Friday, September 22, 2006

Morning Edition - 9/22/06

On Blast
Whether it’s heights, relationships, intimacy or success, we all have something we fear. Unfortunately, we are the only person who can help overcome our own fears and many times we are the very person standing in the way of progress. Personally, my fears hold me in a thankless career pattern that frustrates me to the point of making me physically ill. Luckily, responsibility helps me overcome the paralysis of self-sabotage and I find myself skipping-along down the road of complacency. So, let’s see if you can keep it real. What’s your greatest fear? What do you do to keep this fear concealed? How do you feel this fear has impeded you realizing your full potential?

Keep passin’ the open windows…

11 comments:

caspar608 said...

Quit your bellyaching Cocoa and be thanful you have a job! If you want more money go play Lotto, if you are unfulfilled go volunteer somewhere. Just don't think its ok to be "ill" over your "lot" in life when quite frankly you've got it pretty damn good. You look fabulous, you have a roof over your head, you can walk and when you don't feel like walking you drive, you have a family that loves you , friends that can't get enough of you - WHAT ELSE COULD YOU POSSIBLY WANT?????? For the love of Pete, Tom, Jerry, George and Xavier BE HAPPY!!!!!! And stop blaming the dung heads at work if you find yourself unfulfilled. You are perfect and life, believe it or not, is great : ) Skip to my lou if you must...my darlin.

Anonymous said...

Ugh, it's so cliche for people of color, but I can't swin because I have a fear of water. My greatest fear, though, is that one of my kids will be drowning and I can't save them. For the first time in my life, I'm registered to take swimming lessons. Classes begin on October 13. I expect my life to change drastically.

-Tiffanie

Anonymous said...

Daaaaaag casper, I didn't realize this was an advise page, talk about tough love LOL, That's nice and all, but what is your fear so you can get the same toughness, or do you do that to yourself so noone else can see your's? LOL

Cocoa Rican said...

Well, thank you Anonymous… I’m glad someone else said it before Cas blew me off as bitter, anal, aggressive, jaded, vicious, vile, and hate-filled.
Now, as I mentioned, my greatest fear is pursuing my dream of writing professionally and having that dream torn to shreds by the pros. Yes, I want it more than anything else, but I give myself a million reasons why my writing wouldn’t be good enough for the masses. It is the sole reason for my professional dissatisfaction.

That said, Cas you neglected to reveal your fear and open yourself to the same scrutiny. I do realize that I am blessed… no one knows how blessed they are more than I do. I appreciate God, life and luck for the position I’m in. I have an incredible family, amazing friends and an upstanding job in one of the largest firms in the world. Ultimately, none of the above matters if MY dreams aren’t brought to fruition. So thanks for the clarity… What the f*ck scares you, b*tch?!
…and you know I say that with all the love, warmth and respect of 30 years of friendship, my little Angel Food Cake.

Tammy said...

HA,HA! Caspar and cocoa...aint nuffin like true friends! i love you both...cause you love each ova. but...my greatest fear is one day there will be a knock on my door saying one of my sons have been killed, by the cops cause they look like every other black male with locs. i'm scared for the two black men that are my babies.

caspar608 said...

Cocoa
There are very few people that I know who I can say without a doubt is destined to be in the limelight. You are one of them. STOP.STOP.STOP...procrastinating and get that book out for all of us PLEASE. Everyone is entitled to Five Minutes of Funk (shout out to Whodini) but you need to get your write on for sure.
I am afraid that I will never know what its like to be loved by someone I am intimately involved with. There you have it folks. I've loved deeply, but I have never known what its like to be deeply loved. I can deal with heights, water, fire and all that other stuff. But my fear is that I will go through life without being loved.
Does anyone have a Kleenex?
Smooches,
Cas

Cocoa Rican said...

A collective moment of silence...

caspar608 said...

what the hell is that supposed to mean?

That Dude Right There said...

My biggest fear is that I will not be able to adopt children one day. With all of the discrimination against gay folks, I probably won't be able to do it.

Tammy said...

caspar God did not put you here for you not to beloved deeply. it will happen.

that dude right there, i pray that you get to adopt your babies.

cocoa...git to writing now!!! i need a celebrity friend...and you are the closes thang to it!! scared lazy mofo!!!

Cocoa Rican said...

Okay… now that the moment of silence is over…
Cas, I’m so sorry that you’ve never felt loved… I believe you mean the head-over-heels love that folks get into where the air leaves you at the thought of not having that person around. I hope you do experience that feeling – and more importantly that you are able to feel that love for the person who has it for you in return. Many times the greatest pain is having someone love you that way and not be able to honestly reciprocate. Also, sometimes we’re not always privy to who loves us in that way. So go figure…In my experience I’ve had folks love me in the way you seek and have been too busy “paying it forward” to appreciate it. As I watched reruns of the first episodes of Queer As Folk last night an important line struck a chord with me. “I don’t believe in love, I believe in fucking. It’s efficient. You come away with the maximum amount of pleasure for the least amount of bullshit.” Harsh reality, but I realize I’ve been living that line for the last couple of years.

Tam, I pray the Lord never allows your fears to be realized. I’ve thinned-out the black in my wardrobe and my friends absolutely hate my new Jackie-O shades… translation: I wouldn’t look HOT at a wake. Besides, if you need me to watch over the guys or baby sit to ease your fears, I’d be more than happy to chip in.

That Dude Right There… boy, that is a noble-cause fear. My hopes are that you can legally adopt right here in the states, but if the assholes-that-be continue to feel that children fare better in love-less foster homes, you can always adopt abroad. Not to be confused with adopting a broad – since you’ll only realize other fears.

Tif… I didn’t know you have a fear of swimming (or water). I was a lifeguard my last two years of high school and swimming was my favorite sport. Maybe you can join me and soul wifey down in PR for some sun and surf after you have a few lessons. I’m a little rusty, but I can try and save you if things go wrong. If you bring your man, we can practice on him first. It’s always best if I show you with a subject and your man would be perfect. LOL