Monday, May 23, 2005

Afternoon Edition - 5/23/05

Offended By On Blast? Here Are Some Tips
The recent addition of our On Blast segment has set some of our conservative readers on “ugh” mode. To reiterate, this blog was set-up for ALL to share and find a place to express any thought, question and position freely. As I’ve always mentioned, the only requirement to being one of the “crew” is to keep an open mind. News stories are taken from confirmed sources and when a story is not confirmed, I’ll tell you that. Family stories are slight exaggerations, but are intended to provide some humor throughout the day. However, the On Blast segment is completely driven by you, the reader. Rather than ask that folks tone-down their questions, I’ll ask that if you’re offended by the content of the On Blast segment, please feel free to ignore it. On Blast will only appear as the last segment in each Afternoon Edition, so clicking away from a topic that you may consider racier that you can handle is easy to do. Ultimately, I find the On Blast segment a great add-on that gives us an opportunity to explore issues we normally feel either embarrassed or afraid to ask about. The fact that any question can be asked anonymously and other readers can also address the questions, makes the segment even more interesting. I won’t ask anyone to grow up or get a grip – just keep an open mind and make the choice to click away when that sudden rush of moral superiority starts kicking your ass.

As Marc Anthony said, “Si te vas, si te vas” or The Last Supper
Tonight, the Cruz clan will sit down for their last supper before retired parents, Manuel and Millie, embark on their return trip to their Caribbean paradise, Puerto Rico, tomorrow afternoon. The Cruz patriarchs have been in NYC for the last two weeks. It’s funny how we spend our young lives attempting to be so different from our parents just to find out that we’re so much more similar than what we thought. I see so much of them in myself and their visit made that really okay. Turns out, it’s the best of me that is so obviously a direct reflection of them. Whether it’s the sense of drama I picked up from mom or the confidence that was, again, awakened by my dad, I’m grateful for their visit. As we sit to eat tonight, I’m sure they’ll be some last minute words of advice from them, some flared tempers and even some angered tears, but it will all end in a fluid dance of laughter, good cheer and memories to add to our heart prints.

On Blast
Today, we’re putting Freaking Rican On Blast...FR asks….”What is up with men? I went out dancing this weekend and the place was jammed pack and not one of this knuckleheads even ask us out to dance until they saw us dancing amongst each other. What is up with that? My question is why do men stand there looking stupid instead of just asking? For Christ sake it's just dancing!!!!!”
First, FR, you’re assuming they want to dance with you when you ask why they’re standing there looking stupid instead of asking you to dance. Truth is, we’re not all universally attractive to everyone. That said, men are as afraid of rejection as women are. Unfortunately, our society has a a weird sense of chivalry that says a man must ask you to dance first – rather than you walking up to the “knucklehead” and asking him to join you to do the cha-cha. As for why it’s easier for men to engage you on the dance floor, well, it’s quite simple – you’re already moving and would have to actually leave the dance floor (and probably your favorite song) to leave him standing there. Also, the threat of a very public humiliation, by having you say no in front of his friends, is diffused if you’re surrounded by other folks dancing. Long story short… take control of the situation, ask a wallflower to dance and be gracious if he says he rather not. Following the rules of approach – if he says no, he is not allowed to attempt to join you on the dance floor later, when you’re, more than likely, enjoy the company of someone else. Besides, in straight clubs/bars, women have the upper hand, since they can dance with men and they can dance with each other until a man with some real “cojones” steps up.

Keep passin’ the open windows…

9 comments:

donya said...

First I would like to say that I love the Blast... It is very informative. My question is On many ocassion I have been approached by men asking me when am I going to take them out to eat. What is that? Is it me or other woman offended by this?

Cocoa Rican said...

Thnx Donya...we hope that the On Blast segment is our little secret place to say whatever, whenver, with no repercussions... I'll hit you up with an answer to your question in tomorrow's Afternoon Edition - BTW folks, please feel free to give Donya your feedback whenever you're ready :)
Squeeze my Boo-Boos for me!

FREAKING RICAN said...

Donya,

Let some busted a$$ brother ask me some question like that...Unreal! If any BOY..that's right I said it BOY ask you some dumba$$ question like that then your answer to him should be "Do I look like the WIC office to you" (I got that one from Coco...Got's to give my man his props!) With a question like that you know that BOY is not worth the time of day. He is just looking for a freebee with his Busted A$$ self! Hmmm Don't even get me started. When am I taking him out to EAT!!! NEVER!!!! UNREAL!!! Where are the real men in this world!!! So if you are ever aproach again with that LAME A$$ question you know how to answer him. HEHEHE!!!!

Tammy said...

uh...what freaking rican said...yeah!!!!

Cocoa Rican said...

O>>>>>>>>>>>kay... so how do you really feel? You know I'm thinking one million things a second reading these... very well put FR! I'll try to devise an acceptable across-the-board response that applies to all our readers for tomorrow... you know we have them in all social circles - AND I DO MEAN ALL! Needless to say - from a personal standpoint - the wallet is firmly put-away until my 75th birthday! :)

Anonymous said...

Coming from a WOMAN who seems to be a magnet for busted ass no money having boys, I know that the universe JUST HAS TO BLESS ME for all the meals I have provided to the needy. I have reached my quota though. I would rather be on my journey SOLO than have to buy another ass a meal. As far as the blast is concerned, if anyone is offended DO NOT READ IT AGAIN. This is a site for adults who are free to be themselves. And please do not refer the Cocoa Ricans' site to anyone who has a tarantula up their ass. We all have better things to do than worry about "offending" someone...

FREAKING RICAN said...

I agree with anonymous...Who ever has a negative comment about the toss salad bit..(probably a guy) you need to drop off this forum because obviously if you were that easily offended by "The Truth" then get a grip with life. Are you sure you are not a "closet case". That's right I said it! If you were that easily offended "THEN DON'T READ WHAT COCO HAS TO SAY BECAUSE YOU ARE JUST GONNA HEAR IT AS IT IS. Coco is truly "Not Shady, Just Fierce"

Cocoa Rican said...

OH FR! I love you more than my luggage!! HONEY! You make my heart swell up and almost defrost... :)

caspar608 said...

caspar was anonymous in this. Mess with my Papi Chulo and you will get read.
Thanks again for bringing the folks to the party! My Mom was soooo happy.