Lady Long Legs is On Blast with: Are you willing to be the other woman or the other man? If so, why?
To help make an educated or mature choice to LLL’s questions, we should explore the issue at hand – infidelity. FACTS: Merriam-Webster defines infidelity as unfaithfulness to a moral obligation or disloyalty; marital unfaithfulness or an instance of it. For our purposes we’ll focus on the first part of Merriam’s definition and say that if you’re in a committed relationship and engage in ANY behavior that proves unfaithful to your partner you are showing signs of infidelity. Many individuals engaging in infidelity will attribute their act(s) as justified for one reason or another. Ultimately, here’s the bottom line – As responsible and mature adults there is NEVER a justifiable reason for infidelity. That said, the cause for infidelity boils down to one central point – the inability to openly communicate issues with your partner. The issues can range from sexual dissatisfaction, boredom or simply refusing to accept responsibility for your actions. Outside of rape, ALL cases of infidelity can be prevented. FARCE: Those who participate in affairs outside of their relationships are sometimes diluted into believing that they are above discovery. The cheating party will sometimes reason that the affair is a short-term fix for a long-term problem and that no one is aware of their clandestine activities. Unfortunately, affairs are initially recognized but ignored by the betrayed partner who will sometimes reason away glaring clues to an affair. Additionally, some betrayed partners willfully accept cheating in an effort to keep an otherwise “good” relationship. In the end, the cheater is normally the last to recognize that everyone is aware of their activities. KARMA/TRUTH: Long story short, what goes around really does come around. Everyone will pay for their acts of betrayal and disloyalty in THIS lifetime. The hard-fast rule of how-you-get-your-partner-is-how-you-lose-him, always applies. Someone who meets you while in a relationship will more than likely repeat this behavior while engaging in a relationship with you. CONCLUSION: If you’re in a relationship, you should communicate with your partner – including when you’re feeling tempted or flirted-with by others. Your partner can sometimes help put things in perspective – this may even heat up things in the bedroom (there’s nothing more attractive than others finding your mate attractive!) Never start one relationship without ending another. Betrayal and disloyalty only serve to demean, degrade and devalue you, regardless of why you chose to do it. If you’re single, you should note that anyone willing to engage in a relationship with you while in a committed relationship will 1)more than likely not leave their partner for you and 2)if you manage to land them, they’ll do the same to you. Knowingly choosing to be the man/woman on the side completely removes all dignity from you as a person and places you in second position to the other party. FOOTNOTE: Openly dating and open relationships do not fall into the infidelity category, since all parties are aware of the entire situation and can make informed, conscious decisions. Never attempt an open relationship or open dating if you are ultimately seeking to convert your partner into a committed, closed relationship – you’ll only be disappointed and humiliated. Well, LLL, hope this helps folks answer your questions.
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