Friday, June 24, 2005

Afternoon Edition - 6/24/05

On Blast
Today we’re putting Freaking Rican On Blast with: Why does our society view a man having many sex partners as "He's the Man" and when a woman has two of three men she dating or doing or whatever and she is consider "A HOE"?

Although, as Toy mentioned, views on sexuality and gender roles have changed, they still have not changed enough to affect world views (or even US views) on what is acceptable in males and females. Males have always been given the go-ahead to express their sexuality, while females are taught to repress overt sexual expression. While men are almost encouraged to play the field, sow their wild oats and score, women are encouraged to maintain chastity and enter marriage chaste. As I explored in our Morning Edition Comments, the issue even appears to have spilled over from just female scrutiny, to that of “passive” homosexual men as well. That is, the passive gay man is frowned upon for being a more promiscuous person. I’ll need to research that last issue a little further before addressing it, but we’ll put it out there now. Ultimately, women must understand that although it is NOT fair that men are held to a different standard than their female counterparts, IT IS WHAT IT IS. You cannot change Rome in a day; women who try to play by the same rules as their male counterparts and act as “players,” sort-of speak, are perceived as “loose” and not worthy of investing time in as a quality perspective partner. The key appears to be in the “do-it-but-don’t-talk-about-it.” Women should not attempt to be boisterous about promiscuity, since this will only perpetuate the societal belief that a woman with several partners is a whore. Men… carry on!

Keep passin’ the open windows…

6 comments:

MzBlackIce said...

I'm all late. But in my opinion, society sees women in that matronly light ("...mom and apple pie") or puts them on pedestels. And when women "break out of the norm" and are sexual uninhibited everyone frowns and labels them. I remember my mother telling me "when a man falls in the gutter gets back up no one remembers him falling; when a woman falls in that same gutter and gets back up, people only remember that she fell."

Bottom line, the double standard between the two sexes is alive and not going anywhere. My advice to the ladies, use condoms, do the damn thing and keep how many times you did it to yourself.

Cocoa Rican said...

Right... you hookahs do your thing!.... I mean, you sistahs be empowered... what the heck!! I can't seem to think to myself... :)

Anonymous said...

Yes, do your thang! But do remember that there is a new strand of chlymidia that will disfigure your genetalia.....and ain't that a blimp cause it ain't even cute to begin with (now I know some of you ladies are thinking "shoot, I don't know what she talkin about, my stuff is pretty" but honey, it's not, I have the same thang and it ain't neva been pretty) OK, got sidetracked, but all this to say that I agree with THE Cocoa Rican and MZBlackice --- wrap his unit up and roll with it but keep it a secret!

Toy

MzBlackIce said...

LMAO at Cocoa and Toy!

Cocoa Rican said...

Just the other night I was talking to two guys I'm dating (on three way) and I was asking them if I, in any way, gave them the impression that I was loose or cheap. Both of them agreed that they held me in high regard and even offerred to duel in my honor in front of my subway station in my honor. Later, while speaking to a "jump off" of mine, I asked him if he thought that my dating several people simultaneously (sp) affects his perception of me... he said, no and said that if I didn't mind, he'd like to stop over at 3 a.m. to talk .... go figure. So, either the folks I'm dating are lying to me (clutch your pearls) or people hold me in pretty high regard. I'll keep you posted.

:)
Have a great weekend and keep passin' the open windows...

caspar608 said...

YOU MAAAAKKKEEE ME FEEEELLL MIIIII-GHTY REAL.
And that's all I've got to say about that...
Viva La Pride Weekend!!!!!!!!!!!