Monday, June 13, 2005

Afternoon Edition - 6/13/05 - On Blast

On Blast
Today we’re putting Freaking Rican On Blast with: You know me, I am vivacious, funny, volup2us and damn sexy, why is it that men find women like me unapproachable? Damn do I have to act desperate for a man to even walk up to me and say "Hello". What's up with that? I am an old fashion girl and strongly believe a guy should ask a girl out...Where are these brothers?

Dear Dateless-In-The-Apple:
With your list of attributes you would think that guys would be drop-kicking each other to get to you, but obviously they’re not and here may be some reasons why. First, understand that men have the same batch of insecurities and fear of rejection issues as women. The very thought of having my face cracked by someone at a club or bar will keep me from going over to introduce myself. Getting around this is somewhat simple – be receptive, without conveying the I’m-a-hooker-lay-me vibe. This means you should make eye contact with parties you are interested in, smile coyly – don’t overdo it - and repeat the steps until the message is read. Second, visit venues that cater to the type of man you’re interested in. If you don’t like a club-goer or drinker, then bars and clubs may not be the best place to cast your net. Gyms, smaller house parties and even church services tend to be great places to meet decent men. Don’t appear easy. Though you may think you’re the bell-of-the-ball, the truth is men don’t want what everyone else has – or could potentially have – for themselves. A man always believes the true catch is one that doesn’t appear easy to land. Hey, easy comes-easy goes and we prefer thinking our woman (or man) will not be easily distracted by another potential date. Finally, courting (dating) is a sinuous dance. A man wants a woman who appears interested, but not one who is selling the farm on the first night. You should give him attention, but not be the lady with the telephone ear-piece pasted to the side of your head waiting for his call. Before arriving at the dating-dance-hall you should ask yourself: What do I want from a man? What qualities MUST I have to be happy in a relationship? What issues are completely unacceptable in a potential mate? Be realistic… you’re not Angelina Jolie and he won’t be Brad Pitt… learn to compromise. Never think you’ll change anyone and certainly don’t give them the impression that you will change key elements of yourself to make them happy either. Most importantly, loosen up. If you’re uptight about dating you will give verbal and physical cues that will set-off red flags to the men who engage you. Be confident, remain cool, be yourself and know that the best partners show up when we least expect them. Well, at least that’s what I’m experiencing…. Rufus Sidebar: When we want an easy lay, we’ll hit the easy-going person who doesn’t ask too much of us. This is usually the person who’s been stroking our egos all night – and probably everything else – and has our testosterone at a boil. Also, the pool of pooty being thrown at us lately by desperate women who don’t mind sharing a man and don’t ask questions is ridiculous. Women have undermined their own situation by playing against each other and making it a cake-walk for men who want to run y’all ragged. Stick to your guns, get a nice ugly man to tie-your-over until the right one arrives and know that in the end you get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.

Keep passin’ the open windows…

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Maybe women have to take acting lessons, this way we'll know which type of woman they want and then we can switch on them to make it more interesting/challenging.

Dancel in distress victim, to indpendent woman, to Needy, to kick a$$ athletic woman, to mother figure, to freaky in bed.

In other words we have to learn to be Sibil w/multiple personalities so it can attract their attention. Are you all feeling me - at least that how I feel about. Krissy - YO

Unknown said...

I'm not every woman, but it's still All-In-Me... that said, y'all need to get with the program. Since gay men make up only 10% of the male population, you're working with 90% more men than I am - roughly speaking, wink, wink! Get with the program ladies! Get off your vuluptuous a$$es and do your thing! Whatchu waitin' for? Here's a clue: There's little chance that your handsome, intelligent, knight in shining armor will come knocking on your project door to scoop you up! Enough said.

Unknown said...

Freaking Rican I too am all of what you are and then some and I all I seem to attract is the dirty old men or the really young boys. It is especially hard when you at one point was dealing with someone that did treat you like that queen that you are. But I look at it like this there was one and there will be another. I am not going to be fake for any man. If my children need me than he must deal with that. If my family needs then he must deal with that. I have to be excepted for me with all my pluses and minuses.

Unknown said...

Honestly... I've been single for over two years now and have found that dating can be tricky, but it's when I was very hard on myself and others (the first six months of being single) that I had a difficult time dating. Today, I don't date as often as my friends - simply because I'm not as interested in having different partners - but I do date a "healthy" couple of folks and it's all on the up-and-up. I sincerely am not looking for a life-long partner, but if they'll come along, I'm sure we'll both know it. In the meantime, It's like a ball game and they umpire just called "Ball 3!"

Anonymous said...

BE A LADY AND YOU WILL EVENTUALLY GET A GENT....BE A SCANK AND YOU WILL GET FUCKED REPEATEDLY AND OFTEN :). THEY SAY MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS. THE REAL TRUTH IS MOST MEN ARE RAISED TO USE INTIMACY(WINING, DINING, CONVERSATION, RELATIONSHIP) TO GET SEX WHILEMOST WOMEN ARE RAISED TO PROMISE SEX TO GET INTIMACY. SOMETIMES WE ARE ON THE SAME PAGE AND WANT THE SAME THING. MOST MEN ARE NOT NATURALLY DRAWN TO COMMIT....THEY ARRIVE AT IT...WHILE FOR MOST WOMEN IT IS FRUIT OF LIFE. MEN HAVE NO CLUE WHAT WOMEN WANT BUT THEY HATE BEING MANIPULATED INTO WHAT EVER IT IS. WOMEN WORK AGAINST EACH OTHER AND THAT PLAYS DIRECTLY INTO A MAN'S GAME PLAN. WOMEN HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO KEEP A MAN ONCE YOU CAPTURE HIS ATTENTION. DON'T GO AFTER A MAN LIKE HE IS FOOD. DON'T GO AFTER A MAN LIKE HE IS SUPPOSED TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR HAPPINESS. DON'T GO AFTER A MAN LIKE "ONE BITE OF YOUR APPLE WILL GET HIM HOOKED". TAKE SOME OF THE RESPONSIBILITY IN THE ENCOUNTER. DON'T ACT DESPERATE. DON'T ACT COY. DON'T ACT LIKE YOUR BODY IS A NEGOTIATING ASSET. DON'T ACT PERIOD. MEN ARE TWO-DEMENTIONAL. MAKE HIM WANT TO DATE YOU. REMEMBER YOU ARE WHO HWE IS LOOKING FOR....HE DOESN'R KNOW IT YET. MEN HAVE IT HARD TOO. IT TAKES A LOT BALLS TO WALK UP TO A STRANGE WOMAN AN SAY 'HELLO'. HE COULD GET HIS BALLS GROUNDED INTO DUST AND HANDED BACK TO HIM.....AND LADIES THAT HURTS LIKE HELL....IT TAKES MONTS TO BGAKE A NEW SET OF BALLS TO GO BACK OUT THERE...BUT MEN TAKE THAT CHANCE E'RRYDAY. I GUESS IN THE END MEN AND WOMEN SHOULD TAKE THE TIME TO LEARN EACH OTHER.

Unknown said...

Dear Babbling Bitches:
I love you all... I really do, but take Mrs. Smith (Angelina Jolie) character for example. Strong, sexy, determined and a minimum amount of bitchin' and moanin'. For the record - and in my "man" role - dudes hate the whining! Be strong, be sensitive, be self-sufficient and like Clavin K. said, "Just Be" I don't wanna hear another line about... ewwww, where is he? ewwww... when is he gonna talk to me? ewww, when is he gonna rescue me? ewww... when is he gonna do right? Shut-up! Go find the one you want, be cute, be coy, have fun and drop his a$$ when he acts a fool - PERIOD! You know it's bad when the gay men have to tell you to cut the drama. DAMN! What's really going on?!?!?

Unknown said...

MICHAEL JACKSON NOT GUILTY - ACQUITTED OF ALL CHARGES! Well, ladies... line up ... well, line up your kids.

LOL :)

Unknown said...

In passing Caspar mentioned a funny thing... what if you're not reading these men correctly and it turns out they just don't want yo' azz? Has that occurred to anyone? What if no one is interested in yo' strong, volumptuous azz?! What if.....
What if my aunt had ballz?!!!

Anonymous said...

Michael Jackson said that he's so happy that he is gonna celebrate at Boy's Club of America and all of the Cub Scouts can come, drinks are on him.