For the record Just Me, I have a very big ass...but a drink can rest comfortably on it when I stand up. And I have big boobs to boot. I have issues too, we ALL have issues in some way shape or form. Be nice Papasito!

caspar608 said...

Or is it Papacito. I am not hispanic unfortunately, but I love my spanish people.

Cocoa Rican said...

Caspar PUH-LEEEEEEEEEEEEZE!
I think I just tasted cantaloupe and bacon from this morning's breakfast... geez....

It's just Mr. Teddy makes me (physically) feel like a bitch - no pun intended.

caspar608 said...

Sweetie, I think you would be very happy with Teddy, be it bitchism or not. And I know you are bulimic because you vomit an awful lot. Freakin...thats how he has lost so much weight, don't believe the hype. He binges and then purges. You aren't fooling anyone Cocoa.

On another note, I would stay away from cantaloupe unless you washed it yourself. It is the filthiest fruit of all the fruit in the universe. In order for cantaloupe to be safely consumed you must submerge the entire cantaloupe in clorox bleach before cutting. TRUE FACT ALL THAT. So maybe, the vomitorium you had with yourself this morning was a really a bulimic/salmonella poisoning incident rather than your disgust in my needing some sexual healing real bad.

Just Me said...

Fuk you too Hector, I know you better than most of the BLOG members, if only you knew who I was. Should I give my opinion on your situation?

I'll even give you my number, so that we can go toe-to-toe with your new found respect and clear mind.

Cocoa Rican said...

Well, well, well...
Caspar I've never been bulimic (sp) it's too nasty to throw up and it'll ruin my digestive tract - for the record, I was anorexic.

Just Me... what's wrong my little red velvet cake? Let me find out you're going from baiting the girls, to wanting to attempt to beat my azz down?! Where did you and I suddenly take a turn for the worse? LOL :)

caspar608 said...

Stop the bs. You were never anorexic. You were just obsessed with calories.

caspar608 said...

I apologize.
You were anorexic, but I never saw you that way and I am verry sorry. If I had seen you thin like that I would have handcuffed you to a radiator and force fed you some homecooking.