Today we’re putting Freaking Rican On Blast with: Why does our society view a man having many sex partners as "He's the Man" and when a woman has two of three men she dating or doing or whatever and she is consider "A HOE"?
Although, as Toy mentioned, views on sexuality and gender roles have changed, they still have not changed enough to affect world views (or even US views) on what is acceptable in males and females. Males have always been given the go-ahead to express their sexuality, while females are taught to repress overt sexual expression. While men are almost encouraged to play the field, sow their wild oats and score, women are encouraged to maintain chastity and enter marriage chaste. As I explored in our Morning Edition Comments, the issue even appears to have spilled over from just female scrutiny, to that of “passive” homosexual men as well. That is, the passive gay man is frowned upon for being a more promiscuous person. I’ll need to research that last issue a little further before addressing it, but we’ll put it out there now. Ultimately, women must understand that although it is NOT fair that men are held to a different standard than their female counterparts, IT IS WHAT IT IS. You cannot change Rome in a day; women who try to play by the same rules as their male counterparts and act as “players,” sort-of speak, are perceived as “loose” and not worthy of investing time in as a quality perspective partner. The key appears to be in the “do-it-but-don’t-talk-about-it.” Women should not attempt to be boisterous about promiscuity, since this will only perpetuate the societal belief that a woman with several partners is a whore. Men… carry on!
Keep passin’ the open windows…