Tuesday, June 07, 2005

Morning Edition - 6/7/05

NOBODY CARES WHEN THE TEARS OF A CLOWN FALL DOWN
With a record 52 responses, yesterday's Morning Edition proved that the mark of a true man is one who can recognize his shortcomings, accept responsibility and apologize for his mistakes. Second, that when we inflict pain on others - consciously or unconsciously - the affects can be long lasting, if not life-long. Finally, that your true friends are your true friends regardless of what your imperfections may be. Thank you to everyone who felt compelled to respond to our emotionally distressed blog member. The truth is, he proved that out of negative things, positive things could be born. Though I don't discount the anonymous person's comments, I do feel he brought about an outpouring of affection that warmed my heart. Conversely, I was saddened to know that I had hurt someone so deeply that years after the events, they still felt so strongly about their pain. To that anonymous person, I can only reiterate that wrong is wrong - past, present and future. The lessons those experiences taught me have made me a better friend, mate and human being. I hope our anonymous reader will stop pulling off the scab and allow that wound to scar over. I say scar over because you will always remember - heck, I do; but remembering and ensuring that the memory prevents the event's recurrence are two different things. Making mistakes isn't where we go wrong; it's repeating them that make us fools. That said, the "Comments" section will not change - certainly not for my benefit. The Blog will stand for what it has always stood for - a venue to openly share (even when that sharing gets ugly). Finally, I'm not proud of the mistakes I've made, but by no means am I ever embarrassed by anything I've ever done.

Patients Sue; He's No Doctor Feel Good
The state appeals court in Wisconsin ruled that an unidentified doctor won't have to divulge his sexual orientation after performing digital rectal exams during routine work physicals. Two patients sued the doctor for negligence after having their prostates probed, in what they felt, was an unnecessary exam. When the initial deposition took place, the doctor's attorney refused to let his client answer the question regarding his sexual orientation. Sidebar: Did he use a gloved hand?

Hung Jury Over Hung Victim; The Retrial
After he and his friend were sexually intimate with 17-year old Gwen Araujo both remained curious as to the gender of good-‘ole Gwen. So Michael Magidson and Jose Merel – along with friend Jason Cazares decided to confront Araujo as to her gender. A female guest at the home grabbed at Araujo’s genitals and definitively announced that she was, in fact, male. So Merel, Magidson, and Cazares decided that rather than be thought of as gay, they’d kill Araujo by bashing her with cans and frying pans, before punching and kneeing her and finally tying a rope around her neck and choking her to death. The group then buried the body. During their first trial, the killers pleaded guilty to a lesser charge of manslaughter (based on revealing that theirs was a crime of passion) but this enraged Araujo’s family and transgender advocates that argued murder is murder – PERIOD. The first trial ended with a hung jury. Now in retrial, arguments in the case range from the alleged perps caring for young Araujo to reasoning that their actions were brought about by deceit. The star witness for the prosecution, Jaron Nabors, testified that he only helped bury the body out of loyalty to his friends. Uh….cool… Sidebar: What’s really going on?

Please feel free to post your questions for the afternoon On Blast in today's Morning Edition "Comments."

Keep passin’ the open windows…

17 comments:

Jeanine said...

Cocoa I'm so sorry that someone has tried to use this forum to say some mean and nasty things about you or anyone else. We all have done or said something in our past that we wish was different but all we can do is apologize and move on. We are all too fabulous for the BS and some people just can't handle it!

In the meantime, know that those that love you got your back and will back you up at a moments notice.

Caspar I see you! Even if I live in DC you know I gotta rep BK fo life :-) "I'm NY to tha heart but got love for all" Ya know?

Cocoa Rican said...

Thank you ladies! Fortunately, it's all good...like Wendy says, "It is what it is." Funny thing is, I hated that line when I first returned to NY, now I live by it. I'm here for y'all as well. Like I said, good will be born even with evil as the mother. :)
OH... and before I forget ladies... I saw y'all talkin' about my pee-pee last night. Watch it! I don't need to be doin' any backsliding!! :)

Keep passin' the open windows...

donya said...

WOW!! Yesterday was a doozy. Did not get a chance to read it until this morning. Hector, you know I love you and all that talkin was too much. Now if ever you need to throw up some hands I am there. And Jeanine you know how it is for us DELTA 4 LIFE. Anywho as for today I hope that we have a more peaceful day. Love to all

caspar608 said...

I've known Cocoa since I am 6 years old...there have been times when we lost touch with each other...and every time we reconnect it's like he was always there. That's how you know who your soulmates are.
Cocoa, I am so proud of the man you have become. Surely you know how loved you are - by so many - despite your mistakes (and yes, we've all made them) And I too apologize to the individual who attacked Hector. I love him like he was my brother/my child - my first instinct is to protect what is mine. Anonymous, if you are hurting that badly please talk to someone about it in a positive way. Do not lash out in anger. It's ok to cry if you haven't already. Just get some help so you can live a long, healthy, happy life.
Also, a few of you could use hooked on phonics : )

caspar608 said...
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Anonymous said...

Now that we have gotten past the madness yesterday, let’s move on to some real business:

My cousin’s boyfriend is living with her. She pays all the rent because he has child support to pay for his child by another girl. My cousin does not have children at all. It appears that she is bringing more to the table than her boyfriend. I’m a firm believer that a man should not move into his girlfriend’s place; the couple should go out and get a place together.

Why do men in this day and age think it’s alright to have a woman support them? And why do women allow it?

And caspar608 - you are too funny!

Tammy said...

hole da fucc up!!! who is this triflin azz be-atch anonymous???!!! i wasnt on yesterday, i just read the comments. i am in a rage cause i cain't git to dis low down crawlin on his/her knees skank!! how did they even get on this forum feelin like that about my hector!! i will put a hit on the bytch and she/he will disappear from the face of the earth!! hector boo you know that you are one of the most rightous mofo's on dis hear earth. and you know that you are loved by many. this bytch cant even lick the dust off of your shoes!!! stank azz ho!!!!!!!

caspar608 said...

Jeanine -
Nobody out there is better than my man S. Carter ( note my reference to Pimp Threats yesterday). You definitely got your balls from Brooklyn. Brooklyn people got crazy loot...whenever there's beef y'all ain't scared to shoot. As for me and the Cocoa Rican, Uptown is definitely in the house.
Anonymous who is vexed over her cousin's boyfriends freeloading ways...I have this to say:
I supported the father of my three children for YEARS. He had a job for a long, long time and was laid off - never to be able to find a job in the corporate world AGAIN. I know this because I sent out at least 50 resumes over a period of 3 years. He went though his 401K money in warp speed time. But I helped him out of the goodness of my heart. When I found out he was a lying cheating bastard it hurt me deeply because I bent over backward to help him and he dogged me out. Flash forward, I know the Lord blessed me for my kindness to someone who hurt me so badly. I own a co-op, I make great money and I am a really happy person. He and I are friends now and although he cannot help me out monetarily, he spends a lot of time with our kids. Let your cousin do what she feels like doing. If it's coming from the right place, with or without him, she will only get good things back.

Anonymous said...

CoCoa,
"This post has been removed by the author." Does this posting mean that you are and are able to removing un-wanted comments from un-desirable users?

And for you girl, the last time I saw women ralley around someone like that, Oprah was trying to fit into a smaller size girdle. Much respect! Oh, by the way, please don't reply to the Oprah remark, it was meant to be a joke.
J'Moo
PS
CoCoa, thanks for not removing the anonymous option, ONE!

caspar608 said...

I removed a duplicate comment @10:32am. I hit login and publish 2X. Sorry kids.

Anonymous said...

That's alright. Isn't nice when we all say thanks, and I apologize and excuse. Ins't it nice when we all just get along? Peace and Blessings J'Moo

caspar608 said...

My departed grandmother always used to say..."It's nice to be important but it's more important to be nice." I sure do miss her Gin swilling behind.

KRISALMIGHTY said...

COCOA I'M SO SORRY YOU WERE HAVING A BAD DAY YESTERDAY.....BUT YOU HANDLED YOURSELF ADMIRABLY.....AFTER 15 YEARS I COULDN'T BE MORE PROUD OF YA....AND STILL LOVE YOU WITHOUT APOLOGY.

PS: @ "ANONYMOUS" KEEP TAKING THOSE MEDS REGULARLY, THEY WILL CUT DOWN ON THOSE PSYCHOTIC EPISODES.

Cocoa Rican said...

OH KRIS!! Was that one of life's most embarassing moments or what?! ...but seriously, it's all good. Besides, anyone who knows me knows that bringing up the truth never did hurt me... it's when you lie that it hurts. For a minute there I thought I was going to need to come down to VA to be comforted.

KRISALMIGHTY said...

YOU KNOW COCOA, BACK IN THE DAY YOU WOULD HAVE ANNIHILATED THAT ANONYMOUS CHARACTER WITH THE FURVER OF A CLUSTER GRINADE BUT I WAS TRULY IMPRESSED BY YOUR MEASURED RESPONSES AND YOUR MATURE CALM......BITCHERY HAS ITS TIME AND SEASON....AND THEN WE GROW UP. MAD OUTBURSTS ARE FOR PETULENT CHILDREN. ANYWAY YOU KNOW I GOT YOUR BACK.....SNOW OR NOT

caspar608 said...

I LOVE that!
Petulant Children!
I HAVE petulant children.
That's what I am going to say to them for now on "Stop it you petulant child you!"

Cocoa Rican said...

OH... thanks my Almighty warrior! Although I must admit, I'm afraid of that sword... play along darnit!

Thanks for having my back. As you know, chances are I'm crazier than most folks I come across and won't need help. :)