Monday, June 11, 2007

Morning Edition - 6/11/07

When Everyone Can Be Wrong
“Everyone can’t be wrong.” It’s a saying we’ve all heard before when folks want to justify the opinion of those in their circle. The way it works is that we should look inward when those around us ALL share the same opinion of us or an issue we’re dealing with. Normally, the theory works well. I’ll be the first to admit that it is always good to take a look at myself when many people have the same opinion about me or come away with the same feeling. Most recently, two of my exes and a couple of my friends have been of the opinion that I appear self absorbed or overly concerned with what is best for me. If I’m getting this right, it was mentioned that maybe I should “grow” out of my self centered personality trait into a more selfless person. I hear them. The thing is, I don’t think they have it wrong; they just have the wrong idea of what taking care of me means. When there is a lot going on in my life and I’m contending with competing priorities, I have to take care of the one guy who I am certain will do what’s best for me – ME. I am worthless to everyone in my circle if I don’t take care of myself. I am very independent and work hard at not asking anyone for anything – ever. I love my friends and family. I do my best to be there for everyone. I am as supportive as I can be to those around me. I am a giving person – both of myself and of what is mine. All said, they’re not wrong about my striving to take care of myself, but to say that I need to “grow” out of caring for myself; well, I have to disagree. I still am my go-to guy when I need delivery guaranteed.

On Blast
As I mature I’m less likely to feel the need to change things about myself that work – and more importantly – work well for me. Standing by what you believe in the face of those around you isn’t so difficult when you’re willing to accept the rewards and consequences for your choices.
Do you recall a time when your decision(s) and/or choice(s) had you standing alone without the support or agreement of others?

Keep passin’ the open windows…


Mr. Jones said...

Good post.

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said "The man that stands by himself, the universe stands by him also." God, I hope he's right.

To answer your question directly, yes. I'm often left standing alone and to be honest, I don't mind. I'm not disagreeable, but I do things my way. I'm open to hearing suggestions and am even willing to change a course of action if a more logical alternative is presented.

I think people waiver based on what others thinks too often. If no one else does, I respect your commitment to yourself and your ideals.

With that said, never isolate yourself too much from people. Being behind a fortress may seem like a good thing all the time, but being isolated often exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from.

El Alexander said...

I can recall a few times! The only problem with me is that I always want to change my career LOL. I’m really into change and just trying to reinvent myself, because I get bored so fast with things; so in saying that my family and friends always look at me like “OK WHAT IS IT GOING TO BE THIS WEEK?” And now that I’m getting older I’m really starting to narrow it down and I still think they are not 100% behind me.
And by the way I’m moving to North Jerz… I’m only about 10-15 mins from NY…
Have you checked out this song:

Anonymous said...

me myself and I that's all I got in the end and I found out, there there ain't no need to cry I took a vow that for now on I'm a be my own best friend.

Do you Cocoa! I love you just the way you love yourself and that's a good thing.


ponoono said...

the essence of leadership is the willingness to stand alone if necessary, without fear or self-doubt

usually it works. bush and the misadventure in the occupation of iraq are an example of when it fails.