Tuesday, June 28, 2005

Afternoon Edition - 6/28/05

PrideFest Should Change Its Name To (Drum roll please!) The Linguist Ball
The weather cooperated and PrideFest NYC was a HUGE success. A remarkable swarm of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender folks gathered to celebrate their lives. The actual parade and the after parties that followed painted a picture that was slightly disturbing - well, at least from a gay man's perspective. For every one man there had to be at least 10 women (hence the play on words with "linguist") :::Yeah, I know what a linguist is darnit!:::: . The age group of the participants was also shocking, since the majority of the crowd didn't look a day over 25. All in all, it was a gorgeous day with a wide array of people joining together to celebrate their struggle, lives, loves and the fellowship that can only come with celebrating with your own.

Day Eight…We Fall Down, But We Get Up
Today I celebrate eight days of fighting the serious battle to beat my addiction to nicotine. Experts say that nicotine addiction is harder to beat than heroine. I really don't want to find out… I know this is a hard battle and my flesh begs for a cigarette some days. On Sunday I was tempted (and patch less) and forgave myself for almost asking for a drag from someone’s cig. Today, I accept that I'll make mistakes, but my perseverance is key to beating the addiction.

July 16 Around the Corner
Marcia R. checked with Watkins Park regarding our need for reservations for a gathering there. Turns out their actual reservations are booked, but spots - such as the one we held several years back are open and fair game to the visiting public. We will be holding one of these spots by the tennis courts that Saturday. The NYC "delegation" has made their reservations at a nearby hotel (thanks Angie!) and we will be arriving Friday night. We are also exploring venues to party Saturday night… this is planned to be a night to get our dance on and have a good time with each other, so whether you don't normally party or you're dance skills were featured in the hit TV show Fame, we ask that you join us Saturday night as well. Jeanine and Angie are presently devising a list of things to bring for our gathering at the park and will e-mail the crew. Suggestions are always welcome!

Long Story Short…
My foray into dating, coupled with my newfound sense of elated bliss (euphoria, really) has positively affected my dating situation and the folks I meet. Recently, I told you about the incredible guy that is now in the dating pool and I have to say I’m still flush with excitement with how we make each other feel – keep it clean J’Moo... Latisha F., formerly of ABA, turned 21 (uh, right) on June 25. Happy B-Day Tish! Philippe… I haven’t forgotten you, but you know how we roll. Caspar bought a fab-u, new, Toyota Camry SE… Congrats girl! Caught a short on a new film called Shook on Showtime last night. The movie, written by a black woman, tells the story of a woman who finds out her man is on the down-low when she decides to surprise him at the office to tell him she’s pregnant. Talk about high DRAMA. Definitely one to check out. Reis Park on the 4th fellow New Yorkers?!

Today, we’re putting Anonymous On Blast with: What is love?
Thank goodness, a simple question. I’ll give the dictionary definition and let my fellow bloggers retell their TRUE love experiences. Yeah, a brotha is busy and NEEDS a break today. Here goes…Love is a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness. Love is also a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance. Sidebar: Krissy honey... go ahead and take those purple pills the doctor prescribed. I saw your comments this morning.

Keep passin’ the open windows…

16 comments:

MzBlackIce said...

In case some of ya'll didn't know, Stella (Terry McMillan)is giving her groove back...to a man. Here's the link to the story to read at your leisure.

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2005/06/26/BAGTQDF4S01.DTL&hw=mcmillan&sn=001&sc=1000

Cocoa Rican said...

The MzBlackIce... just read the story.. forwarded by Lady Long Legs... the story is FIERCE!!!!!!!!!!! Sounds like it would make a bigger hit or bestseller than the original... kind-of reminds me of that movie I spoke of "Shook"

MzBlackIce said...

Coca...you ain't never lied. That article was off the hook!

Cocoa Rican said...

Well... I'll be the one to go there today...

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. (1 Corinthians 13:1-13)

Anonymous said...

Cocao,
if you can forward me the story.
J'Moo

Anonymous said...

What about the blast question; I would LOVE to hear other replies, Oopps! I use the L-word.

Anonymous said...

I can't put it into 1 word or 1 description, but the love between a mother and her child is so unconditional and is so pure. Love is when you are 100lbs over weight and he still wants to make love...or play in the doughd depending on where the weight gain is. Sorry for the visual.

Denene

caspar608 said...

I think that story is very sad. I am sure Terry McMillan is just very angry - and not homophobic as the story would like for you to believe. It would seem that he wanted citizenship though.....and I don't think he is entitled to a cent of her money. He should get a job and live his life freely going forward.

caspar608 said...

Love is God, God is Love
- Prince
Love Sexy

Cocoa Rican said...

"Mr McMillan" should get half the dough for having to fake it for that long... he played his part now give him his royalties...hey, she made out on the book/movie deal

MzBlackIce said...

Adult love is realistically and unconditionally accepting the essence of a person without fear. (jess my opinion)

caspar608 said...

then I guess if he had to fake it for so long, he didn't really love her which would make the marriage null and void - which entitles him to nothing.
See, if he kept it real and honey knew then it would be a loving partnership provided honey knew what the story was before they took those vows.
We live in a horrible society where people closet themselves out of fear of rejection. Albeit some closet themselves for monetary gain, as I believe is the case with Terry, for the most part what keeps people from being who they are is FEAR. Fear is a negative emotion, not of God, and leads to some very unfortunate consequences.
Ala Forrest Gump, that's all I have to say about that.

Cocoa Rican said...

Let's give Terry some credit... the woman is old enough to know better and sometimes women turn a blind eye to the obvious (for many reasons) and just stick by their man. ...well, until they are forced to see their man in a very compromising situation. Terry is much to savy to be rendered incapable of choosing a suitable mate. For the record Caspar... unlike women, when we fake it there has to be some "realness" involved. Brotha man had her writing books and screenplays, so something had to be good. Let's keep it real.

caspar608 said...

I am sure he did have it going on down south, BUT I think it would be safe to say, judging from her venomous angry words that she had not a clue that he was more interested in menfolk than women.

caspar608 said...

you may be right. perhaps they were in love for a few seasons. who am i to say what they had. i just don't think that men - unless they have custody of the kids - should receive any alimony etc. from their wives. if any party in the marriage decides they would rather give their goods to someone other than thweir respective spouse, i don't think they should be entitled to a cent. if that unhappy party in the marriage has enough integrity to admit that they want out because they are not happy - then yes, I thik a financial agreement should be reached - however, once adultery has been committed (in gay and straight unions alike people!) it's demeaning for both parties involved if the cheating party insists on support. you see, if i had loot like that - the Mr. would get knocked off. God forgive me.

Cocoa Rican said...

Terry has had lawyers, advisors and friends throughout her career and - likely - her life. When was Stella written/filmed? Homeboy put some time in AND had his lifestory used for financial gain. Let's be realistic.... I agree, in matters where there is infidelity and there wasn't a financial gain to one party based on the life/likeness of the other party (legalese) then no monetary damages/support should be awarded. Basically, you give away my stuff and you forgo any money. PERIOD.