Can You Hear My Colon Now
Four members of the Salvatrucha gang jailed in Zacatecoluca – a small city just outside of San Salvador – each inserted a cell phone into their anus, along with several cell phone chips and even a phone charger. The gang members were reportedly giving orders to gang members on the outside. The phone chips were periodically replaced to avoid being traced. Astoundingly, one of the gang members managed to insert a cell phone, several phone chips and a charger in his anus at one time.
Jealousy – 1, 2, 3
Whether we admit or not, we’ve all experienced jealousy in our lifetime. After exploring the issue, I came across three fundamentals that have been drilled into our unconscious. These beliefs help to support or exacerbate our jealousy. Jealousy is not a single emotion, but a group of emotions grouped into one category. Fear, insecurity, anger, inadequacy, etc. join to form the emotion we know as jealousy. Here are the three fundamental beliefs that heighten jealousy and what the real deal is. The solutions should help you overcome your jealousy.
1. If my partner loves me they will never cheat
This belief is centered on the notion that your partner’s fidelity is predicated upon how much love (if any) they have for you. If their love is strong enough they will not cheat.
Solution: In actuality my partner loves me enough and is comfortable enough in our love to experience love with others while maintaining and nurturing our relationship.
2. If my partner is happy and satisfied they will be faithful
This belief says you are inadequate and therefore your partner must seek outside satisfaction.
Solution: My partner is satisfied and our bond is so strong that new interactions or relationships do not threaten our intimacy
3. No one can love more than one person at a time
This belief says that love has limits and there is only so much of it in each of us.
Solution: Love is infinite. There is no limit to love or the number of people that we can love- even simultaneously. Good examples of this are families with multiple children. Why didn’t they stop after having the first child? How would they love the second, third and subsequent children as much? The truth is that by opening myself and my partner to new experiences for love I stand to benefit from giving and receiving more love.
I know, it sounds crazy, but these solutions come across this way because the fundamental three beliefs are so hammered into us that we believe them to be true. Free yourself and you will experience more love and less anxiety.
Which of the three fundamental beliefs do you identify with the most? Do you believe the solutions to these beliefs would help manage your jealousy or do you believe them to be unrealistic?
Keep passin’ the open windows…